but then get upset if a woman offers advice?Why do men give advice when a woman just wants to talk,?
most men see it that if u are talking u are asking for help with something, they think if they fix the problem u will stop talking about it. but when it comes to there problems they just want to get it out and have some one listen, and any advise especially practical makes them feel stupid.Why do men give advice when a woman just wants to talk,?
because women don't give advice they give hate
Friday, January 8, 2010
Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Ok I am a 21 year old female and I am mainly attracted to married men. I have had an affair with one before and I realize that was a bad thing to do. I am attracted to men in their older 20's to mid 30's and I feel like if a guy is single, there must be a reason why he is single... maybe because no girl wants him? I dont know.. its kinda weird but I dont want to think like this anymore and I need some advice. I feel like older men are better in all departments and can do better than a guy my age would. I just find married men so sexy. Any advice?Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
There are three iron-clad rules I follow:
1. I do not drink and drive.
2. I go before I leave the house.
3. I never mess(ed) with married men.
Pay attention, child. Following the above will guarantee you do not get into situations you'll regret.Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
It sounds like you have a narrow definition of what makes a man attractive. You said that if a man is single, then there must be a reason he is single. Did it ever occur to you that maybe the reason he's single is because he hasn't met you?
If you can attract married men, you can definitely attract single men. If you deny a guy who's single, and deliberately choose a to be with a married guy, then you're not helping yourself or single guys at all. Expand your definition of what you consider attractive. I can understand why you like older men. There are quite a few older men who are single, attractive, and available. I don't want some jealous wife to bury a meat cleaver in your forehead. It would be a waste of a beautiful woman.....you.
Married men are great the same way other people's children are great. You get to play with them when they're happy and someone else has to deal with them when they're not.
The problem is, you have to share. He's committed to someone else, and if he did leave his wife you'd get the bad along with the good.
It's much better to find someone single. A lot of men are still single at 30 because they've been working at their careers, so they're not only available, they're pretty eligible too.
I agree with a lot of others. Its probably because you feel jealous of the girl that has him, and even though you cant admit it to yourself, one of the main reasons you want him is just to prove to yourself that you could get him. You feel attracted probably because you want to try to do everything in your power to get him, even though its probably impossible. Dont worry, everyone has that problem though, people are always attracted to people in a relationship.
Why do you find maried men so sexy?...im sure their are plenty of sexy single men out there..one reason you should stop being attracted to married men is bc you one day may want to get married...and im sure you don't want some young chick trying to get with your husband...
but you are young so it may just be a phase you are going through...
put it like this married men are not leaving their wives for you or anyone else...you will just be considered his side piece and thats it...no matter what he tells you...
find you a nice single man...i promise there are many of them available...and just bc a man is single doesn't mean something is wrong with him...it just means he is single.
It's the idea of temptation. You really can't have the married man, and that's what makes him so attractive. If he's single, who cares, what's the challenge in that? But the married guy, ';Now let's see if I can get him interested in me.';
At the risk of sounding like Dr. Phil, I don't think it makes you a bad person, but just becareful what your actions may cause. They will hurt you, the guy, and his wife, and family.
If you're attracted to older guys....fine. But to only be attracted to men who have made commitments elsewhere is irresponsible and disrespectful on your part. But karma is a wonderful thing - so perhaps, one day when you find your perfect man, some little tart will lure him away from you. Good luck...
They call this ';golddigging';, which means you are looking for flings that cause families to wreck and cause you to have children with fathers who belong to someone else. Generally, golddiggers are looked down upon by their families and by society and are condemned.
Get a job and look for some one your own age.
I have nothing but contempt for women like you. Perhaps you like being used? Or you enjoy being a homewrecker? Whatever your issue is, get over it and find your own man.
nice try justifying but the inescapable reason is because they're emotionally unavailable (probably no different than your dear old dad).
Because you want something you can't have?
Cause having something your told you cant is sexy. Same reason why that Eve Chick Took that apple.
Enjoy the fun.
Because you're a dirty whore.
The more my doctor tells me to refrain from red meat the more I want to fire up the grill.
STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND!
nope, no advice, but have fun.
There are a few reasons a woman prefers older married men.
They are safer. They already have a woman so you know inside they will not be asking for fidelity or faithfulness.
This means you can have your 'romance' all the while knowing its not going to lead anywhere you don't want to go.
Have you ever thought that what you are attracted to is the bad boy? After all, if hes playing around on his wife, there must be a reason he has chosen to be unfaithful.
That's not being better in all departments in my book.
One of the other reasons is the father complex.
Another reason is money, they have it, newbies just out of school don't.
When you are ready for a real, loving relationship, you may choose an older man, but not a married one. Way too much drama there, and he may already have kids and not want more. Or you may not want a ready made family.
When you do marry, you will have a very different opinion of men who play around, you can trust me on that one.
Easy! You're afraid of commitment. You see the married men as no strings attached. If he's in his late 20's to early 30's he's more than likely a professional (settled in a career), He's more experienced at love making, and he probably doesn't have the money woe's that most guys your age do. I can only say this because I've seen women like you time and time again. You think you're being smart by picking the guy that can give you everything you want less the serious commitment, and then you later get ';caught up'; with this guy because you catch feelings for him, or you have a kid with him.
My advice to you (as a woman in a serious relationship with a man) would be to stop while you're ahead. Before your life of fun comes to a halt with child support and custody cases, and a psycho wife driving cross country with adult dippers on looking for you. Leave the married men a lone and find a guy your age that's not attached. Learn from the experiences you have with him so that when you do find that special someone you appreciate him more. A part of being young is experiencing the heart aches that help us grow into women and men. Learn from those bad relationships so that you and the man you chose to say ';I do'; too can make good on the union you celebrate in. Remember, what goes around comes around, what you give you will receive (10 fold).
So are you attracted to married men or is it that you see him as some sort of challenge to you? Sort of the forbidden fruit. Maybe you enjoy seeing how far you can take things with these men, believe me after a while it will lose it's appeal. You are not going to find a relationship with someone who is married to someone else. It's all good that you like older men, but you should stick to older, single, men. Don't be a home wrecker, it's going to end up getting back to you in the end. You shouldn't stereo type single men either. Have you ever been single? Does this mean that no guy wants you? I think that I would think about what you are really doing when you go after these men. Just my opinion. Have a good one.
There are three iron-clad rules I follow:
1. I do not drink and drive.
2. I go before I leave the house.
3. I never mess(ed) with married men.
Pay attention, child. Following the above will guarantee you do not get into situations you'll regret.Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
It sounds like you have a narrow definition of what makes a man attractive. You said that if a man is single, then there must be a reason he is single. Did it ever occur to you that maybe the reason he's single is because he hasn't met you?
If you can attract married men, you can definitely attract single men. If you deny a guy who's single, and deliberately choose a to be with a married guy, then you're not helping yourself or single guys at all. Expand your definition of what you consider attractive. I can understand why you like older men. There are quite a few older men who are single, attractive, and available. I don't want some jealous wife to bury a meat cleaver in your forehead. It would be a waste of a beautiful woman.....you.
Married men are great the same way other people's children are great. You get to play with them when they're happy and someone else has to deal with them when they're not.
The problem is, you have to share. He's committed to someone else, and if he did leave his wife you'd get the bad along with the good.
It's much better to find someone single. A lot of men are still single at 30 because they've been working at their careers, so they're not only available, they're pretty eligible too.
I agree with a lot of others. Its probably because you feel jealous of the girl that has him, and even though you cant admit it to yourself, one of the main reasons you want him is just to prove to yourself that you could get him. You feel attracted probably because you want to try to do everything in your power to get him, even though its probably impossible. Dont worry, everyone has that problem though, people are always attracted to people in a relationship.
Why do you find maried men so sexy?...im sure their are plenty of sexy single men out there..one reason you should stop being attracted to married men is bc you one day may want to get married...and im sure you don't want some young chick trying to get with your husband...
but you are young so it may just be a phase you are going through...
put it like this married men are not leaving their wives for you or anyone else...you will just be considered his side piece and thats it...no matter what he tells you...
find you a nice single man...i promise there are many of them available...and just bc a man is single doesn't mean something is wrong with him...it just means he is single.
It's the idea of temptation. You really can't have the married man, and that's what makes him so attractive. If he's single, who cares, what's the challenge in that? But the married guy, ';Now let's see if I can get him interested in me.';
At the risk of sounding like Dr. Phil, I don't think it makes you a bad person, but just becareful what your actions may cause. They will hurt you, the guy, and his wife, and family.
If you're attracted to older guys....fine. But to only be attracted to men who have made commitments elsewhere is irresponsible and disrespectful on your part. But karma is a wonderful thing - so perhaps, one day when you find your perfect man, some little tart will lure him away from you. Good luck...
They call this ';golddigging';, which means you are looking for flings that cause families to wreck and cause you to have children with fathers who belong to someone else. Generally, golddiggers are looked down upon by their families and by society and are condemned.
Get a job and look for some one your own age.
I have nothing but contempt for women like you. Perhaps you like being used? Or you enjoy being a homewrecker? Whatever your issue is, get over it and find your own man.
nice try justifying but the inescapable reason is because they're emotionally unavailable (probably no different than your dear old dad).
Because you want something you can't have?
Cause having something your told you cant is sexy. Same reason why that Eve Chick Took that apple.
Enjoy the fun.
Because you're a dirty whore.
The more my doctor tells me to refrain from red meat the more I want to fire up the grill.
STAY AWAY FROM MY HUSBAND!
nope, no advice, but have fun.
There are a few reasons a woman prefers older married men.
They are safer. They already have a woman so you know inside they will not be asking for fidelity or faithfulness.
This means you can have your 'romance' all the while knowing its not going to lead anywhere you don't want to go.
Have you ever thought that what you are attracted to is the bad boy? After all, if hes playing around on his wife, there must be a reason he has chosen to be unfaithful.
That's not being better in all departments in my book.
One of the other reasons is the father complex.
Another reason is money, they have it, newbies just out of school don't.
When you are ready for a real, loving relationship, you may choose an older man, but not a married one. Way too much drama there, and he may already have kids and not want more. Or you may not want a ready made family.
When you do marry, you will have a very different opinion of men who play around, you can trust me on that one.
Easy! You're afraid of commitment. You see the married men as no strings attached. If he's in his late 20's to early 30's he's more than likely a professional (settled in a career), He's more experienced at love making, and he probably doesn't have the money woe's that most guys your age do. I can only say this because I've seen women like you time and time again. You think you're being smart by picking the guy that can give you everything you want less the serious commitment, and then you later get ';caught up'; with this guy because you catch feelings for him, or you have a kid with him.
My advice to you (as a woman in a serious relationship with a man) would be to stop while you're ahead. Before your life of fun comes to a halt with child support and custody cases, and a psycho wife driving cross country with adult dippers on looking for you. Leave the married men a lone and find a guy your age that's not attached. Learn from the experiences you have with him so that when you do find that special someone you appreciate him more. A part of being young is experiencing the heart aches that help us grow into women and men. Learn from those bad relationships so that you and the man you chose to say ';I do'; too can make good on the union you celebrate in. Remember, what goes around comes around, what you give you will receive (10 fold).
So are you attracted to married men or is it that you see him as some sort of challenge to you? Sort of the forbidden fruit. Maybe you enjoy seeing how far you can take things with these men, believe me after a while it will lose it's appeal. You are not going to find a relationship with someone who is married to someone else. It's all good that you like older men, but you should stick to older, single, men. Don't be a home wrecker, it's going to end up getting back to you in the end. You shouldn't stereo type single men either. Have you ever been single? Does this mean that no guy wants you? I think that I would think about what you are really doing when you go after these men. Just my opinion. Have a good one.
Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
ok, so today, i'm in barnes and noble, asking about my account when a man i had noticed a few minutes earlier happens to approach the desk and says to me, ';killer boots.'; (i was wearing ankle high stilettos). i laughed and said, ';thank you. they make me taller.'; the lady behind the desk asked my e-mail address so that she could look up my account. by that time, the man was on the other side of the desk, waiting his turn. i gave her the address, walked off and continued to shop for books. when i arrived home a few hours later, there was an e-mail waiting for me that said exactly this: ';if a man overhears your e-mail address at barnes and noble and writes to you, is that considered stalking;)?'; now, the guy seemed like a normal, successful, slightly older guy, a little gray hair, but not OLD, OLD. the question is: is this something i should ignore and be concerned about OR should i even consider the thought of e-mailing back to see what the scoop is with the guy?Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
I'd avoid it. That's creepy...
If he was in line behind you at Starbucks and you tell the cashier how much you like blueberry muffins, then a few minutes later he shows up with a muffin, okay fine. He's not taking your personal information for his own use, he's just buying a muffin and being nice.
Moreso, he didn't even talk to you much; he just commented on your shoes. Then he keeps your personal info? That crosses the line. The fact that his off-color joke about ';stalking'; isn't evn funny - rather that it's realistic - should send up a red flag.
He could be a good guy but he's gonna miss out this time because he doesn't know how to approach women. If your ex seemed normal, imagine how a guy would be if he seemed crazy! Even crazier??
I'd email him back and say that he was in NO position to email you because you didn't tell the information to him. Add that he shouldn't try to contact you again.
In case he does anything weird, just keep the emails, just to be safe.
Good luck!!Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
I would say proceed with caution but I don't see why you couldn't just e-mail the guy back to see what he's all about. Just make sure you don't give him any personal information like where you live, where you work, your phone number, or your last name especially since he lives obviously so close to you.
Anyways, just be cautious about what you talk about to him in the e-mail and don't believe everything he tells you. Good luck and be safe.
That is kind of freaky. You know nothing about him and he thought it would be ok to overhear your email address and actually send you an e-mail. Now he knows your first and last name. Don't respond because you might open a door that should remain closed. Next he might think it's ok to search you name for an address and then just casually show up at your door! Block him and hope you don't run into him again.
my honest opinion is that that is weird he should have asked when he had the chance but it can always end up with a happily ever after like tho's romantic comedies
but if you're way young compare to him he's a creep
and yeah you could reply but if you two meet meet in a public place starbucks and don't go off later with him lunch is a good time cause its bright outside and be careful always keep your cell phone near
well...you have to move on and take a new breath...
what's so wrong just to e-mail him back?
he just know your e-mail, not your house address, so if by any chance you don't like him, just said 'good-bye' via e-mail...hohohohohoho...
it's true that you have to be careful...but not every man just twisted like your ex-husband,
just try to e-mail back, and see what happen next...
n_n
Why did he have to do a burglary of you conversation with the clerk. Sure the comment was great,but why be sneaky with the e-mail. come on be brave and say can i have you e-mail or phone # or give his and say call me.If you want to meet him do it in a public place or don't take the chance. There's some crazy crazy people out there
It's totally up to you. I mean, just because your ex was flakey doesn't necessarily mean this guy is. Maybe you could meet somewhere for dinner and just get to know each other. That way if you don't like him, there doesn't have to be a second date and he doesn't know where you live or anything.
What this scenario tells you about the guy in B %26amp; N is that he realizes that his behavior might be a little threatening but he has the gonads to take chances (how far do you get in life without them?)
The only question remaining is: Do you have the gonads to answer his e-mail?
If you're interested, take a chance. You only live once.
But I'd give the same advice I'd give to anyone going on a blind date: make sure you meet in a public place where you can easily get away if any alarm bells ring. Have your cell phone with you, and enough money to cover your meal and a taxi if the worst comes to the worst!
Oh yeah a guy over hears your email and takes the initiative to email you an icebreaker type email just to see if there is any room for possible interaction. Hmmm quick call the FBI he must be a terrorist or Sex offender or something don't ya think? Get real good for him to make a move.
Definitely don't base this guy off your past experience with your ex, that doesn't seem fair. I think what you should do should be based solely upon your impression of this guy. Are you interested in him? Want to get to know him more? If you are you should email him back.
It does seem strange... talk to him if you're interested, but don't give him any personal information (first name only). You can always block him later. If you don't want to talk to him though then don't. Follow your instincts.
its not HOW you met a guy thats gonna tell you if he's a looney or not. if your curious then check him out, if not then dont. simple...
either way...get to know a guy profusely (if possible) before you marry them, if possible.
sometimes older guys may think that stuff like that is funny, but I would ask yourself ';Can I live without hearing what this guy has to say';, if the answer is yes, why chance it.
Just because someone hits on you in a public place doesn't mean he's a psychopath. If your interested respond, if not don't. You don't have to marry the guy.
watch this vid it will help you with everything you need to know
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgIom5rIS鈥?/a>
i dont kno. he could be some crazyy killer. just dont be jumpy and give any clues on where u live or where u go or anyway he can find you. you can tell one thng he is interested in and its sex..
I WOULD JUST EMAIL BACK. IT'S ONLY THROUGH EMAIL AND IF YOU LIKE WHAT YOU READ THEN MABEY TAKE IT FURTHER IF NOT THENREPLY AN TELL HIM THAT HE TOTALLY VIOLATED!
If you are semi interested in this man then why not take a shot? Now that you have experience with lying men you'll know what to look for!
