Men, what advice would you give to a woman reentering the arena of dating, after a long marriage?

If you are looking for a relationship, then just let it come naturally. Don't rush it, don't hope for it to happen within a given time period.


If you are looking for sex, then that's another story. You don't really need to date for that.Men, what advice would you give to a woman reentering the arena of dating, after a long marriage?
don't rush, take your time, observe the scenery. learn who is who before you send any signals. signals like i am available.





very likely lots of things have changed since your last hunted.





you need to be aware of what's current in the marketplace. talk to the girl friends etc.





health is really important, so be careful.





armed with good information, you can make good decisions.





you need to discuss your changed situation with your children.


they may have a problem with a strange man hanging around mon. if you have sons this could be especially difficult. same for daughters.





you also need to be careful with strangers around your children.





take your time and ease into your new role. you don't want to wind up absent from home all of a sudden especially with the ex not around.





try to have good relations with the ex, if possible. even though you are not together any more there could be an explosion if he sees you with someone new. this could inspire him to do something spiteful.





try not to antoginize him, feeling for ';my wife, my woman'; can continue to run very very very deep even after the separation.





never tell him about a new person. if the situation comes up say something like; '; i really hardly know this person, i have enough problems to deal with';





never tell him; '; my new man is much better than you. he is like a damn horse, he is moving my inards around etc.';, this could send feelings into the volcanic area.





no doubt you have heard about ex spouse's doing awful inexplicable things. its often times hurtful things that are said. words can cut like a knife.





best wishes and good luck.Men, what advice would you give to a woman reentering the arena of dating, after a long marriage?
Go to church. Stay away from the bars.
Try not to be jaded, or bitter cynical about men, dating in general. There's some understandable, and unavoidable 'baggage' (we all have it, so it's not a criticism), but viewing everything through the lense of the past is going to create alot of self-fulfilling prophesies. It's tough for us NOT to view and compare prospects to our past relationships.
First and foremost, make sure you're ready to start dating again. And if you have children, make sure they're cool with the idea.





If that's all established, then set your standards. You've been through love and heartbreak, so don't set yourself up for another downfall by going for those typical men in bars or clubs. During marriage, I assume that whole concept just fades to black (I've never been married, only 20 years old). So try going to places that attract men that meet your standards. Like smart guys? Go to Internet cafes or bookstores. Like sports fans? Go to a sports game. Like the musically inclined? Go to concerts that fit the criteria of music YOU like. Look for men that fit your interests and standards, and are willing to be with you after they know about your long marriage. It may be a little harder now more than ever, but its still not impossible. Do what you used to do. How did you attract your ex-husband? Will it work again? Think of it as a football playbook. Execute some old moves, but cook up some new ones as well. Good luck, and happy dating.
don't give your self up easily. make men earn your attention.
Be open.