What鈥檚 your advice to gay men who get married?

Married to a woman.What鈥檚 your advice to gay men who get married?
I don't think there is much to say if the marriage has already taken place!





If it hasn't then I think your only choice is to come out to her and call it off.





It makes no sense to marry someone to keep up appearances.





It may be hard to call of the wedding...but it's better to do it now rather than wait and have to divorce or annul later. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for her, she deserves someone who can love her fully.





Hope that helps





MatthewWhat鈥檚 your advice to gay men who get married?
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Before or after the fact ?





Anyway, unless the guy was a very close friend and he solicited my advice, I wouldn't give any. There are so many deep, personal reasons why some men choose to keep their homosexuality a secret and go on to marry and have a family. It's not my place to judge or even give ';advice'; except perhaps ';do what you need to do'; .





Cheers.
In the first place if you are Gay you should not get married to a woman. You are heading for certain disaster. Sooner or later trouble is going to start. Most important is not to bring any children into the situation. when trouble starts, and it will, the child is in the middle of the whole mess. Everyone involved suffers for a long time to come. I know, been there and done that.
Honey if you want to marry a women and she knows your Gay,,,go for it..but..if you are pretending to be straight....STOP!! I am old enough to remember gay men doing this a lot and its never pretty...I feel so bad for these women who are used for this purpose..its totally disgusting and wrong but men had to do this to save themselves from their family's that used to just throw them away when they knew they were gay....todays world their is no reason for this...come to Massachusetts and marry a man!
Don't do it, it causes alot of unhappiness for everyone involved.
Stop denying who you are and embrace it!
Make sure both parties have a real understanding of what is going on in the marriage.





Marriages of convenience, like arranged marriages, can be ideal solutions to personal issues, but only if the people involved are honest to each other and honest to themselves about what their expectations are.





No relationship based on lies can be truly fulfilling.





Good luck! :-)
Is that called bi-sexual ?
';Dont bring diseases home';
If it makes you happy go for it...and that maybe your not really gay if you feel inlove with a woman?
divorce the woman, tell her why, and GO FER IT!