If you have no interest, then definitely don't respond
If you might, just email back and see where it goes.
Sounds like the beginning to a Jackie Collins novel.
It depends on if you like him???? Stranger things have happened. ANd half of the world is bi-polar from what Ive learned LOL
take a chance...u dont live forever
Go for it,
Ignore the hell out of him dont respond and if u can change ur email address
okay A) that is creepy. and B) what's wrong with bipolar?
Wow, you've got to be a little flattered by that. A guy taking such exceptional notice of you to the point that he eavesdrops to find out more? Girls use that tactic all the time and if our crushes ever found out the lengths we went to find out more about them, it would be considered stalking too!
Just try to remember your initial reaction when he commented on your boots. If your creep radar didn't start going crazy, he's probably just a normal guy interested in you. And his little email was probably his way of getting the stalking thing out in the open so as to assure you that he's totally aware that his moves are a little less than orthodox.
If you think you might be interested, go ahead and reply! You don't have to give any personal information, you can keep your distance, and you can gauge his personality based on your exchanges. It's really a personal preference, but look for good grammar, spelling, and punctuation... that will tell your right away if it's even worth having an intelligent conversation with this guy. Also if he's overtly sexual or flirty,
you might want to pass if you're not into casual encounters.
But if you don't want to pursue it all, whether you emailed him back or not, realize you're under no obligation to even respond. Emails are pretty harmless. I'd say go for it (with caution as always).female mask
I'd avoid it. That's creepy...
If he was in line behind you at Starbucks and you tell the cashier how much you like blueberry muffins, then a few minutes later he shows up with a muffin, okay fine. He's not taking your personal information for his own use, he's just buying a muffin and being nice.
Moreso, he didn't even talk to you much; he just commented on your shoes. Then he keeps your personal info? That crosses the line. The fact that his off-color joke about ';stalking'; isn't evn funny - rather that it's realistic - should send up a red flag.
He could be a good guy but he's gonna miss out this time because he doesn't know how to approach women. If your ex seemed normal, imagine how a guy would be if he seemed crazy! Even crazier??
I'd email him back and say that he was in NO position to email you because you didn't tell the information to him. Add that he shouldn't try to contact you again.
In case he does anything weird, just keep the emails, just to be safe.
Good luck!!Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
I would say proceed with caution but I don't see why you couldn't just e-mail the guy back to see what he's all about. Just make sure you don't give him any personal information like where you live, where you work, your phone number, or your last name especially since he lives obviously so close to you.
Anyways, just be cautious about what you talk about to him in the e-mail and don't believe everything he tells you. Good luck and be safe.
That is kind of freaky. You know nothing about him and he thought it would be ok to overhear your email address and actually send you an e-mail. Now he knows your first and last name. Don't respond because you might open a door that should remain closed. Next he might think it's ok to search you name for an address and then just casually show up at your door! Block him and hope you don't run into him again.
my honest opinion is that that is weird he should have asked when he had the chance but it can always end up with a happily ever after like tho's romantic comedies
but if you're way young compare to him he's a creep
and yeah you could reply but if you two meet meet in a public place starbucks and don't go off later with him lunch is a good time cause its bright outside and be careful always keep your cell phone near
well...you have to move on and take a new breath...
what's so wrong just to e-mail him back?
he just know your e-mail, not your house address, so if by any chance you don't like him, just said 'good-bye' via e-mail...hohohohohoho...
it's true that you have to be careful...but not every man just twisted like your ex-husband,
just try to e-mail back, and see what happen next...
n_n
Why did he have to do a burglary of you conversation with the clerk. Sure the comment was great,but why be sneaky with the e-mail. come on be brave and say can i have you e-mail or phone # or give his and say call me.If you want to meet him do it in a public place or don't take the chance. There's some crazy crazy people out there
It's totally up to you. I mean, just because your ex was flakey doesn't necessarily mean this guy is. Maybe you could meet somewhere for dinner and just get to know each other. That way if you don't like him, there doesn't have to be a second date and he doesn't know where you live or anything.
What this scenario tells you about the guy in B %26amp; N is that he realizes that his behavior might be a little threatening but he has the gonads to take chances (how far do you get in life without them?)
The only question remaining is: Do you have the gonads to answer his e-mail?
If you're interested, take a chance. You only live once.
But I'd give the same advice I'd give to anyone going on a blind date: make sure you meet in a public place where you can easily get away if any alarm bells ring. Have your cell phone with you, and enough money to cover your meal and a taxi if the worst comes to the worst!
Oh yeah a guy over hears your email and takes the initiative to email you an icebreaker type email just to see if there is any room for possible interaction. Hmmm quick call the FBI he must be a terrorist or Sex offender or something don't ya think? Get real good for him to make a move.
Definitely don't base this guy off your past experience with your ex, that doesn't seem fair. I think what you should do should be based solely upon your impression of this guy. Are you interested in him? Want to get to know him more? If you are you should email him back.
It does seem strange... talk to him if you're interested, but don't give him any personal information (first name only). You can always block him later. If you don't want to talk to him though then don't. Follow your instincts.
its not HOW you met a guy thats gonna tell you if he's a looney or not. if your curious then check him out, if not then dont. simple...
either way...get to know a guy profusely (if possible) before you marry them, if possible.
sometimes older guys may think that stuff like that is funny, but I would ask yourself ';Can I live without hearing what this guy has to say';, if the answer is yes, why chance it.
Just because someone hits on you in a public place doesn't mean he's a psychopath. If your interested respond, if not don't. You don't have to marry the guy.
watch this vid it will help you with everything you need to know
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgIom5rIS鈥?/a>
i dont kno. he could be some crazyy killer. just dont be jumpy and give any clues on where u live or where u go or anyway he can find you. you can tell one thng he is interested in and its sex..
I WOULD JUST EMAIL BACK. IT'S ONLY THROUGH EMAIL AND IF YOU LIKE WHAT YOU READ THEN MABEY TAKE IT FURTHER IF NOT THENREPLY AN TELL HIM THAT HE TOTALLY VIOLATED!
If you are semi interested in this man then why not take a shot? Now that you have experience with lying men you'll know what to look for!
If you have no interest, then definitely don't respond
If you might, just email back and see where it goes.
Sounds like the beginning to a Jackie Collins novel.
It depends on if you like him???? Stranger things have happened. ANd half of the world is bi-polar from what Ive learned LOL
take a chance...u dont live forever
Go for it,
Ignore the hell out of him dont respond and if u can change ur email address
okay A) that is creepy. and B) what's wrong with bipolar?
Wow, you've got to be a little flattered by that. A guy taking such exceptional notice of you to the point that he eavesdrops to find out more? Girls use that tactic all the time and if our crushes ever found out the lengths we went to find out more about them, it would be considered stalking too!
Just try to remember your initial reaction when he commented on your boots. If your creep radar didn't start going crazy, he's probably just a normal guy interested in you. And his little email was probably his way of getting the stalking thing out in the open so as to assure you that he's totally aware that his moves are a little less than orthodox.
If you think you might be interested, go ahead and reply! You don't have to give any personal information, you can keep your distance, and you can gauge his personality based on your exchanges. It's really a personal preference, but look for good grammar, spelling, and punctuation... that will tell your right away if it's even worth having an intelligent conversation with this guy. Also if he's overtly sexual or flirty,
you might want to pass if you're not into casual encounters.
But if you don't want to pursue it all, whether you emailed him back or not, realize you're under no obligation to even respond. Emails are pretty harmless. I'd say go for it (with caution as always).
Which one is a good reliable website where they give advice for men to talk to women?
THere are so many but what are the best ones?Which one is a good reliable website where they give advice for men to talk to women?
www.doubleyourdating.com
David DeAngelo's teachings are a good place to get started. He's a bit wordy, but his free newsletter (top left) is excellent.
www.mysterymethod.com
--He has great stuff. The stuff is a bit pricey, but the forum links can help you get started without a lot of money up front. The forum has its own lingo, so be prepared for a learning curve.Which one is a good reliable website where they give advice for men to talk to women?
www.etop.co.ug
www.doubleyourdating.com
David DeAngelo's teachings are a good place to get started. He's a bit wordy, but his free newsletter (top left) is excellent.
www.mysterymethod.com
--He has great stuff. The stuff is a bit pricey, but the forum links can help you get started without a lot of money up front. The forum has its own lingo, so be prepared for a learning curve.Which one is a good reliable website where they give advice for men to talk to women?
www.etop.co.ug
Everyone i need your advice men especially..? about intercourse?
i was a virgin till yesterday and ive done it with my boyfriend 3 times now...he says that each time it really hurts him but its also the best he has ever had,,he wasnt a virgin btw. he wont tell me why its hurting him. is it something im doing wrong?? i really want to know so i can help. also what do guy really like i know your all different but what turns you on, gets you goin??
thanks in advance,Everyone i need your advice men especially..? about intercourse?
ask your dadEveryone i need your advice men especially..? about intercourse?
It hurts him more than it hurts you? You have done 3 times within one day, I doubt being tight is the main reason already. I bet he wasn't stiff enough. So, when you moved, it twisted his thing. Let him lay on the bed, you sit on him. Just lift up your bottom very slowly and sit down very slowly. Do that repeatedly. When you both are okay with that, speed up a little. While you are sitting on top, use both of your hands to pull your hair to your back, so he has a nice view of you. That normallly turns the guys on.
Ight here is what i think. It might be your *area* is just a little more tight then other girls(A+) and everytime he hits its, it hurts but no worrys. And try for play on his *** that usually works*like play driver and driver* ur the driver he is the driver u hit in a accident. play like u just hit him and he mad and he asks for insurance, but you don't have it and you asks if there is anyway he stop asking for it. I hope your get my drift. lol And Surprise you bf. Like when he visits be in a ninja outfit punch his *** in the chest and throw him on the bed and do what u do. And when he comes over he will probably look for a different costume next.(Like i use to look for when a girl did that to me)
FIRST OFF..DONT LISTEN TO ';ELEPHANT LOVE';...THAT PERSON IS AN IDIOT....USE CONDOMS....YOUR PROBABLY NOT WET ENOUGH AND MAYBE HE NEEDS TO GET IT WETTER SO HE SLIDES BETTER....SINCE HE WASNT A VIRGIN, AND TO PREVENT DISEASE AND UNWANTED OR NEEDED PREGNANCY...ALWAYS MAKE HIM WEAR A CONDOM....MEN ARENT LIKE WOMEN, AND THEY WILL STICK IT WHEREVER A WHORE LETS THEM (NOT CALLING YOU A WHORE)....SO ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU ALSO LOVE YOURSELF!
TURN ONS: KISSING NECK, EARS, JUST KISSING, LICKING NIPPLES, GENTLY SUCKING NIPPLES....AND OTHER STUFF, YOU HAVE TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HE LIKES...IF HE ONLY SAYS SOME STUFF, THEN GET CREATIVE AND SHOW HIM A GOOD TIME!! GOOD LUCK!!
So the guy who took your virginity is a liar? Is that right?
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH - my girlfriend is too tight...
That is such a crock to keep you having sex with him and having the complex you now have. Guys are so cruel.
talk to him as it is going on; maybe get him to finger you first to get you a bit wet/loosened up and then it wouldn't be as hurtful, also, try using lubrication, , i know from experience that guys like being pulled, and played with, try fore play to loosen up.
No offense, but that's an...interetsinq question. her's what i would suqqest: Gooqle It, Talk to your mom / dad / sister / brother someone you can actually talk about that stuff with. Why are you havinq sex anyways? That's just wronq, in my opinion. Good luckk!
Yeah its cause you`re tight and you need to be more wet!
and use a condom! dont listen to that dumbassss who said dont!
Cause even if he plus out you can still get pregnant or who knows he could have an std. I mean he probably doesnt! but its better to be safe then sorry!!!
:)
You're Probably Not Wet Enough. Increase The Foreplay And/Or Use Lubrication. That's Probably Your Problem. And For My Boyfriend, When I Kiss %26amp; Suck His Neck It Really Turns Him On. Just Experiment With Him And Pay Attention To How He Reacts To The Things Yu Do.
try using lube. it will make it more lubercated and if you are useing a condom try not using one and just have him pull out. sometimes ppl are allergic to condoms both men and women, its good to try without one.
is your boyfriend uncircumcised? because it matters a lot since the skin is being pulled because your tight..you have to be really wet before he enters
WHY must you talk about it here. Seriously. Don't you have a blog. BLOG ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ask your friends!
it's probably because you're tight.
tell him ';you're welcome'; LOL
it hurts him probaly because your dry or you are doing it to hard and wat turns guys on are wen girls get naked or freaky
Well, def. don't go with the 'pull out' method. Its not effective.
Try using lube maybe or dif. condoms?
Uh!! that means your tight.
lol when you dont have sex for long periods of times
you vagina tightens up
because your tight
thanks in advance,Everyone i need your advice men especially..? about intercourse?
ask your dadEveryone i need your advice men especially..? about intercourse?
It hurts him more than it hurts you? You have done 3 times within one day, I doubt being tight is the main reason already. I bet he wasn't stiff enough. So, when you moved, it twisted his thing. Let him lay on the bed, you sit on him. Just lift up your bottom very slowly and sit down very slowly. Do that repeatedly. When you both are okay with that, speed up a little. While you are sitting on top, use both of your hands to pull your hair to your back, so he has a nice view of you. That normallly turns the guys on.
Ight here is what i think. It might be your *area* is just a little more tight then other girls(A+) and everytime he hits its, it hurts but no worrys. And try for play on his *** that usually works*like play driver and driver* ur the driver he is the driver u hit in a accident. play like u just hit him and he mad and he asks for insurance, but you don't have it and you asks if there is anyway he stop asking for it. I hope your get my drift. lol And Surprise you bf. Like when he visits be in a ninja outfit punch his *** in the chest and throw him on the bed and do what u do. And when he comes over he will probably look for a different costume next.(Like i use to look for when a girl did that to me)
FIRST OFF..DONT LISTEN TO ';ELEPHANT LOVE';...THAT PERSON IS AN IDIOT....USE CONDOMS....YOUR PROBABLY NOT WET ENOUGH AND MAYBE HE NEEDS TO GET IT WETTER SO HE SLIDES BETTER....SINCE HE WASNT A VIRGIN, AND TO PREVENT DISEASE AND UNWANTED OR NEEDED PREGNANCY...ALWAYS MAKE HIM WEAR A CONDOM....MEN ARENT LIKE WOMEN, AND THEY WILL STICK IT WHEREVER A WHORE LETS THEM (NOT CALLING YOU A WHORE)....SO ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL UNDERSTAND YOU ALSO LOVE YOURSELF!
TURN ONS: KISSING NECK, EARS, JUST KISSING, LICKING NIPPLES, GENTLY SUCKING NIPPLES....AND OTHER STUFF, YOU HAVE TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HE LIKES...IF HE ONLY SAYS SOME STUFF, THEN GET CREATIVE AND SHOW HIM A GOOD TIME!! GOOD LUCK!!
So the guy who took your virginity is a liar? Is that right?
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH - my girlfriend is too tight...
That is such a crock to keep you having sex with him and having the complex you now have. Guys are so cruel.
talk to him as it is going on; maybe get him to finger you first to get you a bit wet/loosened up and then it wouldn't be as hurtful, also, try using lubrication, , i know from experience that guys like being pulled, and played with, try fore play to loosen up.
No offense, but that's an...interetsinq question. her's what i would suqqest: Gooqle It, Talk to your mom / dad / sister / brother someone you can actually talk about that stuff with. Why are you havinq sex anyways? That's just wronq, in my opinion. Good luckk!
Yeah its cause you`re tight and you need to be more wet!
and use a condom! dont listen to that dumbassss who said dont!
Cause even if he plus out you can still get pregnant or who knows he could have an std. I mean he probably doesnt! but its better to be safe then sorry!!!
:)
You're Probably Not Wet Enough. Increase The Foreplay And/Or Use Lubrication. That's Probably Your Problem. And For My Boyfriend, When I Kiss %26amp; Suck His Neck It Really Turns Him On. Just Experiment With Him And Pay Attention To How He Reacts To The Things Yu Do.
try using lube. it will make it more lubercated and if you are useing a condom try not using one and just have him pull out. sometimes ppl are allergic to condoms both men and women, its good to try without one.
is your boyfriend uncircumcised? because it matters a lot since the skin is being pulled because your tight..you have to be really wet before he enters
WHY must you talk about it here. Seriously. Don't you have a blog. BLOG ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ask your friends!
it's probably because you're tight.
tell him ';you're welcome'; LOL
it hurts him probaly because your dry or you are doing it to hard and wat turns guys on are wen girls get naked or freaky
Well, def. don't go with the 'pull out' method. Its not effective.
Try using lube maybe or dif. condoms?
Uh!! that means your tight.
lol when you dont have sex for long periods of times
you vagina tightens up
because your tight
Why is my gay male friend confusing? gay men advice please?
if you were staight she would be the girl for you? They got really angry and said stop saying that.
This guy comes on to me friend touches her ***, kisses her. tells he is confused about his sexuality. He gets jealous of my boyfriends I am a women and he touches me bum. He leans into me and I can tell he is hard. He says he is gay but looks at women when we go out. Adds hot women he doesn't know on facebook etc. I have other gay friends who don't get angry and they even say if I was straight I would do her they feel more comfortable in their sexuality.
I questioned him on his sexuality, he says being gay is about who you like. I said yes, sexually and who you love and he says it isn't about who you love or the sex?? He was with his boyfriend for one year and says the sex wasn't good and he wasn't in love. He gets drunk and questions his sexuality. If I say a guy is really hot and what I would love to do to him he can get really angry about iWhy is my gay male friend confusing? gay men advice please?
He is probably Bisexual or may.Why is my gay male friend confusing? gay men advice please?
Just don't question him about it if he gets angry over it, and if he starts talking to you about it when he is drunk, tell him you don't wana know about it untill he is sober :]
Your friend isn't confusing, he's confused. This isn't about you, it's about him and his figuring out his sexuality.
This guy comes on to me friend touches her ***, kisses her. tells he is confused about his sexuality. He gets jealous of my boyfriends I am a women and he touches me bum. He leans into me and I can tell he is hard. He says he is gay but looks at women when we go out. Adds hot women he doesn't know on facebook etc. I have other gay friends who don't get angry and they even say if I was straight I would do her they feel more comfortable in their sexuality.
I questioned him on his sexuality, he says being gay is about who you like. I said yes, sexually and who you love and he says it isn't about who you love or the sex?? He was with his boyfriend for one year and says the sex wasn't good and he wasn't in love. He gets drunk and questions his sexuality. If I say a guy is really hot and what I would love to do to him he can get really angry about iWhy is my gay male friend confusing? gay men advice please?
He is probably Bisexual or may.Why is my gay male friend confusing? gay men advice please?
Just don't question him about it if he gets angry over it, and if he starts talking to you about it when he is drunk, tell him you don't wana know about it untill he is sober :]
Your friend isn't confusing, he's confused. This isn't about you, it's about him and his figuring out his sexuality.
I just had a bad date I need Men Advice!?
This guy I kinda thought was nice asked me to hang out with him
this weekend. I waited for his call, he never once phoned. Then on monday he called me and ask me to join him at this bar, I was busy so I called him an hour later and said I'm coming, he said he already left the bar and then he drove back from his house 25 minutes away and come to see me. all he did was walked around the block with me and kept asking me to go to his house. I said no, I do not do one night stands, then he drove away, then he drove back and told me, get in the car, he wants to get a kiss from me, I said no, I said you better get a HIV test and STD teat, he drove away and never called me again. what was that?I just had a bad date I need Men Advice!?
That my dear was a booty call. You did the right thing, the guy was a jerk. You saved yourself a lot of grief (and possibly a sexual assault). Real men don't act like that, although the crack about getting tested may have been a little much.I just had a bad date I need Men Advice!?
I don't blame you. You did the right thing. He is a dang on punk if he wouldn't go get a test. That is one of the first things I tell a guy before I sleep with him. If he wants you he will get his act together. You have more respect for yourself than most women
this weekend. I waited for his call, he never once phoned. Then on monday he called me and ask me to join him at this bar, I was busy so I called him an hour later and said I'm coming, he said he already left the bar and then he drove back from his house 25 minutes away and come to see me. all he did was walked around the block with me and kept asking me to go to his house. I said no, I do not do one night stands, then he drove away, then he drove back and told me, get in the car, he wants to get a kiss from me, I said no, I said you better get a HIV test and STD teat, he drove away and never called me again. what was that?I just had a bad date I need Men Advice!?
That my dear was a booty call. You did the right thing, the guy was a jerk. You saved yourself a lot of grief (and possibly a sexual assault). Real men don't act like that, although the crack about getting tested may have been a little much.I just had a bad date I need Men Advice!?
I don't blame you. You did the right thing. He is a dang on punk if he wouldn't go get a test. That is one of the first things I tell a guy before I sleep with him. If he wants you he will get his act together. You have more respect for yourself than most women
Ladies!! what are some gifts to give to ur man!? men advice needed too!?
im excited about my date with my cop lover.. hes so handsome in his uniform and such comforting outside of his uniform! im falling head over heels and feel like a child at a candy store when I am around him. I want the night to go very smoothly..gosh i want him so bad i cant wait to see him again,
i want to show him how much i like him so much.. should i cook for him? should i bring chocolated covered fruits to his house? ladies what would u do for ur crush/lover/husband!???
men.. would u prefer a nice cooked meal? or a night out for dessert! all help is needed!Ladies!! what are some gifts to give to ur man!? men advice needed too!?
Most men want a nice home cooked meal from their woman.Ladies!! what are some gifts to give to ur man!? men advice needed too!?
cooking is good if youre a decent cook. Meal time should lead to fun time in the sack. chocolate covered fruit is delicious, but probably not the message you want to send.
All in all, just make an evening all about him. Kinda pamper him a little and let him tell you what he wants. Start with a home-cooked meal, maybe get a guy movie, and snuggle on the couch...Thats always a great date for me.
some really good smooth chocolate, some scented warm ';motion lotion'; to try on him, and a note that tells him all the things you think about when you are thinking about him... in a box with some sexy panties that have your perfume sprayed on them..you can write on the box ';any ideas';... If nothing else it will make him smile!
what works for me is dinner and dance for him. My recommended song is Usher ';Bad Girl';. White tank top and shorts ( like Beyonce ';Crazy in Love';) with the red high heel shoes
well i think u shd cook for him coz it ll show him dat u really care for him smthng i think whihc he likes and i think after da dinner u could give hima gift i think a nice swiss watch would be a gud idea!
Give him your special. Take off clothes, turn on candles, soft music, make out!
cook for him. then once desert comes bring exotic foods out. or if you want something kinky and new get a cop uniform it would be sooo funny.
cook for him
cook him sumthin good
as the saying goes
the faster way to a man's heart is through the stomach :)
Show up at his place wearing a long coat -and nothing underneath or sexy lingerie
Cover your body in sushi and have him eat it off of you.
Tell him you've been a bad girl and you want him to arrest you
colonge
bensherman underpants lol
a brand new watch! They love thier watches trutst me!
x
never can go wrong with cologne.
awwwwww... you should make him dinner but cant it be at your place??? it would be more convenient because you would have lots of time to set the table nicly... maybe run him a bath or give him a massage.. i think you should go to the store and get some steaks or pork chops.... make them how you like... make a good saled... and some kind of baked potatoe or something... you can get a box of chocolate and some strawberrys... i think you should cook for him in just your apron... and serve it to him like that too... im sure he's be sooooo happy.... get a little bottle of wine or maybe patron.. depending on if he likes to drink or not.. make a few drinks before and after dinner.. you could take his uniform off and get in the shower... then melt the chocolate and eat strawberrys.. im sure he would have a great time!
Try a scavenger hunt. I did that for my husband before we were married and at each spot there was a little gift or something cute for him and then at the end, there was the big prize. I started by giving him a clue that would lead him to the next clue and so on until he found them all and it was over. He loved it, that I took the time to do it and that I put so much thought into how to do it. He acted like a kid going from clue to clue and seeing all his little prizes. It was very fun. good luck
watches dessert a nice hoome cooked meal maybe u could feed him chocolated covered fruits like u said(if he is freaky ,lol)anyways its nice u are trying to treat him gone head with yo bad self.';but remember its nice that the man treats u as well(im sure he does)make sure u dont spoil him to much and make sure he doesnt get to use to u treating him and he wont forget to spoil and treasure u.';(if the relationship is not that serious yet dont pay any mind to the message in '; ';)
good luck and God blezz u
i want to show him how much i like him so much.. should i cook for him? should i bring chocolated covered fruits to his house? ladies what would u do for ur crush/lover/husband!???
men.. would u prefer a nice cooked meal? or a night out for dessert! all help is needed!Ladies!! what are some gifts to give to ur man!? men advice needed too!?
Most men want a nice home cooked meal from their woman.Ladies!! what are some gifts to give to ur man!? men advice needed too!?
cooking is good if youre a decent cook. Meal time should lead to fun time in the sack. chocolate covered fruit is delicious, but probably not the message you want to send.
All in all, just make an evening all about him. Kinda pamper him a little and let him tell you what he wants. Start with a home-cooked meal, maybe get a guy movie, and snuggle on the couch...Thats always a great date for me.
some really good smooth chocolate, some scented warm ';motion lotion'; to try on him, and a note that tells him all the things you think about when you are thinking about him... in a box with some sexy panties that have your perfume sprayed on them..you can write on the box ';any ideas';... If nothing else it will make him smile!
what works for me is dinner and dance for him. My recommended song is Usher ';Bad Girl';. White tank top and shorts ( like Beyonce ';Crazy in Love';) with the red high heel shoes
well i think u shd cook for him coz it ll show him dat u really care for him smthng i think whihc he likes and i think after da dinner u could give hima gift i think a nice swiss watch would be a gud idea!
Give him your special. Take off clothes, turn on candles, soft music, make out!
cook for him. then once desert comes bring exotic foods out. or if you want something kinky and new get a cop uniform it would be sooo funny.
cook for him
cook him sumthin good
as the saying goes
the faster way to a man's heart is through the stomach :)
Show up at his place wearing a long coat -and nothing underneath or sexy lingerie
Cover your body in sushi and have him eat it off of you.
Tell him you've been a bad girl and you want him to arrest you
colonge
bensherman underpants lol
a brand new watch! They love thier watches trutst me!
x
never can go wrong with cologne.
awwwwww... you should make him dinner but cant it be at your place??? it would be more convenient because you would have lots of time to set the table nicly... maybe run him a bath or give him a massage.. i think you should go to the store and get some steaks or pork chops.... make them how you like... make a good saled... and some kind of baked potatoe or something... you can get a box of chocolate and some strawberrys... i think you should cook for him in just your apron... and serve it to him like that too... im sure he's be sooooo happy.... get a little bottle of wine or maybe patron.. depending on if he likes to drink or not.. make a few drinks before and after dinner.. you could take his uniform off and get in the shower... then melt the chocolate and eat strawberrys.. im sure he would have a great time!
Try a scavenger hunt. I did that for my husband before we were married and at each spot there was a little gift or something cute for him and then at the end, there was the big prize. I started by giving him a clue that would lead him to the next clue and so on until he found them all and it was over. He loved it, that I took the time to do it and that I put so much thought into how to do it. He acted like a kid going from clue to clue and seeing all his little prizes. It was very fun. good luck
watches dessert a nice hoome cooked meal maybe u could feed him chocolated covered fruits like u said(if he is freaky ,lol)anyways its nice u are trying to treat him gone head with yo bad self.';but remember its nice that the man treats u as well(im sure he does)make sure u dont spoil him to much and make sure he doesnt get to use to u treating him and he wont forget to spoil and treasure u.';(if the relationship is not that serious yet dont pay any mind to the message in '; ';)
good luck and God blezz u
Need ADVICE!!! What to when you notice that you are settling for men who arent what you really deserve?
I tend to focus on guys who arent everything i want in a partner, i meet guys who are shy insecure and have major trust issues. this is not what i want but i somehow i feel that by me being with them i can sort of help that get over that. I know its not what i want. Why do you think i do this and what do you think i should do to stop this habit???!!Need ADVICE!!! What to when you notice that you are settling for men who arent what you really deserve?
It feels better to be single than to be with some guy that makes you unhappy. at least you don't have to worry about his insecurities besides yours.female mask
It feels better to be single than to be with some guy that makes you unhappy. at least you don't have to worry about his insecurities besides yours.
Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Ok I am a 21 year old female and I am mainly attracted to married men. I have had an affair with one before and I realize that was a bad thing to do. I am attracted to men in their older 20's to mid 30's and I feel like if a guy is single, there must be a reason why he is single... maybe because no girl wants him? I dont know.. its kinda weird but I dont want to think like this anymore and I need some advice. I feel like older men are better in all departments and can do better than a guy my age would. I just find married men so sexy. Any advice?Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Is that all you think of yourself? That's sad. Married men are no better or worse than single men and any married man that lays down with you can't be ';better in all departments';...Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
You like married men b/c you like the idea of a responsible committed man...the problem is if these guys are willing to screw around with you behind their wives back they are not responsible OR committed. There are plenty of awesome men that are single and just made sure they had their career set before seeking a family life to settle into. You need to look elsewhere b/c you will never be happy having to ';share'; your man, not to mention if you were even playing that game with my husband you would be looking for a beat down...Not cool to your sisters!!! Go grab you some morals and snag you a good man of your very own.
Married are attractive to you because they are ';safe'; in that they are not free to make any demands on you.
Also, there is the thrill of competition to see if you can take the man away from his wife (even though you really don't want him permanently).
Some counseling may help you to get over this.
Good luck.
I wasn't going to answer this one but it just irritates me to see how an inexperience little girl like you think. Its really sad that you think like that, may god have mercy on you. If you don't change your ways you're going to end up alone. Married man are well trained by their wives and they are who they are, because of our hard work. They didn't become who they became just by nothing, it took alot of putting up and sacrifice from their wives. Think of the damage you'll cause this poor women, stop it.
I think what really attracts you is not that the married men are sexier than the single men ... it麓s that you cannot be attached sentimentally to them because they are not available....
but you have to seek 4 help because you are being just the dessert! and you have to care more about yourself! what麓s going on? you have to try to be always the first plate to your partner! YOU DESERVE MUCH IN LIFE!!
Well, if that is true about single women, the same must hold true for single women... and since you are single...
You need to go to counseling and you need to grow up. You're ridiculous and I hope once you get married your man goes and cheats on you. What goes around comes around lady.
u have a jealousy issue and are also a sinner. Coveting thy neighbors wife/husband. HOMEWRECKER!!!...lol
seriously though, find a good, SINGLE, guy cuz there are plenty still out there and make him your husband....how hott would that be?
Who said your attracted to men? Maybe they just look at you. wow.
And just cause you had an affair with another guy doesnt mean that everysingle married guy likes you.
seriouslyy.
Women like you make me sick! If you ever tried it on with my husband you'd never have another man put it that way!
Get your own man and stop trying to destroy other peoples lives!
I dont feel like that (no matter what you say), it matters if someone has a potential to love you or not.....
Because you find it a challenge to take something that doesn't belong to you.
because ur a skank
lol woman ur not the only one ! what a ledgent ! consider urself privaleged xx
well you know a affair is bad but you gotta do what u gotta do!
you are looking for maturity and security in the least likely places. just remember, if a guy is willing to cheat on his wife, he isn't a good guy and he isn't better at anything. you also may have a fear of getting married yourself for fear you will be cheated on as you have seen so many times before. my advise is to stop looking to others for what you need and take care of yourself. be confident and happy with who you are without anyone, single or otherwise, and Mr right will come along when you are ready. at this stage in your life, given what you have said of yourself, you probably aren't mature enough to be in a real relationship. take some time to grow up, live your life, and have fun.
if these men are better than younger men, then why would they cheat on their wives with you? they play the same games, hun. just older.
there is a void you need to fill. but married men is not the way. when mr right comes, how you going to explain to them you got with married men? what if the wife approaches you? what if the word gets out?
you are attracted to them because you feel insecure. you see them married and you think since they are married, they must be good men. marriage is hard work and many times men are bastards to their family. everything that glitter is not gold, sweetheart. if a man is willing to cheat on his wife, what makes you think he wont do it to you? men think of their mistresses as whores. they tell them all the right things to keep them around for the sex. they know these females are insecure, so they tell the chicks what they want to hear to get what they want out of them. in the end, the mistress always loose. you may hear a few cases where the man leaves his wife for his mistress, but its few. you hear about it alot in tv shows and movies and gossip. but if you compare the numbers of men leaving their wives and the numbers of men who cheat but stay with their wives, the numbers dont compare.
married men will never be able to respect you if you date them or seek them. a real good man will tell you to stay away from them cause they have a wife.
i believe you need to seek therapy to work on yourself so you can stop planting these seeds. you reap what you sow. you will be married one day. you need to think about that
Is that all you think of yourself? That's sad. Married men are no better or worse than single men and any married man that lays down with you can't be ';better in all departments';...Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
You like married men b/c you like the idea of a responsible committed man...the problem is if these guys are willing to screw around with you behind their wives back they are not responsible OR committed. There are plenty of awesome men that are single and just made sure they had their career set before seeking a family life to settle into. You need to look elsewhere b/c you will never be happy having to ';share'; your man, not to mention if you were even playing that game with my husband you would be looking for a beat down...Not cool to your sisters!!! Go grab you some morals and snag you a good man of your very own.
Married are attractive to you because they are ';safe'; in that they are not free to make any demands on you.
Also, there is the thrill of competition to see if you can take the man away from his wife (even though you really don't want him permanently).
Some counseling may help you to get over this.
Good luck.
I wasn't going to answer this one but it just irritates me to see how an inexperience little girl like you think. Its really sad that you think like that, may god have mercy on you. If you don't change your ways you're going to end up alone. Married man are well trained by their wives and they are who they are, because of our hard work. They didn't become who they became just by nothing, it took alot of putting up and sacrifice from their wives. Think of the damage you'll cause this poor women, stop it.
I think what really attracts you is not that the married men are sexier than the single men ... it麓s that you cannot be attached sentimentally to them because they are not available....
but you have to seek 4 help because you are being just the dessert! and you have to care more about yourself! what麓s going on? you have to try to be always the first plate to your partner! YOU DESERVE MUCH IN LIFE!!
Well, if that is true about single women, the same must hold true for single women... and since you are single...
You need to go to counseling and you need to grow up. You're ridiculous and I hope once you get married your man goes and cheats on you. What goes around comes around lady.
u have a jealousy issue and are also a sinner. Coveting thy neighbors wife/husband. HOMEWRECKER!!!...lol
seriously though, find a good, SINGLE, guy cuz there are plenty still out there and make him your husband....how hott would that be?
Who said your attracted to men? Maybe they just look at you. wow.
And just cause you had an affair with another guy doesnt mean that everysingle married guy likes you.
seriouslyy.
Women like you make me sick! If you ever tried it on with my husband you'd never have another man put it that way!
Get your own man and stop trying to destroy other peoples lives!
I dont feel like that (no matter what you say), it matters if someone has a potential to love you or not.....
Because you find it a challenge to take something that doesn't belong to you.
because ur a skank
lol woman ur not the only one ! what a ledgent ! consider urself privaleged xx
well you know a affair is bad but you gotta do what u gotta do!
you are looking for maturity and security in the least likely places. just remember, if a guy is willing to cheat on his wife, he isn't a good guy and he isn't better at anything. you also may have a fear of getting married yourself for fear you will be cheated on as you have seen so many times before. my advise is to stop looking to others for what you need and take care of yourself. be confident and happy with who you are without anyone, single or otherwise, and Mr right will come along when you are ready. at this stage in your life, given what you have said of yourself, you probably aren't mature enough to be in a real relationship. take some time to grow up, live your life, and have fun.
if these men are better than younger men, then why would they cheat on their wives with you? they play the same games, hun. just older.
there is a void you need to fill. but married men is not the way. when mr right comes, how you going to explain to them you got with married men? what if the wife approaches you? what if the word gets out?
you are attracted to them because you feel insecure. you see them married and you think since they are married, they must be good men. marriage is hard work and many times men are bastards to their family. everything that glitter is not gold, sweetheart. if a man is willing to cheat on his wife, what makes you think he wont do it to you? men think of their mistresses as whores. they tell them all the right things to keep them around for the sex. they know these females are insecure, so they tell the chicks what they want to hear to get what they want out of them. in the end, the mistress always loose. you may hear a few cases where the man leaves his wife for his mistress, but its few. you hear about it alot in tv shows and movies and gossip. but if you compare the numbers of men leaving their wives and the numbers of men who cheat but stay with their wives, the numbers dont compare.
married men will never be able to respect you if you date them or seek them. a real good man will tell you to stay away from them cause they have a wife.
i believe you need to seek therapy to work on yourself so you can stop planting these seeds. you reap what you sow. you will be married one day. you need to think about that
Met new guy - now confused..New adult men advice?
I used to see this resident in my neighborhood for about 7 months, but we never met. We met about 2 months ago, but we didn't start talking on the phone until last month. He has come over to visit me about 3 times. He is 31 and says he meets women sometimes online, but it has never turned into anything serious. He mentions someone who cheated on him last year after a short relationship. I do not get the feeling that he still wants to be with her, but I can tell by his facial expression and tone of voice that she hurt him, but he denies it. He sometimes mentions other women he's met recently or women who presently like him. Why is he telling ME this?
When he comes over to visit, we talk for hours. The last time we spent time, he was affectionate w/hugs, etc., but we have not been intimate. I want to invite him to do things, but I can't tell if he just wants more female friends or if he truly wants to try to get to know me. I am fearful of asking him b/c I don't want to be pushy too soon, but it feels like a cat-n-mouse type deal and I feel like at our age, we should be able to say what we want or don't want. He just says that he is ';not looking'; but ';open to whatever happens'; with a woman, including relationships.
Do I just continue chatting w/him sporadically as we have been, like once a week or do I suggest we do something together? Or let him take the lead on that? I like him, but I feel like I have no idea what is going on or what to do. Help!Met new guy - now confused..New adult men advice?
I'm a slightly older male than he, and probably older than you as well.
Walk away from this. Please. The whole internet dating scene is full of people looking for sex on a casual basis. As a straight male, I know that ';open to whatever happens'; means that casual sex is what he's looking for. But as far as commitment to one person, you won't find that with this individual. When he mentions women he's met recently or women who presently like him, it's like he's looking to put a few more notches in his belt of how many women he's had sex with. I don't think you'd like being another notch. You sound too intelligent and vulnerable for that. Best wishes
When he comes over to visit, we talk for hours. The last time we spent time, he was affectionate w/hugs, etc., but we have not been intimate. I want to invite him to do things, but I can't tell if he just wants more female friends or if he truly wants to try to get to know me. I am fearful of asking him b/c I don't want to be pushy too soon, but it feels like a cat-n-mouse type deal and I feel like at our age, we should be able to say what we want or don't want. He just says that he is ';not looking'; but ';open to whatever happens'; with a woman, including relationships.
Do I just continue chatting w/him sporadically as we have been, like once a week or do I suggest we do something together? Or let him take the lead on that? I like him, but I feel like I have no idea what is going on or what to do. Help!Met new guy - now confused..New adult men advice?
I'm a slightly older male than he, and probably older than you as well.
Walk away from this. Please. The whole internet dating scene is full of people looking for sex on a casual basis. As a straight male, I know that ';open to whatever happens'; means that casual sex is what he's looking for. But as far as commitment to one person, you won't find that with this individual. When he mentions women he's met recently or women who presently like him, it's like he's looking to put a few more notches in his belt of how many women he's had sex with. I don't think you'd like being another notch. You sound too intelligent and vulnerable for that. Best wishes
Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Ok I am a 21 year old female and I am mainly attracted to married men. I have had an affair with one before and I realize that was a bad thing to do. I am attracted to men in their older 20's to mid 30's and I feel like if a guy is single, there must be a reason why he is single... maybe because no girl wants him? I dont know.. its kinda weird but I dont want to think like this anymore and I need some advice. I feel like older men are better in all departments and can do better than a guy my age would. I just find married men so sexy. Any advice?Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
It's obvious you are attracted to men that are unavailable.
The reasoning, is something you need to find out. Could be you are afraid of commitment, abandonment issues, a challenge, etc. Only you know that answer and probably should seek professional help in discussing the issues.
You shouldn't think like this anymore, hence professional help.
You aren't thinking about the whole scenario--you are going for married men--men that have wives and families. It's okay to think married men are sexy, it's another to act out on these feelings. Trust me, if you were married, you wouldn't want some other woman sleeping with your husband or threatening the very vows you made with your husband, or threatening the family you have created.
Just because a guy is single, doesn't mean he's not wanted. He just hasn't found the right girl, just like you haven't found the right guy yet.
Advice--seek some counseling and remember, the shoe could always be on the other foot and you wouldn't want that. Also remember, in most cases, married men don't leave their wives and families. And...if he's messing around with you, he's probably messing around with some others too and if you land him, you'll always wonder if he's cheating on you. So get yourself out of this thought process and find yourself a nice single guy!Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
He made a committment to someone and you find that attractive too. But he made that committment and then broke the vows by getting with you. So he is not very attractive anymore. Any guy that is willing to sleep with you that is married is a toad. Think of that next time.
I've had guy friends that didn't get married until 38, 39, and 42. They were all very great guys with nothing wrong. They just hadn't found the right girl. Keep looking honey. The right unmarried guy is out there. Respect yourself more and stick to the single ones.
Would you like it someday when your a married woman and some young girl is going after your man? what comes around goes around..........trust me! You are attracted to them because you have a need to feel desired and if a married man wants you then you will feel better about yourself for the moment. It is a competition thing for you because you have a need to lure these men away from their woman......it makes you feel like you are worthy. I urge you to discontinue your practices before someone tries to rip your hair out!
Most likely you choose married so you don't have to commit to a real relationship. A married guy most of the time will choose wife and family he has a lot to lose.You don't. My question to you is what are you losing by choosing married guys? Your helping him commit adultery!
Some women want relationships but are afraid of commitment. By being with a guy who is not really available, you avoid commitment.
Sometimes women have low self-esteem and feel like they don't deserve anything better.
Stay away from married men. It only leads to heartbreak.
They've already proven themselves to be responsible, domestic and not commitment-phobes, so that appeals to you.
KEEP AWAY!!!!! Bad news all around every time. It never ends well. Someone always gets hurt. Find your own- they do exist or nobody would ever be married.
Good luck.
Maybe instead of thinking that an older guy is single because no other girl wants him start thinking He is single because he took time to get a career and become successful before he took on a serious relationship. He will be more mature and financially secure.
so am i! and im a cashier and i get all nervous when i have to talk to them and their wife is standing there looking mad while their husband is acting all shy. it makes for a very akward situation.... not to mention the fact that i'm already a shy person! ugh!!
I think you are attracted to married men is because maybe you know you can't have them. I am not sure.
Hope this helps!
鈾bfanatic94
I have one piece of advice. You better watch the **** out because one day the wife will catch you and she won't be happy. You'll have slashed tires, broken windows, broken bones, and if it were me, a few missing body parts.
maybe u dont want a serious relationship and u know having sex with married men is never going to turn in to a relationship its just sex and thats why u like it cause u dont have to worry about getting attatched
Its perfectly Normal to Be Attracted To Married Men. Your Theory Isnt Always Correct Though Some Single Guys Are Great They Are Just Looking For The Right Girl.
You may be attracted to the challenge...to see if you can ';win'; them.
They're married.
You know they're sweet and faithful.
BECAUSE YOU ARE AN EVIL TEMPTRESS THAT NEEDS TO BE BURNED AT THE STAKE
you always wnat what you cant get, they're unavailable thats why you wat to make like an adventure for yourself
maybe you like the thrill of trying not to get caught
Forbidden fruit taste the best.
find a good looking SINGLE guy!
i think you like drama
Me too...or maybe it's just all the hot guys are taken :(
There are all sorts of reasons why women are attracted to married men. Some of them are:
1. Married men represent commitment.
2. Married men represent stability.
3. Married men tend to be more experienced in the bedroom.
4. Married men are safe, and long term commitments are not a threat.
5. Married men represent the thrill of conquest over another woman.
6. Married men make you feel special, and appreciated.
There are many more reasons, and if you think about it honestly, I've probably hit one or two of them on the nose. For a lot of married men, some young thing being attracted to them really gives them an ego boost. One of these days, though, you're going to find yourself sorely disappointed. A married man that's willing to throw his marriage down the toilet for an affair, either with you or someone else, is certainly not a good catch. And, all those older men that are still single... lets just say that they may be a good catch if you are talking about a guy who's willing to wait for the right woman to come along. What's wrong with giving them a test drive? You never know, you just might find the perfect guy, which won't happen with a married man.
1. Deep down, you coud be afraid of committment, and knowing that you have no future with these men could be what is attracting you.
2. The reason you may like older, married men is because you are searching for someone to take care of you, like a father figure.
3. You like the challenge, the ego boost of seducing a taken guy.
OR...
You could just be very sophisticated for your age and you simply click better with older men. This is FINE. But you really need to stay away from married men. Those relationships are mutually destructive. Plus, what kind of a bastard would cheat on his wife?!--do you really think that is the sort of man you want to spend the rest of your life with?
There are PLENTY of single 30-something men out there, not because ';no one wants them'; but because they simply haven't gotten married yet. Go on some dates with cute single men and eventualy you will find someone to suit your tastes.
Good luck!
it sounds to me like you might have a bit of fear of committment. Married men are off limits and are not going to leave their wives and marry a much younger woman (typically.) Therefor that makes them much more attractive to you. Also, was your father around growing up? That could easily lend itself to your draw toward older men. There is something to be said for the sense that an older man can better take care of you (however this is generally a false sense of security) Do some soul searching and try to figure out what it really is about them....you might consider talking to someone too. It could help more than you might think. And please...in the future, from all of us married women, look but don't touch!! To fantisize about being with, or be attracted to a married man is one thing....but to do anything to act upon that is quite another. Remember that you could be destroying a family.
Well turn it around on your self.
By your logic there must be something wrong with you since your not in a relationship or married yet! Maybe your single because no guy wants you?
I don't think that's the case at all, but I hope you get my point.
I'm sure some of your attraction has to do with these men being ';unavailable'; so that says two things to me:
1. It excites you to know that you not supposed to have them, but at least in once case, you got one anyway.
2. You like them because you know that it can't ever turn into anything too serious; Meaning whether your willing to admit it or not, your just really not ready to be in a serious relationship.
One is just, well, selfish and not based on anything other than lust. The second reason, means you just need to be honest with yourself and figure out what it is you want, and more importantly, what your willing to give in a relationship.
I'm sure your also attracted to married guys because of a perception that they are responsible, and loving. A wedding ring doesn't mean a guy is any of those things. There are plenty of married irresponsible selfish jerks out there!
And just FYI, men who sleep around on their wives, with out their knowledge or consent, aren't very loving or responsible are they?
There are plenty of very desired single guys out there! Remember that all those married men were single at some point! They didn't pop out of the womb married!
A lot of them just haven't found that right girl yet; Or they did, but for what ever reason, it didn't work out.
Some guys, and girls for that matter, choose remain single for a while after a breakup to get their bearings and to be in a happy place when starting a new relationship!
Nothing wrong with being attracted to older men. A lot of them are more stable, more responsible Just be careful how much older you go for.
There are exceptions, but a big age difference, especially in your case, can cause problems. Where you are in your life is going to be very different from even a 25 year old!
Take a look at yourself and figure out what your looking for. If your just looking for a good time, go have one; Just look for single guys who want the same. You don't want to be part of breaking up a marriage! (I hope)
If your looking for more, then again, start dating single guys who actually have the ability to be more than just a fling.
It's obvious you are attracted to men that are unavailable.
The reasoning, is something you need to find out. Could be you are afraid of commitment, abandonment issues, a challenge, etc. Only you know that answer and probably should seek professional help in discussing the issues.
You shouldn't think like this anymore, hence professional help.
You aren't thinking about the whole scenario--you are going for married men--men that have wives and families. It's okay to think married men are sexy, it's another to act out on these feelings. Trust me, if you were married, you wouldn't want some other woman sleeping with your husband or threatening the very vows you made with your husband, or threatening the family you have created.
Just because a guy is single, doesn't mean he's not wanted. He just hasn't found the right girl, just like you haven't found the right guy yet.
Advice--seek some counseling and remember, the shoe could always be on the other foot and you wouldn't want that. Also remember, in most cases, married men don't leave their wives and families. And...if he's messing around with you, he's probably messing around with some others too and if you land him, you'll always wonder if he's cheating on you. So get yourself out of this thought process and find yourself a nice single guy!Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
He made a committment to someone and you find that attractive too. But he made that committment and then broke the vows by getting with you. So he is not very attractive anymore. Any guy that is willing to sleep with you that is married is a toad. Think of that next time.
I've had guy friends that didn't get married until 38, 39, and 42. They were all very great guys with nothing wrong. They just hadn't found the right girl. Keep looking honey. The right unmarried guy is out there. Respect yourself more and stick to the single ones.
Would you like it someday when your a married woman and some young girl is going after your man? what comes around goes around..........trust me! You are attracted to them because you have a need to feel desired and if a married man wants you then you will feel better about yourself for the moment. It is a competition thing for you because you have a need to lure these men away from their woman......it makes you feel like you are worthy. I urge you to discontinue your practices before someone tries to rip your hair out!
Most likely you choose married so you don't have to commit to a real relationship. A married guy most of the time will choose wife and family he has a lot to lose.You don't. My question to you is what are you losing by choosing married guys? Your helping him commit adultery!
Some women want relationships but are afraid of commitment. By being with a guy who is not really available, you avoid commitment.
Sometimes women have low self-esteem and feel like they don't deserve anything better.
Stay away from married men. It only leads to heartbreak.
They've already proven themselves to be responsible, domestic and not commitment-phobes, so that appeals to you.
KEEP AWAY!!!!! Bad news all around every time. It never ends well. Someone always gets hurt. Find your own- they do exist or nobody would ever be married.
Good luck.
Maybe instead of thinking that an older guy is single because no other girl wants him start thinking He is single because he took time to get a career and become successful before he took on a serious relationship. He will be more mature and financially secure.
so am i! and im a cashier and i get all nervous when i have to talk to them and their wife is standing there looking mad while their husband is acting all shy. it makes for a very akward situation.... not to mention the fact that i'm already a shy person! ugh!!
I think you are attracted to married men is because maybe you know you can't have them. I am not sure.
Hope this helps!
鈾bfanatic94
I have one piece of advice. You better watch the **** out because one day the wife will catch you and she won't be happy. You'll have slashed tires, broken windows, broken bones, and if it were me, a few missing body parts.
maybe u dont want a serious relationship and u know having sex with married men is never going to turn in to a relationship its just sex and thats why u like it cause u dont have to worry about getting attatched
Its perfectly Normal to Be Attracted To Married Men. Your Theory Isnt Always Correct Though Some Single Guys Are Great They Are Just Looking For The Right Girl.
You may be attracted to the challenge...to see if you can ';win'; them.
They're married.
You know they're sweet and faithful.
BECAUSE YOU ARE AN EVIL TEMPTRESS THAT NEEDS TO BE BURNED AT THE STAKE
you always wnat what you cant get, they're unavailable thats why you wat to make like an adventure for yourself
maybe you like the thrill of trying not to get caught
Forbidden fruit taste the best.
find a good looking SINGLE guy!
i think you like drama
Me too...or maybe it's just all the hot guys are taken :(
There are all sorts of reasons why women are attracted to married men. Some of them are:
1. Married men represent commitment.
2. Married men represent stability.
3. Married men tend to be more experienced in the bedroom.
4. Married men are safe, and long term commitments are not a threat.
5. Married men represent the thrill of conquest over another woman.
6. Married men make you feel special, and appreciated.
There are many more reasons, and if you think about it honestly, I've probably hit one or two of them on the nose. For a lot of married men, some young thing being attracted to them really gives them an ego boost. One of these days, though, you're going to find yourself sorely disappointed. A married man that's willing to throw his marriage down the toilet for an affair, either with you or someone else, is certainly not a good catch. And, all those older men that are still single... lets just say that they may be a good catch if you are talking about a guy who's willing to wait for the right woman to come along. What's wrong with giving them a test drive? You never know, you just might find the perfect guy, which won't happen with a married man.
1. Deep down, you coud be afraid of committment, and knowing that you have no future with these men could be what is attracting you.
2. The reason you may like older, married men is because you are searching for someone to take care of you, like a father figure.
3. You like the challenge, the ego boost of seducing a taken guy.
OR...
You could just be very sophisticated for your age and you simply click better with older men. This is FINE. But you really need to stay away from married men. Those relationships are mutually destructive. Plus, what kind of a bastard would cheat on his wife?!--do you really think that is the sort of man you want to spend the rest of your life with?
There are PLENTY of single 30-something men out there, not because ';no one wants them'; but because they simply haven't gotten married yet. Go on some dates with cute single men and eventualy you will find someone to suit your tastes.
Good luck!
it sounds to me like you might have a bit of fear of committment. Married men are off limits and are not going to leave their wives and marry a much younger woman (typically.) Therefor that makes them much more attractive to you. Also, was your father around growing up? That could easily lend itself to your draw toward older men. There is something to be said for the sense that an older man can better take care of you (however this is generally a false sense of security) Do some soul searching and try to figure out what it really is about them....you might consider talking to someone too. It could help more than you might think. And please...in the future, from all of us married women, look but don't touch!! To fantisize about being with, or be attracted to a married man is one thing....but to do anything to act upon that is quite another. Remember that you could be destroying a family.
Well turn it around on your self.
By your logic there must be something wrong with you since your not in a relationship or married yet! Maybe your single because no guy wants you?
I don't think that's the case at all, but I hope you get my point.
I'm sure some of your attraction has to do with these men being ';unavailable'; so that says two things to me:
1. It excites you to know that you not supposed to have them, but at least in once case, you got one anyway.
2. You like them because you know that it can't ever turn into anything too serious; Meaning whether your willing to admit it or not, your just really not ready to be in a serious relationship.
One is just, well, selfish and not based on anything other than lust. The second reason, means you just need to be honest with yourself and figure out what it is you want, and more importantly, what your willing to give in a relationship.
I'm sure your also attracted to married guys because of a perception that they are responsible, and loving. A wedding ring doesn't mean a guy is any of those things. There are plenty of married irresponsible selfish jerks out there!
And just FYI, men who sleep around on their wives, with out their knowledge or consent, aren't very loving or responsible are they?
There are plenty of very desired single guys out there! Remember that all those married men were single at some point! They didn't pop out of the womb married!
A lot of them just haven't found that right girl yet; Or they did, but for what ever reason, it didn't work out.
Some guys, and girls for that matter, choose remain single for a while after a breakup to get their bearings and to be in a happy place when starting a new relationship!
Nothing wrong with being attracted to older men. A lot of them are more stable, more responsible Just be careful how much older you go for.
There are exceptions, but a big age difference, especially in your case, can cause problems. Where you are in your life is going to be very different from even a 25 year old!
Take a look at yourself and figure out what your looking for. If your just looking for a good time, go have one; Just look for single guys who want the same. You don't want to be part of breaking up a marriage! (I hope)
If your looking for more, then again, start dating single guys who actually have the ability to be more than just a fling.
Help me to get him back ( want men advice)?
my story short is that im in love with some one from another country in EU, and he was diagnosed with Motor Nerve Disease three months ago (no one knows execpt for ME and his Mom and Dad), i loved him before i knew and even more after , but he was like : who is crazy enough to be with someone who would die evantually ,at that stage i didnt tell him that i loved him darely ,our sexuall life was good but we only met now and then cuz of our work , one evening he told me that one of his (male frinds )told him that he cant marry me cuz im not virgin ( we both staying at a country were sex before marriage is considred a sin) and he should marry a virgin ..etc , and that if he would be or seen with me he would reuin my reputation and other things he hidden from me , any way we talked about it and for me all that is non-sense and they r only jealouse , i any one of them got the approtonity to do it he would right away , but still that didnt convince him appriantlly as he just stopped txting , calling or emailing me
i cant blame him as he thought that as for my best not knowing that hurts me and that i cant stay without him , i called him up and we set a date we talked and made love he was so happy and in that time i confsed few things like id want him more than anything in this world went around how much a care for him that it could be more than just caring , he was travelling to his country two dayz later and he called me from the airport we talked for a while and my tongue just slipped I LOVE U words before we hang , he said he would email me right after he gets there safe ,
after two days he didnt send anything and i had a dinner invitation from my colleague and his GF , so i sent an email to him telling him about it , he answered back with the next: Ofcourse! i know how u feel about me but that is not good! i care for u but we can only have fun together and thats where our relationship ends! and i guess u know why .
i got really emotional and send him back an email telling him that i love him more every day and his sickness wont stop my feeling and that i want to be with him in health and sickness , if not then i should leave him and wished him luck .
now i feel like i was so fast answering him with that , i dont want to leave him i want to be with him i know what his illness like and whats gonna happen to him and i want ot be with him
please help me out ........???Help me to get him back ( want men advice)?
you mean MOTOR-NEURON DISEASE???
you gonna be able to watch his body fail while his mind remains active???
gonna be able to take 24hr care of him???
somehow i doubt that very much... best to just be his friend and support him...Help me to get him back ( want men advice)?
my boyfriend has a lung disease called cystic fibrosis which means he is going to die at approximately 30 years old. just because they are going to die doesn't mean they don't deserve happiness. everyone will die eventually, just because we KNOW when they are going to die doesn't make it any different. that's like saying 'i don't want to see you anymore because i know you are going to get hit by a bus when you are thirty.'
Try and tell him that.
His illness isn't the only thing stopping him. Under normal circumstances I'd say he's playing you. Using you when you are around and actively seeking someone else when you're not. This is just my opinion though, not a fact.
I can say positively though that telling him he'll lose you is probably for the best. If he actually loves you back, he'll take that into heavy consideration.
I know why
He doesn't want to be with you because he doesn't want you to se him get weaker and weaker.
That is the only reason i guess.
Just be his friend and it will be ok
And on emore thing.
Talk talk talk
Talking is the best way to resolve any problem
I had to find that out the hard way
take care
Dave
i cant blame him as he thought that as for my best not knowing that hurts me and that i cant stay without him , i called him up and we set a date we talked and made love he was so happy and in that time i confsed few things like id want him more than anything in this world went around how much a care for him that it could be more than just caring , he was travelling to his country two dayz later and he called me from the airport we talked for a while and my tongue just slipped I LOVE U words before we hang , he said he would email me right after he gets there safe ,
after two days he didnt send anything and i had a dinner invitation from my colleague and his GF , so i sent an email to him telling him about it , he answered back with the next: Ofcourse! i know how u feel about me but that is not good! i care for u but we can only have fun together and thats where our relationship ends! and i guess u know why .
i got really emotional and send him back an email telling him that i love him more every day and his sickness wont stop my feeling and that i want to be with him in health and sickness , if not then i should leave him and wished him luck .
now i feel like i was so fast answering him with that , i dont want to leave him i want to be with him i know what his illness like and whats gonna happen to him and i want ot be with him
please help me out ........???Help me to get him back ( want men advice)?
you mean MOTOR-NEURON DISEASE???
you gonna be able to watch his body fail while his mind remains active???
gonna be able to take 24hr care of him???
somehow i doubt that very much... best to just be his friend and support him...Help me to get him back ( want men advice)?
my boyfriend has a lung disease called cystic fibrosis which means he is going to die at approximately 30 years old. just because they are going to die doesn't mean they don't deserve happiness. everyone will die eventually, just because we KNOW when they are going to die doesn't make it any different. that's like saying 'i don't want to see you anymore because i know you are going to get hit by a bus when you are thirty.'
Try and tell him that.
His illness isn't the only thing stopping him. Under normal circumstances I'd say he's playing you. Using you when you are around and actively seeking someone else when you're not. This is just my opinion though, not a fact.
I can say positively though that telling him he'll lose you is probably for the best. If he actually loves you back, he'll take that into heavy consideration.
I know why
He doesn't want to be with you because he doesn't want you to se him get weaker and weaker.
That is the only reason i guess.
Just be his friend and it will be ok
And on emore thing.
Talk talk talk
Talking is the best way to resolve any problem
I had to find that out the hard way
take care
Dave
Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Ok I am a 21 year old female and I am mainly attracted to married men. I have had an affair with one before and I realize that was a bad thing to do. I am attracted to men in their older 20's to mid 30's and I feel like if a guy is single, there must be a reason why he is single... maybe because no girl wants him? I dont know.. its kinda weird but I dont want to think like this anymore and I need some advice. I feel like older men are better in all departments and can do better than a guy my age would. I just find married men so sexy. Any advice?Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
1) You like responsible men who don't mind having families and taking care of them. There are plenty of single men in this category, but just don't have the experience of a married man. Try to find someone you can grow with and become a responsible woman as these men have done with the help of their wives.
2) You like the feeling of someone liking you that already has someone, because it makes you feel like a queen. Try to find your self-value in other areas like God, work, etc. Once he is done using you (Yes, using you), you will feel worse than you did to begin with not having anyone. Not to be mean, but this is life.Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Well first off. It sounds to me like you have commitment and security issues. Men your own age are less likely to commit to a relationship, where someone that is already married, you know can make and keep a commitment. The reasion I say security issues, is that older men, tend to be more established then younger men. Meaning they have a house, or are in the market. They have ususally established themselves in a secure job, and there are only small chances they will become unemployed.
My best advice, don't get envolved to deeply in any relationships for now (and none with married men). Work on getting yourself set up so that the dependency and security is your own and not a man. Then take a look at who is more atractive to you then.
The fact remains that whenever a man is married this will present a challenge for you, because they say that everyone wants what they know they cannot have, older men are wiser and present themselves in a fashion that a younger man never will be able too, so I don't think its too uncommon, just remind yourself the next time you are attracted to an older man, that there probably lies a happy family with years of bonding within the marriage, you don't want the burden of being the person who broke the camels back.
I wish that were true. I am married and 43, and I could never comptete with a 23 year old. Older men may have their good qualities but if they are cheating then any good qualities they have seem to be nullified. I think there must have been a time when you were single. That didn't mean that you were not good. It just meant you were single. There are a lot of good guys to be with. Don't go with cheaters. You are worth more than that.
I know this is not the best advice, but meet a guy who has a girlfriend, at least you will not be committing adultery. But honestly, all those married guys are not safe, they were single once, try trusting the fact that there are good guys that have not tied the not yet, and I really hate the idea that I suggested you meet a guy with a girlfriend, but it beats the later.
I think it is two things:
1. You know there is no committment by sleeping with a married man.
2. The chase. You probably like the thrill of being able to chase a married guy, as usually they are not as easy as single guys.
Stop doing what you are doing. I for one am married, and I love my wife. It is extremely hard when women do not respect that, and flirt with me. I am still a guy after all. I don't need the temptation!
The guy will almost always choose his current wife over you, and you need to find a guy that respects you and loves you!
Your attracted to married men because you are a skank ho. If you were to mess with my man, you'd be a skank ho with a black eye. It's sluts like you that cause so many divorces. Obviously your a ho if you would sleep with a married man, so why not go find a single man? There are plenty of them out there that just love women that are easy.
imo,
You have problems with your own worth, probably stemming from someone close leaving you or from a feeling of inferiority.
By taking a married man, you are the 'other girl' and therefore cannot be cheated on or left, because he is not yours in the first place.
Or you see them as a prize because someone else is willing to love them, so winning them over seems like a challenge.
Honestly,
you can find someone without attachments. By saying that they are simply better people I think youre trying to justify your decision.
Get help.
Or just get over yourself.
Sometimes it's in your subconcious mind..but you are not wanting to truly commit to someone, so the safest place to find that is in a married man. Not only that, but also it is an adventure to some to get what they might not be able to have.
It is sad that you want something like that, that is destructive to both parties involved.
You need to talk to a therapist. You can't go on feeling this way. How are you ever going to have a relationship with anyone? And it's so untrue that single men have a problem or something. Give them a chance. If anyone has a problem it's the married men who are cheating on their wives!
Your dad isn't around, is he? You're perpetuating a cycle or some other psychological nonsense. You should tap into your conscience and stop yourself from seeing married men. Being a good person is hard work, but it's well worth it. Good for the soul.
In the back of your mind, you know a married man probably won't leave what he has at home for you. I think you just want to screw around and not have to worry about a commitment.
Married men are a good chase. They are getting something out of you that they can't get at home. They need you to fulfill certain things which makes you feel important. Sad thing is, you'll always be second best.
You have self worth issues. You are thinking you are not worth anything more than being a h*ole for a married man's pole. Some people are just like that. It's a shame, but there it is.
stay well clear of married men as not only are u second best ...but you could destroy kids lives and a women who happens to love the same guy... Find a guy that only wants you...As why should you come second.
Because we are so hot.....
Call me, lets chat.
yea stop being a **** who wants what she cant have
Funny because I can see where your logic is about men that are single must be single for a reason. However, when I was 21 I was turned off by a man as soon as learned he was married. If I found a handsome married guy then I was thinking, ';damn';. Later on I found out that a lot of married men are not really happy and realized that I was probably in a better situation than them because there is nothing like freedom. I am a little bit older now so now so I am not thrown off by men that are married. I do not get involved with them. But I know that many are where at that critical 7 year itch where they start to become available. If they divorce/seperate and I am free then who knows what can develope?
you are attracting 'old' married men because that is the 'signals' you are putting out there. Maybe you feel that they are 'safe' because they won't put pressure on you to change your life all around for them. . . .that you can wait for that 'boody call'; to come and then decide if you want to say yes or no at the moment. . . .
or
you want married men because to are competitive and feel like you have 'won' some big prize if you can get his crazy enough for you to leave his wife. . . . that 2nd wife syndrome. . . . I must be better then the 1st in all ways . . . . wow ain't I great. (not saying your the type at all, or am I judging. . . . but I do know this type. . . . . one of my best friends happen to be . . . . and she has spent many hours talking about it. . . .. so I have taken all this in as an education).
You have to figure out which theory applies to your situation and move on from there. . . . . only when you face your own reality will you send out differant signals.
Why are you single? Is there something wrong with you? You are young and when you get ready to settle down you will be older and you would hate it if you found out your husband was stepping out with a younger female. Karma is a beast. As far as married men being sexy that could be true. People want what they can't have and people that you can't have are more sexier than the people you can have. There are a lot of sexy single men out there in there late 20s and 30s. Never be second to any man and if you continue to that is the way you will end up, in second place.
1) You like responsible men who don't mind having families and taking care of them. There are plenty of single men in this category, but just don't have the experience of a married man. Try to find someone you can grow with and become a responsible woman as these men have done with the help of their wives.
2) You like the feeling of someone liking you that already has someone, because it makes you feel like a queen. Try to find your self-value in other areas like God, work, etc. Once he is done using you (Yes, using you), you will feel worse than you did to begin with not having anyone. Not to be mean, but this is life.Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Well first off. It sounds to me like you have commitment and security issues. Men your own age are less likely to commit to a relationship, where someone that is already married, you know can make and keep a commitment. The reasion I say security issues, is that older men, tend to be more established then younger men. Meaning they have a house, or are in the market. They have ususally established themselves in a secure job, and there are only small chances they will become unemployed.
My best advice, don't get envolved to deeply in any relationships for now (and none with married men). Work on getting yourself set up so that the dependency and security is your own and not a man. Then take a look at who is more atractive to you then.
The fact remains that whenever a man is married this will present a challenge for you, because they say that everyone wants what they know they cannot have, older men are wiser and present themselves in a fashion that a younger man never will be able too, so I don't think its too uncommon, just remind yourself the next time you are attracted to an older man, that there probably lies a happy family with years of bonding within the marriage, you don't want the burden of being the person who broke the camels back.
I wish that were true. I am married and 43, and I could never comptete with a 23 year old. Older men may have their good qualities but if they are cheating then any good qualities they have seem to be nullified. I think there must have been a time when you were single. That didn't mean that you were not good. It just meant you were single. There are a lot of good guys to be with. Don't go with cheaters. You are worth more than that.
I know this is not the best advice, but meet a guy who has a girlfriend, at least you will not be committing adultery. But honestly, all those married guys are not safe, they were single once, try trusting the fact that there are good guys that have not tied the not yet, and I really hate the idea that I suggested you meet a guy with a girlfriend, but it beats the later.
I think it is two things:
1. You know there is no committment by sleeping with a married man.
2. The chase. You probably like the thrill of being able to chase a married guy, as usually they are not as easy as single guys.
Stop doing what you are doing. I for one am married, and I love my wife. It is extremely hard when women do not respect that, and flirt with me. I am still a guy after all. I don't need the temptation!
The guy will almost always choose his current wife over you, and you need to find a guy that respects you and loves you!
Your attracted to married men because you are a skank ho. If you were to mess with my man, you'd be a skank ho with a black eye. It's sluts like you that cause so many divorces. Obviously your a ho if you would sleep with a married man, so why not go find a single man? There are plenty of them out there that just love women that are easy.
imo,
You have problems with your own worth, probably stemming from someone close leaving you or from a feeling of inferiority.
By taking a married man, you are the 'other girl' and therefore cannot be cheated on or left, because he is not yours in the first place.
Or you see them as a prize because someone else is willing to love them, so winning them over seems like a challenge.
Honestly,
you can find someone without attachments. By saying that they are simply better people I think youre trying to justify your decision.
Get help.
Or just get over yourself.
Sometimes it's in your subconcious mind..but you are not wanting to truly commit to someone, so the safest place to find that is in a married man. Not only that, but also it is an adventure to some to get what they might not be able to have.
It is sad that you want something like that, that is destructive to both parties involved.
You need to talk to a therapist. You can't go on feeling this way. How are you ever going to have a relationship with anyone? And it's so untrue that single men have a problem or something. Give them a chance. If anyone has a problem it's the married men who are cheating on their wives!
Your dad isn't around, is he? You're perpetuating a cycle or some other psychological nonsense. You should tap into your conscience and stop yourself from seeing married men. Being a good person is hard work, but it's well worth it. Good for the soul.
In the back of your mind, you know a married man probably won't leave what he has at home for you. I think you just want to screw around and not have to worry about a commitment.
Married men are a good chase. They are getting something out of you that they can't get at home. They need you to fulfill certain things which makes you feel important. Sad thing is, you'll always be second best.
You have self worth issues. You are thinking you are not worth anything more than being a h*ole for a married man's pole. Some people are just like that. It's a shame, but there it is.
stay well clear of married men as not only are u second best ...but you could destroy kids lives and a women who happens to love the same guy... Find a guy that only wants you...As why should you come second.
Because we are so hot.....
Call me, lets chat.
yea stop being a **** who wants what she cant have
Funny because I can see where your logic is about men that are single must be single for a reason. However, when I was 21 I was turned off by a man as soon as learned he was married. If I found a handsome married guy then I was thinking, ';damn';. Later on I found out that a lot of married men are not really happy and realized that I was probably in a better situation than them because there is nothing like freedom. I am a little bit older now so now so I am not thrown off by men that are married. I do not get involved with them. But I know that many are where at that critical 7 year itch where they start to become available. If they divorce/seperate and I am free then who knows what can develope?
you are attracting 'old' married men because that is the 'signals' you are putting out there. Maybe you feel that they are 'safe' because they won't put pressure on you to change your life all around for them. . . .that you can wait for that 'boody call'; to come and then decide if you want to say yes or no at the moment. . . .
or
you want married men because to are competitive and feel like you have 'won' some big prize if you can get his crazy enough for you to leave his wife. . . . that 2nd wife syndrome. . . . I must be better then the 1st in all ways . . . . wow ain't I great. (not saying your the type at all, or am I judging. . . . but I do know this type. . . . . one of my best friends happen to be . . . . and she has spent many hours talking about it. . . .. so I have taken all this in as an education).
You have to figure out which theory applies to your situation and move on from there. . . . . only when you face your own reality will you send out differant signals.
Why are you single? Is there something wrong with you? You are young and when you get ready to settle down you will be older and you would hate it if you found out your husband was stepping out with a younger female. Karma is a beast. As far as married men being sexy that could be true. People want what they can't have and people that you can't have are more sexier than the people you can have. There are a lot of sexy single men out there in there late 20s and 30s. Never be second to any man and if you continue to that is the way you will end up, in second place.
I have a problem. I need men advice?
I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years last april because I wasn't getting the commitment I needed from him. He moved down south to pursue his career and ';grow'; as a person. He loves me but was not ready for a commitment because of where he stood in his life. In the mean time (like 2 days later) I met a guy and we started dating because we got along well. Its been almost a year since I've been dating him and I have been feeling really suffocated and annoyed lately. We have talked about space and stuff like that and him getting a hobby. He seems to want to do anything to keep our relationship. I feel comfortable in this relationship and happy sometimes . The ex boyfriend has been emailnig and calling, saying that he loves me and he is ready to commit and cares for me and i so want to pursue it, but also don't want to give up what I have? Its scary...I need ADVICE!!!I have a problem. I need men advice?
Only you can make this decision. Do you really care for guy #2 or was he something to fill the time with until #1 needed you again? Sorry to be so blunt. When it comes to matters of the heart you really need to look inside yourself. What is going to make you happy? Remember it sounds like both guys care about you. Which one do you really care for? Which one makes you happy and fulfilled? I know you don't want to hurt anyone but if you don't make the decision, you will be hurting yourself. Take your time and think about it carefully before you do anything. I will be praying for you. Good luck.I have a problem. I need men advice?
Stay with the second guy if you get back together with the first guy he might leave you all alone again.
well. ur first guy has his chance.. it ended. if your happy with current guy. stay there. its your ex's loss.female mask
Only you can make this decision. Do you really care for guy #2 or was he something to fill the time with until #1 needed you again? Sorry to be so blunt. When it comes to matters of the heart you really need to look inside yourself. What is going to make you happy? Remember it sounds like both guys care about you. Which one do you really care for? Which one makes you happy and fulfilled? I know you don't want to hurt anyone but if you don't make the decision, you will be hurting yourself. Take your time and think about it carefully before you do anything. I will be praying for you. Good luck.I have a problem. I need men advice?
Stay with the second guy if you get back together with the first guy he might leave you all alone again.
well. ur first guy has his chance.. it ended. if your happy with current guy. stay there. its your ex's loss.
A question for the men, Sorry women but I need a mans advice on this one?
I have been talking to this guy for a few months and about three weeks ago we went from being friends to Friends with benefits after we slept together. He said he wanted this to be an ongoing thing and we both decided that we didnt want a relationship at this point in our lives because he is busy with work and school, and im still trying to work on me and my past relationship issues. We dont have each others cell numbers and only communicate thru IMs, he messages me everyday even if it is just to say hi and ask how I am doing. He even sends me a message if he knows he may not be able to talk to me that day like when he goes on a fishing trip and even still he usually messages me when he gets home. He tells me how much he wants to see me but then never does, he always says he has to work late, or study, or has something else that he cant possibly get out of. We only slept together the one time and even though he tells me it was awesome and cant wait until we do it again and until im (insert sexual act here lol) Im just not sure if he only does this so he doesnt hurt my feelings by saying he isnt into me. I have a tendancy to over analyze everthing which is what I am doing now but cant help it. So guys what do you think? Is he really just busy or is this a sweet way of being rejected? Would a man take the time out of his day everyday for the last month to message me and tell me all this stuff just to not hurt my feelings? I know this sounds crazy but I need to know. Also do you think that something that starts as Friends with benefits can evolve into a relationship or do you think if he was ready he would see me as to easy and go look for a new girl to start something meaningful?A question for the men, Sorry women but I need a mans advice on this one?
yeah you're overthinking it
just let it flow naturally. he must really like you to be saying all these things. and yes, some things that start as friends with benefits can evolve into relationships, eventually down the line.A question for the men, Sorry women but I need a mans advice on this one?
he's probably busy don't think about it too much
yeah you're overthinking it
just let it flow naturally. he must really like you to be saying all these things. and yes, some things that start as friends with benefits can evolve into relationships, eventually down the line.A question for the men, Sorry women but I need a mans advice on this one?
he's probably busy don't think about it too much
In need of much needed men advice?
Guy #1-Asks about me through other people, for example,through my immediate co-worker George, and,through another manager-he asks';So how are you guys doing over there';,he says that everytime he talks to my co-worker George, and everyone else for that matter.He's also called up to my job three times,blocking out his number, asking for my whereabouts and told my co-worker that he wanted to meet me, but he never showed.so i called him to chat, we talked for over two hours, and he Told me I can definetly call him anytime. And Every time I see him,he always looks in my eyes, just stares of in space at me,but never speaks.There were two occassions were I was in the office, he did not want to come into the office while I was there which was weird
Guy#2
Mostly talks to me over the phone,very friendly,he told me one time,';Girl don't look at me like that, you'll get me in trouble';. He Jokes and laughs with me alot.Used to call me for little things, like schdueling and payroll.Refused to interact with me in person, there was numerous occasions were upper management would ask him to drop off stuff to me,or meet with me to explain something,and he would either make up an excuse,or drop whatever paperwork with another co-worker.The thing is that I've asked this guy if Guy #1 was single or married, so he knows that I sort of have a thing for Guy #1, because they are good friends.So when I call him for overtime,he gives very short answers, or he will not answer my text message.
So The other day, he called up to my job, to say hi to my co-worker George,.and the thing is George has only met this guy twice, so they don't know each other at all really(so I thought that was weird)and he asked him, if he wanted to talk to me, so when I got on the phone with him,.he didn;t really say much, he said he just called to see how we were doing.so it was weird because hes married with kids, and he knows I like Guy #1...so I don't know if he has a thing for me, or Guy #1 doesIn need of much needed men advice?
Best policy is to never date someone you work with.
I would choose guy 3 out of the place of business.In need of much needed men advice?
The truth? No one will ever know the truth until you go up to him and ask him about it. SH*T OR GET OFF THE POT I believe is how the saying goes. Good luck!
Guy#2
Mostly talks to me over the phone,very friendly,he told me one time,';Girl don't look at me like that, you'll get me in trouble';. He Jokes and laughs with me alot.Used to call me for little things, like schdueling and payroll.Refused to interact with me in person, there was numerous occasions were upper management would ask him to drop off stuff to me,or meet with me to explain something,and he would either make up an excuse,or drop whatever paperwork with another co-worker.The thing is that I've asked this guy if Guy #1 was single or married, so he knows that I sort of have a thing for Guy #1, because they are good friends.So when I call him for overtime,he gives very short answers, or he will not answer my text message.
So The other day, he called up to my job, to say hi to my co-worker George,.and the thing is George has only met this guy twice, so they don't know each other at all really(so I thought that was weird)and he asked him, if he wanted to talk to me, so when I got on the phone with him,.he didn;t really say much, he said he just called to see how we were doing.so it was weird because hes married with kids, and he knows I like Guy #1...so I don't know if he has a thing for me, or Guy #1 doesIn need of much needed men advice?
Best policy is to never date someone you work with.
I would choose guy 3 out of the place of business.In need of much needed men advice?
The truth? No one will ever know the truth until you go up to him and ask him about it. SH*T OR GET OFF THE POT I believe is how the saying goes. Good luck!
In need of a little men advice?
About a week ago,I got a text from this suspected guy, he actually put the text under an anonymous number, but I tracked it to him, anyhow the text has an has a picutre of hand with a keychain heart with a red rose popping out of the heart and it has ';My friend'; written across it.Then theres a message that says'I may not be the most important person in your life I just hope that when you hear my name you smile and say ';Hey thats my friend';.. Give this heart to me and everyone you care about including me.. so i hadnt from him in a week, so i called hima t 2 o clock in the morning, no answer, so i text messaged him to ask him was he mad at me, no asnwer, so he calls me back later on that day, after leaving him a voicemail, and I ask him does he want me to get lost, because sometimes when I call him or text him he doesnt respond, so he tells me I havent called him in over a week, and everytime hes tried to call or text me, he doesnt get a response, he tries to get in touch with me he never can, and he feel like I ignore him somtimes, and that I dont calll him that much..and all this stuff,.. and hes always asking me ;Do I see him as my boyfriend or husband'; and why I'm not affectionate towards him, but as far as the calling,when i do call him sometimes and text messages him and he doesnt respond. How would you interpret this guy and his message hes trying to tell me, why would he send it under a different number? And why is acting weird?In need of a little men advice?
Spend a weekend together, nothing sensual just sightseeing and visiting different places. Get to know each other without the need for electronic communication devices.In need of a little men advice?
Here's some advice, and I'm not trying to be mean but seriously, have you heard the saying ';less is more?';. Try giving less details (or make paragraphs) so we can get like the main idea?
Now the answer to your question, if you type like you talk e.g. ';run on'; I would assume that's why he wouldn't want to talk to you.
Sounds like something isn't right there.
Like there is more than one person you are talking to and you don't know it.
Or you don't and neither does He.
Something is Not Correct
Spend a weekend together, nothing sensual just sightseeing and visiting different places. Get to know each other without the need for electronic communication devices.In need of a little men advice?
Here's some advice, and I'm not trying to be mean but seriously, have you heard the saying ';less is more?';. Try giving less details (or make paragraphs) so we can get like the main idea?
Now the answer to your question, if you type like you talk e.g. ';run on'; I would assume that's why he wouldn't want to talk to you.
Sounds like something isn't right there.
Like there is more than one person you are talking to and you don't know it.
Or you don't and neither does He.
Something is Not Correct
Regretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
I met an English guy when I was in UK, got together, had so many fabulous time, and I had to come back to my country (Asia). We were in distance, but he came to visit me 4months later and proposed to me.
I was happy but at the time a project I really wanted to do has started, and I asked him if he could wait for me to go for half an year. Then the time got longer. I also couldn't give him an immidiate YES since I questioned our difference in value.
But in my heart I knew I always loved him, and I tried to tell him so hard, but he took it all as my refusal... He asked me ';come in spring, or cancel'; and I was stubborn to say ';I must stay';. He called it off.
His mother passed away in a month, and I begged to attend the wedding but I was refused strongly. I sent the familly a huge flower.
He sent me a mail ';I love you always but we were not competable. I learned a lesson, I hope you did too.'; and refused to talk to me for that month.
After 3 month, I recieved a chat MSN, and afterRegretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
I think you should take the opportunity to let him know how you feel, to apologize for any pain and hurt you may have caused him, but be willing to leave it go at that. Go in with not expectations and if it is something that was meant to be, it will all work out. If not, you will have at least had the opportunity to express yourself honestly. You will be wearing you feelings on your sleeve, so be prepared to possibly feel the pain of rejection. However, know that you can move forward without regret!!!Regretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
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good grief , cultural differences ! give me a break , todays world is made of people with cultural differences , that would be an excuse , the problem is you blew him off , he even came to you in asia and you still blew him off , his mother passed away and you werent even willing to be there for him , if i were him id tell you to have a happy life and goodbye
I would not pursue this. I see a lot of ambivalence on both of your parts. It is time for both of you to move on. Don't keep poking at a wound, let it heal. You really don't even know each other, and there are huge cultural differences between you.
I was happy but at the time a project I really wanted to do has started, and I asked him if he could wait for me to go for half an year. Then the time got longer. I also couldn't give him an immidiate YES since I questioned our difference in value.
But in my heart I knew I always loved him, and I tried to tell him so hard, but he took it all as my refusal... He asked me ';come in spring, or cancel'; and I was stubborn to say ';I must stay';. He called it off.
His mother passed away in a month, and I begged to attend the wedding but I was refused strongly. I sent the familly a huge flower.
He sent me a mail ';I love you always but we were not competable. I learned a lesson, I hope you did too.'; and refused to talk to me for that month.
After 3 month, I recieved a chat MSN, and afterRegretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
I think you should take the opportunity to let him know how you feel, to apologize for any pain and hurt you may have caused him, but be willing to leave it go at that. Go in with not expectations and if it is something that was meant to be, it will all work out. If not, you will have at least had the opportunity to express yourself honestly. You will be wearing you feelings on your sleeve, so be prepared to possibly feel the pain of rejection. However, know that you can move forward without regret!!!Regretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
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good grief , cultural differences ! give me a break , todays world is made of people with cultural differences , that would be an excuse , the problem is you blew him off , he even came to you in asia and you still blew him off , his mother passed away and you werent even willing to be there for him , if i were him id tell you to have a happy life and goodbye
I would not pursue this. I see a lot of ambivalence on both of your parts. It is time for both of you to move on. Don't keep poking at a wound, let it heal. You really don't even know each other, and there are huge cultural differences between you.
What can I do... Men advice please.?
I've been on 2 dates with a guy. I was abroad for 10 days and came back on Thursday. He knew it so he suggested that I call him when I come back.
I called him and let a voice mail to ask him how he was. He texted me on Thursday, and said he was sorry that he missed my call and that he will call me on Friday. He was nice in the text - like hoping I was well and if my trip went well. He hasn't called me yet. I answered his text and said ok and that I had a great time abroad.
I am not a player and don't like to play games like I call you or not or I text you or not!
I don't call him that much or text! I am not clingy
Why is he so nice and apologise and keep texting and pulling me off???
The worst is that we live next door to each other - and I already bumped into...What can I do... Men advice please.?
Men like to play games at times, to see how interested in them you are. I'd let him play his games, ignore him %26amp; when he grows up a bit consider him again.What can I do... Men advice please.?
Good grief!Quit being lazy walk next door,knock on the door and say ';Hey ,I thought you were dead or something because you never called me like you said you would!';
See what he says, he may have a girl over there with him and does not have time to call you.
it might not be that hes ignoring you, he just might be busy
i forget to call or text people all the time
sometimes i tell people ill call them or text them, and then i leave my phone on silent under my bed haha
but that might just be me:)
men like a challenge ignore him seeing as yea leave next to each other go out a lot so he sees your having a good time and he may want to move faster so he doesn't miss an opportunity to have you good luck
Leave the ball in his court...if he wants to call you he will....dont waste any more time chasing him if he isnt showing proper interest.
There are zero commitments here. You and he are both free agents. Until he calls, you are free to go wherever and date whomever.
He might be a player, or there is something else going on. I'd make sure to nicely clear this up... in terms of why he never called Friday. If the word is just he was busy, that busy word could be many things. Don't accuse HIM, just tell him it's nice that he is living a full life.
He might open up and it could be a personal matter. It could also be that he is sleeping around, and the sweet thing act he lives through is his free pass to get sex. Careful.
I called him and let a voice mail to ask him how he was. He texted me on Thursday, and said he was sorry that he missed my call and that he will call me on Friday. He was nice in the text - like hoping I was well and if my trip went well. He hasn't called me yet. I answered his text and said ok and that I had a great time abroad.
I am not a player and don't like to play games like I call you or not or I text you or not!
I don't call him that much or text! I am not clingy
Why is he so nice and apologise and keep texting and pulling me off???
The worst is that we live next door to each other - and I already bumped into...What can I do... Men advice please.?
Men like to play games at times, to see how interested in them you are. I'd let him play his games, ignore him %26amp; when he grows up a bit consider him again.What can I do... Men advice please.?
Good grief!Quit being lazy walk next door,knock on the door and say ';Hey ,I thought you were dead or something because you never called me like you said you would!';
See what he says, he may have a girl over there with him and does not have time to call you.
it might not be that hes ignoring you, he just might be busy
i forget to call or text people all the time
sometimes i tell people ill call them or text them, and then i leave my phone on silent under my bed haha
but that might just be me:)
men like a challenge ignore him seeing as yea leave next to each other go out a lot so he sees your having a good time and he may want to move faster so he doesn't miss an opportunity to have you good luck
Leave the ball in his court...if he wants to call you he will....dont waste any more time chasing him if he isnt showing proper interest.
There are zero commitments here. You and he are both free agents. Until he calls, you are free to go wherever and date whomever.
He might be a player, or there is something else going on. I'd make sure to nicely clear this up... in terms of why he never called Friday. If the word is just he was busy, that busy word could be many things. Don't accuse HIM, just tell him it's nice that he is living a full life.
He might open up and it could be a personal matter. It could also be that he is sleeping around, and the sweet thing act he lives through is his free pass to get sex. Careful.
Growing hair out for men - Advice?
Right now my hair is short-ish. I want to grow it out a little more to get a sort of styled/shaggy look. What I want to know is, should I get my hair cut now so that way when it (or as it) grows out it will look decent, or should I wait for the length and then get it cut.
Also:
How should it be cut (my hair is very straight)
What's a good matte effect product to use.
What can I do with my hair while it's in it's ';in between'; phase.
Many thanks, and if you could let me know if you're a hair dresser or have done this (I don't care, just wanna know).
Have a great day.
:-)Growing hair out for men - Advice?
I would recommend showing a picture of the desired style you are going for to your stylist. He or She would better be able to advise you as to what steps to take to get you to the desired cut , and give you some ';in between'; ideas so you don't have as much of a problem with the troublesome phase.Growing hair out for men - Advice?
Hair isn't alive and it doesn't grow. Hair is an accumulation of a protein called keratin inside the follicle. As it builds up on the bottom it is pushed out the top, creating ';hair growth';. This is a biological process so nothing that you do to your hair, like trimming it or using some ';special'; shampoo can help. Eat a healthy, protein rich diet and take a regular multivitamin daily. So no, shampoos cannot in any way accelerate hair growth. Growth is almost entirely genetic, and a little bit diet, so all that you can do it change your diet. Split ends cause breakage on the bottom of your hair, not at the base. Hair is an inanimate strand of protein, nothing that you do to the bottom if it can have any effect on the top of itfemale mask
Also:
How should it be cut (my hair is very straight)
What's a good matte effect product to use.
What can I do with my hair while it's in it's ';in between'; phase.
Many thanks, and if you could let me know if you're a hair dresser or have done this (I don't care, just wanna know).
Have a great day.
:-)Growing hair out for men - Advice?
I would recommend showing a picture of the desired style you are going for to your stylist. He or She would better be able to advise you as to what steps to take to get you to the desired cut , and give you some ';in between'; ideas so you don't have as much of a problem with the troublesome phase.Growing hair out for men - Advice?
Hair isn't alive and it doesn't grow. Hair is an accumulation of a protein called keratin inside the follicle. As it builds up on the bottom it is pushed out the top, creating ';hair growth';. This is a biological process so nothing that you do to your hair, like trimming it or using some ';special'; shampoo can help. Eat a healthy, protein rich diet and take a regular multivitamin daily. So no, shampoos cannot in any way accelerate hair growth. Growth is almost entirely genetic, and a little bit diet, so all that you can do it change your diet. Split ends cause breakage on the bottom of your hair, not at the base. Hair is an inanimate strand of protein, nothing that you do to the bottom if it can have any effect on the top of it
Acting under the advice of men who have no understanding, we destroy that which is improvable by health....';
Why ask advice of someone you know doesn't know? Why give it if you know you don't know? I guess the question is ';Who's more foolish?';Acting under the advice of men who have no understanding, we destroy that which is improvable by health....';
I think that what the author is trying to say is that sometimes when we ask questions about stuff, we ask other people who don't know, when we could just wait and find out for ourselves instead of getting what is likely a wrong answer.Acting under the advice of men who have no understanding, we destroy that which is improvable by health....';
I am left hanging because your words by themselves have no bearing upon any circumstance of which I am familiar.
I would be forced to invent a context in order to make sense of your phrase.
I think that what the author is trying to say is that sometimes when we ask questions about stuff, we ask other people who don't know, when we could just wait and find out for ourselves instead of getting what is likely a wrong answer.Acting under the advice of men who have no understanding, we destroy that which is improvable by health....';
I am left hanging because your words by themselves have no bearing upon any circumstance of which I am familiar.
I would be forced to invent a context in order to make sense of your phrase.
Having a tough time dealing with break up, Need men advice.?
I'm 19 and my father was never around much and neither was my mom, I basicly have been alone all my life until a couple of years ago when I met this certain girl that took all the loneliness away. It was all so great at first. then the second year we were together things started getting rough and I was controlling and jealous and didn't take care of her like I should have and made her feel like I didn't love her because I didn't really know how to show her that I loved her. but inside I really did love her. I treated her bad and I know it... I don't need to hear about that anymore.
This girl really took care of me and made me happy when I was down and even though I was nothing she made me feel like I was something. she broke up with me 7 months ago and we continued to talk and keep things going like we were together for the whole 7 months on and off. until last week and now she wont talk to me at all. I love her to death and just dont think I can live without her. she filled the gap in my life of not having a mother. =( I really dont ever see myself forgetting her.
she is my first love and I'm her first love. she says she feels nothing for me now. and will not talk to me at all. will I ever meet someone else that will treat me as good as her? Did you guys have a situation like this and then met someone that was better and that you loved again?
I've learned my lessons but I just can't take losing her. it hurts so bad.Having a tough time dealing with break up, Need men advice.?
Who knows what the future holds. But until then, you need to move on. You learned a valuable lesson. It's normal to miss the person you break-up with....and it's normal to think that you'll never love someone like that again.....BUT....then you see the next girl...you start to get that strange feeling again...love, excitement etc.....and now your dating someone new.....you will fall in love again....get out.....start living....enjoy yourself.....you have suffered enough.....but unfortunately, YES it's normal to hurt soooo bad......but you'll find love again....WE have all been there!Having a tough time dealing with break up, Need men advice.?
We learn from our mistakes. The only ones that don't learn are the ones that refuse to correct their mistakes and continue living as if they don't care at all what happens. I wish you the best.
Listen, I'm very sorry to hear that you've lost someone that you love.
But this is where you need to make a decision to learn from your past mistakes. To me, love is something that you have to work for and earn with someone who you work well with. There are plenty of people out there you can get along with, but it's love when both of you are willing to work together and keep things going. Love is hard work!
And you will love again. I know you don't want to lose her and it hurts because she's become such a comfort to you. You need to learn to love yourself before you can really love someone else. You are your best relationship. Take some time for yourself and wait.
Now that you know what you did wrong, you won't let it happen again..right?
The best of luck.
Dude, Time heals all wounds. I know that it seems hard to believe at this time but its true. I also had a High school sweet heart. We were together for 4 years and then broke up. I felt horrible. But I met another woman had kids and moved on. I acually divorced my wife 4 years ago and low and behold me and my highschool sweetheart got back together and we are now married, So just look up there are women out there just dont dwell on the past
This girl really took care of me and made me happy when I was down and even though I was nothing she made me feel like I was something. she broke up with me 7 months ago and we continued to talk and keep things going like we were together for the whole 7 months on and off. until last week and now she wont talk to me at all. I love her to death and just dont think I can live without her. she filled the gap in my life of not having a mother. =( I really dont ever see myself forgetting her.
she is my first love and I'm her first love. she says she feels nothing for me now. and will not talk to me at all. will I ever meet someone else that will treat me as good as her? Did you guys have a situation like this and then met someone that was better and that you loved again?
I've learned my lessons but I just can't take losing her. it hurts so bad.Having a tough time dealing with break up, Need men advice.?
Who knows what the future holds. But until then, you need to move on. You learned a valuable lesson. It's normal to miss the person you break-up with....and it's normal to think that you'll never love someone like that again.....BUT....then you see the next girl...you start to get that strange feeling again...love, excitement etc.....and now your dating someone new.....you will fall in love again....get out.....start living....enjoy yourself.....you have suffered enough.....but unfortunately, YES it's normal to hurt soooo bad......but you'll find love again....WE have all been there!Having a tough time dealing with break up, Need men advice.?
We learn from our mistakes. The only ones that don't learn are the ones that refuse to correct their mistakes and continue living as if they don't care at all what happens. I wish you the best.
Listen, I'm very sorry to hear that you've lost someone that you love.
But this is where you need to make a decision to learn from your past mistakes. To me, love is something that you have to work for and earn with someone who you work well with. There are plenty of people out there you can get along with, but it's love when both of you are willing to work together and keep things going. Love is hard work!
And you will love again. I know you don't want to lose her and it hurts because she's become such a comfort to you. You need to learn to love yourself before you can really love someone else. You are your best relationship. Take some time for yourself and wait.
Now that you know what you did wrong, you won't let it happen again..right?
The best of luck.
Dude, Time heals all wounds. I know that it seems hard to believe at this time but its true. I also had a High school sweet heart. We were together for 4 years and then broke up. I felt horrible. But I met another woman had kids and moved on. I acually divorced my wife 4 years ago and low and behold me and my highschool sweetheart got back together and we are now married, So just look up there are women out there just dont dwell on the past
NEED HELP GUYS PLEASE IAM IN LOVE WITH TO MEN ADVICE?
i use to say you cant love to people at once you got to love one more but iam stuck an i was wrong i love to man both differently but really strongly let me explain then help me an i did NOT sleep with the second guy here goes
guy 1 is my baby daddy we been together for 8 years we have a 4 year old son and well are relationship is rocky but i still love him an i know he loves me there some things i dont like hes lazy an doesnt help me with anything ex. hse stuff dishes etc. our sons bath or getting ready for school etc. car trouble changing oil etc.
but we have alot in common we our extremely comfortable with each other an have alot of strange likeings that other people might think is nasty exsample. i can use the bathroom an he wont get out or like i dont have to run out the room if i need to pass gas which is great to jus be you sorry if that was gross but i need you to feel what i feel
ok guy2 -jus came back into my life we were good friends when we were little we grew up together and dated in elementary thur middle school we get along great and we were eachother first love an first kiss we always kept in touch thur the years but never saw eachother well he back an he wants me to be his wife he tried of the run around but iam wit my baby daddy also guy2 is alittle more younger then guy1 he my same age an is into a little more hip life style then guy1 who older more laid back no clubbing or dancing guy2 is wilder an more lively but i like both life style alittle of both you kno well guy2 jus broke up with his gurlfriend of 7 months she cheated on him so he has trust issues an also she now is trying to get back wit him an he say to me it aint happening cuz she a slut an it wasnt the first time so he wants to get a place an move me an my son in
what do i do with my baby daddy iam stable an know what to except and wit the new guy i feel that maybe hes to wild but i do love them both an iam unhappy wit my baby daddy i need a romantic change that my baby daddy jus doesnt get ive talk to him serve times guy1 is white guy2 is cuban big difference i jus dont know an i have my son to think about i jus need some advice i want to make that leap wit guy2 an maybe my life will finally be fullfilled iam also cuban an we have the same backround that i cant have with my baby daddy i dont kno if i missed anything jus let me knowNEED HELP GUYS PLEASE IAM IN LOVE WITH TO MEN ADVICE?
Guy 1. Don't be a fool and dump a decent but imperfect life to chase down a fantasy.
And for the LOVE OF GOD please - the whole baby daddy ghetto talk - it really makes you look like an imbecile.NEED HELP GUYS PLEASE IAM IN LOVE WITH TO MEN ADVICE?
Go with Guy 2....it will be hard in the beginning, but its simple to see that you are leaning toward guy one because of the child. Sure that is commendable because of the child, but know that you have to be happy too.
One, TWO, three
';to'; isn't a number.
How far did you get in school?
And I'd answer this, but I have no idea what it is asking, sorry.
You use so many words to say little about nothing,
You are so selfish!!
Guy2 says his ex is a slut and what do you think he thinks of you? Do you honestly think if you leave Guy1 that things will work out with Guy2?
Guy1 deserves better than you, so maybe you should leave him.
I would go with your baby daddy. Only because you have this child together. If you get along with him, and he loves you then that is that. However, you need to decide what you want.
guy 1 is my baby daddy we been together for 8 years we have a 4 year old son and well are relationship is rocky but i still love him an i know he loves me there some things i dont like hes lazy an doesnt help me with anything ex. hse stuff dishes etc. our sons bath or getting ready for school etc. car trouble changing oil etc.
but we have alot in common we our extremely comfortable with each other an have alot of strange likeings that other people might think is nasty exsample. i can use the bathroom an he wont get out or like i dont have to run out the room if i need to pass gas which is great to jus be you sorry if that was gross but i need you to feel what i feel
ok guy2 -jus came back into my life we were good friends when we were little we grew up together and dated in elementary thur middle school we get along great and we were eachother first love an first kiss we always kept in touch thur the years but never saw eachother well he back an he wants me to be his wife he tried of the run around but iam wit my baby daddy also guy2 is alittle more younger then guy1 he my same age an is into a little more hip life style then guy1 who older more laid back no clubbing or dancing guy2 is wilder an more lively but i like both life style alittle of both you kno well guy2 jus broke up with his gurlfriend of 7 months she cheated on him so he has trust issues an also she now is trying to get back wit him an he say to me it aint happening cuz she a slut an it wasnt the first time so he wants to get a place an move me an my son in
what do i do with my baby daddy iam stable an know what to except and wit the new guy i feel that maybe hes to wild but i do love them both an iam unhappy wit my baby daddy i need a romantic change that my baby daddy jus doesnt get ive talk to him serve times guy1 is white guy2 is cuban big difference i jus dont know an i have my son to think about i jus need some advice i want to make that leap wit guy2 an maybe my life will finally be fullfilled iam also cuban an we have the same backround that i cant have with my baby daddy i dont kno if i missed anything jus let me knowNEED HELP GUYS PLEASE IAM IN LOVE WITH TO MEN ADVICE?
Guy 1. Don't be a fool and dump a decent but imperfect life to chase down a fantasy.
And for the LOVE OF GOD please - the whole baby daddy ghetto talk - it really makes you look like an imbecile.NEED HELP GUYS PLEASE IAM IN LOVE WITH TO MEN ADVICE?
Go with Guy 2....it will be hard in the beginning, but its simple to see that you are leaning toward guy one because of the child. Sure that is commendable because of the child, but know that you have to be happy too.
One, TWO, three
';to'; isn't a number.
How far did you get in school?
And I'd answer this, but I have no idea what it is asking, sorry.
You use so many words to say little about nothing,
You are so selfish!!
Guy2 says his ex is a slut and what do you think he thinks of you? Do you honestly think if you leave Guy1 that things will work out with Guy2?
Guy1 deserves better than you, so maybe you should leave him.
I would go with your baby daddy. Only because you have this child together. If you get along with him, and he loves you then that is that. However, you need to decide what you want.
Men- If you had to give a woman advice on what to look for in a husband?
what would you recommend?
It can be any characteristic, social attribute, physical attribute-- anything you can think of. List in order of importance.Men- If you had to give a woman advice on what to look for in a husband?
sanity
humor
compassion
health
patienceMen- If you had to give a woman advice on what to look for in a husband?
Look always behind the appearance and look for the heart.
Don't get caught up in a game of vanity or excitement ever.
Look for someone who is humble, someone who still loves his parents and family, someone who is a hard worker, who knows the value and love of hard work, not someone who is a player or some kind of gambler with your heart.
Look for someone who you think likes you back. They care about you and not what you have. They are nice to you and so on.. blah blah
um looks dont mean anything.
I'm not helping. Make sure that they aren't trying to impress you by beeing somebody else. Odds are they are bound to do something like that again in another way. Insecurity...
GOOD LUCK!!!
you have to love questions like this one, it's so terribly difficult to answer a question about what one would recommend for you, not knowing you.
Character is based on your perception, so lets start with what you think is important
1 someone that makes you laugh 2 must respect you never go to bed too soon remember a slapper is for fun a wife is somone to care and share that makes a lifelong relationship
Someone who cherishes your feelings.
A happy individual.
Made of money.
Physical attributes dunt matter.
A person who can support your views on the world.
A person who loves you no matter what.
honesty and compromise.
Respect for ALL other people especially those he could be rude to with no consequence.
One who does what he says he will do.
One who doesn't have to spend money to feel good about himself.
Patience
Funny
Good Communicator
Family Orientated
Outgoing
Clean
Spiritual
Unconditional Lover
Stability,
Charitable,
Wants to spend time with you.
Honesty
Righteousness
Thoughtfulness
Handiness
Kind hearted
You should be asking women who have been cheated on - what to look out for.
Marry a man who loves you more than you love him
It can be any characteristic, social attribute, physical attribute-- anything you can think of. List in order of importance.Men- If you had to give a woman advice on what to look for in a husband?
sanity
humor
compassion
health
patienceMen- If you had to give a woman advice on what to look for in a husband?
Look always behind the appearance and look for the heart.
Don't get caught up in a game of vanity or excitement ever.
Look for someone who is humble, someone who still loves his parents and family, someone who is a hard worker, who knows the value and love of hard work, not someone who is a player or some kind of gambler with your heart.
Look for someone who you think likes you back. They care about you and not what you have. They are nice to you and so on.. blah blah
um looks dont mean anything.
I'm not helping. Make sure that they aren't trying to impress you by beeing somebody else. Odds are they are bound to do something like that again in another way. Insecurity...
GOOD LUCK!!!
you have to love questions like this one, it's so terribly difficult to answer a question about what one would recommend for you, not knowing you.
Character is based on your perception, so lets start with what you think is important
1 someone that makes you laugh 2 must respect you never go to bed too soon remember a slapper is for fun a wife is somone to care and share that makes a lifelong relationship
Someone who cherishes your feelings.
A happy individual.
Made of money.
Physical attributes dunt matter.
A person who can support your views on the world.
A person who loves you no matter what.
honesty and compromise.
Respect for ALL other people especially those he could be rude to with no consequence.
One who does what he says he will do.
One who doesn't have to spend money to feel good about himself.
Patience
Funny
Good Communicator
Family Orientated
Outgoing
Clean
Spiritual
Unconditional Lover
Stability,
Charitable,
Wants to spend time with you.
Honesty
Righteousness
Thoughtfulness
Handiness
Kind hearted
You should be asking women who have been cheated on - what to look out for.
Marry a man who loves you more than you love him
Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
ok, so today, i'm in barnes and noble, asking about my account when a man i had noticed a few minutes earlier happens to approach the desk and says to me, ';killer boots.'; (i was wearing ankle high stilettos). i laughed and said, ';thank you. they make me taller.'; the lady behind the desk asked my e-mail address so that she could look up my account. by that time, the man was on the other side of the desk, waiting his turn. i gave her the address, walked off and continued to shop for books. when i arrived home a few hours later, there was an e-mail waiting for me that said exactly this: ';if a man overhears your e-mail address at barnes and noble and writes to you, is that considered stalking;)?'; now, the guy seemed like a normal, successful, slightly older guy, a little gray hair, but not OLD, OLD. the question is: is this something i should ignore and be concerned about OR should i even consider the thought of e-mailing back to see what the scoop is with the guy?Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
I'd avoid it. That's creepy...
If he was in line behind you at Starbucks and you tell the cashier how much you like blueberry muffins, then a few minutes later he shows up with a muffin, okay fine. He's not taking your personal information for his own use, he's just buying a muffin and being nice.
Moreso, he didn't even talk to you much; he just commented on your shoes. Then he keeps your personal info? That crosses the line. The fact that his off-color joke about ';stalking'; isn't evn funny - rather that it's realistic - should send up a red flag.
He could be a good guy but he's gonna miss out this time because he doesn't know how to approach women. If your ex seemed normal, imagine how a guy would be if he seemed crazy! Even crazier??
I'd email him back and say that he was in NO position to email you because you didn't tell the information to him. Add that he shouldn't try to contact you again.
In case he does anything weird, just keep the emails, just to be safe.
Good luck!!Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
I would say proceed with caution but I don't see why you couldn't just e-mail the guy back to see what he's all about. Just make sure you don't give him any personal information like where you live, where you work, your phone number, or your last name especially since he lives obviously so close to you.
Anyways, just be cautious about what you talk about to him in the e-mail and don't believe everything he tells you. Good luck and be safe.
That is kind of freaky. You know nothing about him and he thought it would be ok to overhear your email address and actually send you an e-mail. Now he knows your first and last name. Don't respond because you might open a door that should remain closed. Next he might think it's ok to search you name for an address and then just casually show up at your door! Block him and hope you don't run into him again.
my honest opinion is that that is weird he should have asked when he had the chance but it can always end up with a happily ever after like tho's romantic comedies
but if you're way young compare to him he's a creep
and yeah you could reply but if you two meet meet in a public place starbucks and don't go off later with him lunch is a good time cause its bright outside and be careful always keep your cell phone near
well...you have to move on and take a new breath...
what's so wrong just to e-mail him back?
he just know your e-mail, not your house address, so if by any chance you don't like him, just said 'good-bye' via e-mail...hohohohohoho...
it's true that you have to be careful...but not every man just twisted like your ex-husband,
just try to e-mail back, and see what happen next...
n_n
Why did he have to do a burglary of you conversation with the clerk. Sure the comment was great,but why be sneaky with the e-mail. come on be brave and say can i have you e-mail or phone # or give his and say call me.If you want to meet him do it in a public place or don't take the chance. There's some crazy crazy people out there
It's totally up to you. I mean, just because your ex was flakey doesn't necessarily mean this guy is. Maybe you could meet somewhere for dinner and just get to know each other. That way if you don't like him, there doesn't have to be a second date and he doesn't know where you live or anything.
What this scenario tells you about the guy in B %26amp; N is that he realizes that his behavior might be a little threatening but he has the gonads to take chances (how far do you get in life without them?)
The only question remaining is: Do you have the gonads to answer his e-mail?
If you're interested, take a chance. You only live once.
But I'd give the same advice I'd give to anyone going on a blind date: make sure you meet in a public place where you can easily get away if any alarm bells ring. Have your cell phone with you, and enough money to cover your meal and a taxi if the worst comes to the worst!
Oh yeah a guy over hears your email and takes the initiative to email you an icebreaker type email just to see if there is any room for possible interaction. Hmmm quick call the FBI he must be a terrorist or Sex offender or something don't ya think? Get real good for him to make a move.
Definitely don't base this guy off your past experience with your ex, that doesn't seem fair. I think what you should do should be based solely upon your impression of this guy. Are you interested in him? Want to get to know him more? If you are you should email him back.
It does seem strange... talk to him if you're interested, but don't give him any personal information (first name only). You can always block him later. If you don't want to talk to him though then don't. Follow your instincts.
its not HOW you met a guy thats gonna tell you if he's a looney or not. if your curious then check him out, if not then dont. simple...
either way...get to know a guy profusely (if possible) before you marry them, if possible.
sometimes older guys may think that stuff like that is funny, but I would ask yourself ';Can I live without hearing what this guy has to say';, if the answer is yes, why chance it.
Just because someone hits on you in a public place doesn't mean he's a psychopath. If your interested respond, if not don't. You don't have to marry the guy.
watch this vid it will help you with everything you need to know
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgIom5rIS鈥?/a>
i dont kno. he could be some crazyy killer. just dont be jumpy and give any clues on where u live or where u go or anyway he can find you. you can tell one thng he is interested in and its sex..
I WOULD JUST EMAIL BACK. IT'S ONLY THROUGH EMAIL AND IF YOU LIKE WHAT YOU READ THEN MABEY TAKE IT FURTHER IF NOT THENREPLY AN TELL HIM THAT HE TOTALLY VIOLATED!
If you are semi interested in this man then why not take a shot? Now that you have experience with lying men you'll know what to look for!
If you have no interest, then definitely don't respond
If you might, just email back and see where it goes.
Sounds like the beginning to a Jackie Collins novel.
It depends on if you like him???? Stranger things have happened. ANd half of the world is bi-polar from what Ive learned LOL
take a chance...u dont live forever
Go for it,
Ignore the hell out of him dont respond and if u can change ur email address
okay A) that is creepy. and B) what's wrong with bipolar?
Wow, you've got to be a little flattered by that. A guy taking such exceptional notice of you to the point that he eavesdrops to find out more? Girls use that tactic all the time and if our crushes ever found out the lengths we went to find out more about them, it would be considered stalking too!
Just try to remember your initial reaction when he commented on your boots. If your creep radar didn't start going crazy, he's probably just a normal guy interested in you. And his little email was probably his way of getting the stalking thing out in the open so as to assure you that he's totally aware that his moves are a little less than orthodox.
If you think you might be interested, go ahead and reply! You don't have to give any personal information, you can keep your distance, and you can gauge his personality based on your exchanges. It's really a personal preference, but look for good grammar, spelling, and punctuation... that will tell your right away if it's even worth having an intelligent conversation with this guy. Also if he's overtly sexual or flirty,
you might want to pass if you're not into casual encounters.
But if you don't want to pursue it all, whether you emailed him back or not, realize you're under no obligation to even respond. Emails are pretty harmless. I'd say go for it (with caution as always).female mask
I'd avoid it. That's creepy...
If he was in line behind you at Starbucks and you tell the cashier how much you like blueberry muffins, then a few minutes later he shows up with a muffin, okay fine. He's not taking your personal information for his own use, he's just buying a muffin and being nice.
Moreso, he didn't even talk to you much; he just commented on your shoes. Then he keeps your personal info? That crosses the line. The fact that his off-color joke about ';stalking'; isn't evn funny - rather that it's realistic - should send up a red flag.
He could be a good guy but he's gonna miss out this time because he doesn't know how to approach women. If your ex seemed normal, imagine how a guy would be if he seemed crazy! Even crazier??
I'd email him back and say that he was in NO position to email you because you didn't tell the information to him. Add that he shouldn't try to contact you again.
In case he does anything weird, just keep the emails, just to be safe.
Good luck!!Was married my entire adult life, need some ';strange men'; advice.?
I would say proceed with caution but I don't see why you couldn't just e-mail the guy back to see what he's all about. Just make sure you don't give him any personal information like where you live, where you work, your phone number, or your last name especially since he lives obviously so close to you.
Anyways, just be cautious about what you talk about to him in the e-mail and don't believe everything he tells you. Good luck and be safe.
That is kind of freaky. You know nothing about him and he thought it would be ok to overhear your email address and actually send you an e-mail. Now he knows your first and last name. Don't respond because you might open a door that should remain closed. Next he might think it's ok to search you name for an address and then just casually show up at your door! Block him and hope you don't run into him again.
my honest opinion is that that is weird he should have asked when he had the chance but it can always end up with a happily ever after like tho's romantic comedies
but if you're way young compare to him he's a creep
and yeah you could reply but if you two meet meet in a public place starbucks and don't go off later with him lunch is a good time cause its bright outside and be careful always keep your cell phone near
well...you have to move on and take a new breath...
what's so wrong just to e-mail him back?
he just know your e-mail, not your house address, so if by any chance you don't like him, just said 'good-bye' via e-mail...hohohohohoho...
it's true that you have to be careful...but not every man just twisted like your ex-husband,
just try to e-mail back, and see what happen next...
n_n
Why did he have to do a burglary of you conversation with the clerk. Sure the comment was great,but why be sneaky with the e-mail. come on be brave and say can i have you e-mail or phone # or give his and say call me.If you want to meet him do it in a public place or don't take the chance. There's some crazy crazy people out there
It's totally up to you. I mean, just because your ex was flakey doesn't necessarily mean this guy is. Maybe you could meet somewhere for dinner and just get to know each other. That way if you don't like him, there doesn't have to be a second date and he doesn't know where you live or anything.
What this scenario tells you about the guy in B %26amp; N is that he realizes that his behavior might be a little threatening but he has the gonads to take chances (how far do you get in life without them?)
The only question remaining is: Do you have the gonads to answer his e-mail?
If you're interested, take a chance. You only live once.
But I'd give the same advice I'd give to anyone going on a blind date: make sure you meet in a public place where you can easily get away if any alarm bells ring. Have your cell phone with you, and enough money to cover your meal and a taxi if the worst comes to the worst!
Oh yeah a guy over hears your email and takes the initiative to email you an icebreaker type email just to see if there is any room for possible interaction. Hmmm quick call the FBI he must be a terrorist or Sex offender or something don't ya think? Get real good for him to make a move.
Definitely don't base this guy off your past experience with your ex, that doesn't seem fair. I think what you should do should be based solely upon your impression of this guy. Are you interested in him? Want to get to know him more? If you are you should email him back.
It does seem strange... talk to him if you're interested, but don't give him any personal information (first name only). You can always block him later. If you don't want to talk to him though then don't. Follow your instincts.
its not HOW you met a guy thats gonna tell you if he's a looney or not. if your curious then check him out, if not then dont. simple...
either way...get to know a guy profusely (if possible) before you marry them, if possible.
sometimes older guys may think that stuff like that is funny, but I would ask yourself ';Can I live without hearing what this guy has to say';, if the answer is yes, why chance it.
Just because someone hits on you in a public place doesn't mean he's a psychopath. If your interested respond, if not don't. You don't have to marry the guy.
watch this vid it will help you with everything you need to know
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fgIom5rIS鈥?/a>
i dont kno. he could be some crazyy killer. just dont be jumpy and give any clues on where u live or where u go or anyway he can find you. you can tell one thng he is interested in and its sex..
I WOULD JUST EMAIL BACK. IT'S ONLY THROUGH EMAIL AND IF YOU LIKE WHAT YOU READ THEN MABEY TAKE IT FURTHER IF NOT THENREPLY AN TELL HIM THAT HE TOTALLY VIOLATED!
If you are semi interested in this man then why not take a shot? Now that you have experience with lying men you'll know what to look for!
If you have no interest, then definitely don't respond
If you might, just email back and see where it goes.
Sounds like the beginning to a Jackie Collins novel.
It depends on if you like him???? Stranger things have happened. ANd half of the world is bi-polar from what Ive learned LOL
take a chance...u dont live forever
Go for it,
Ignore the hell out of him dont respond and if u can change ur email address
okay A) that is creepy. and B) what's wrong with bipolar?
Wow, you've got to be a little flattered by that. A guy taking such exceptional notice of you to the point that he eavesdrops to find out more? Girls use that tactic all the time and if our crushes ever found out the lengths we went to find out more about them, it would be considered stalking too!
Just try to remember your initial reaction when he commented on your boots. If your creep radar didn't start going crazy, he's probably just a normal guy interested in you. And his little email was probably his way of getting the stalking thing out in the open so as to assure you that he's totally aware that his moves are a little less than orthodox.
If you think you might be interested, go ahead and reply! You don't have to give any personal information, you can keep your distance, and you can gauge his personality based on your exchanges. It's really a personal preference, but look for good grammar, spelling, and punctuation... that will tell your right away if it's even worth having an intelligent conversation with this guy. Also if he's overtly sexual or flirty,
you might want to pass if you're not into casual encounters.
But if you don't want to pursue it all, whether you emailed him back or not, realize you're under no obligation to even respond. Emails are pretty harmless. I'd say go for it (with caution as always).
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