I need some serious advice.. Men speak Up!! lol?

I have been on this site for days, no one will answer my ?


Cant seem to let go? Did he move on?


Ok , so this would have been the last thing that i would have ever thought of doing.. Discussing my issues with strangers or online.lol. Need serious advice though..Friends, proffesionals, time and even meditations are not working!! Heres the story.. I make it quick, I dated this guy for about 3 years now, fell madly in love as we both were , but from the beginning things started gettin rocky. I am a model, college grad, lots of friends, and he made me stop all of that because he said i was too friendly. I sacrifised everything for him. Then things became physical, very pyshical and we kept breaking up on and off but he'd call me every other week n we would still see n be intimate. I recently moved wanting a new start 6 months ago but let him back in. In my new apt 4 months ago he decided to get pyshical again n i called the police. Long story short, we couldnt see each other till court, he promised if i dropped everything which i did he'd work us out again. After court was over, and everything went in his favor becuase of me, he only called me once for sex. I told him please call for lunch or dinner not a booty call. I havent heard from him in 2 months now, last he said was please move on, we are not compatible, and i need to let u go. I cant move on though, i cant focus at work or be thankful for anything good i have, nothing is helping. Has he met someone new? Will he miss me? What is going on. I took him back after all his abuse. Im a beautfiul young indepent women.. What should I do.. He also stated in our last conversation when i told him ive been waiting all summer after court for him n not even met anyone that i was a liar and probably out doing me and dating. I feel like he doesnt even know me. I have been faithful from day 1 even now 2 months later.. What do i do to move onor get him back??I need some serious advice.. Men speak Up!! lol?
Ok ... I'm speaking up ... so listen up..





Yes he will miss you .. and the great sex you both enjoyed....





No .. you shouldn't let him back in to your life .. he has control and jealousy issues ... (that's why he had you break your ties) ....





Find a guy who has a bit more life experience, who knows how to treat a lady.... a person who is really into you ... not just for sex, but really wants you to finish your education, be social, be you friend and lover.





They are out there ... not all fall from the GQ Cover .... never judge the content by the wrapper.





Good Luck, I hope you find a real man and not another boy pretender.I need some serious advice.. Men speak Up!! lol?
There are all kinds of books out there on abuse. Something is going on with you that you are willing to subject yourself to abuse.





Even pretty girls have self esteem issues. Do some reading, get some help. BEFORE you get hurt.
You need to seriously move on. If you cannot see the cycle by now, I'm afraid you never will. Either get enough guts/smarts to move on now or be doomed to repeat this all over time and time again until something catastrophic happens.

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Ex boyfriend advice- MEN ages 30-40 HELP ME!!!?

I need some serious advice and insight-


My ex and I have been having fights lately. His father has stage 4 lung cancer and it's gotten progressively worse. J, my boyfriend, is in a state of despression, self-reflection (he has some issues within himself he wants to work out), and intense stress. We have ';broken up'; but, we talk every day and after we have huge blow-outs...we admit that we love and care for each other. We also continue to express that we miss each other and feel like we have lost our best friend. We are in contact constantly and care about what's going on in the others lives.


WHAT IS GOING ON???





Is this person keeping me in his life because he loves me and wants us to work out? Do you think he feels weak as a man right now and just needs time to sort his **** out before he can try and focus on our relationship again? This is a good man, who is 38- not looking to play games and waste time. We are both staying faithful to the other eventhough we are not technically ';together';. How do I interpret his love and continuing to reach out and engage in my life? Does he just need time to get strong again and get a grip on his issues and dealing with his father dying?


We wanted to get married and have a family. Something we were very open and honest about. Should I hold onto faith that this will work itself out since there is so much love? Should I give him space to resolve his stress and issues and trust he will come back since he hasn't really done anything to PROVE that he wants to lose me?


Thanks!





TEx boyfriend advice- MEN ages 30-40 HELP ME!!!?
Dear Mookie 41,





I posed this question to my 44 year old male friend. If your boyfriend's father is dying, the absolute best thing you can do is give him space.





There are a great deal of emotional issues (especially with men) that need to be brought to closure before the departure of the loved one. Without satisfying this to any degree, any other relationship you hope to rekindle with him is doomed.





It may not be what you want to hear at this time, but it is the absolute truth.





The next time you talk to your beau, ask him about his favorite memory with his father. When he shares it, ask him if he has ever shared that story with his own father.





It is the most selfless thing you can do for him -- and you will be the one he will show gratitude to down the road for helping him deal with one of the toughest times in his life.

This is for those in the US Army.especially married service men/women..Advice?

Ok.





I am from Australia. Soon, i will be filing for an adjustment of status to US resident..then of course..the waiting game..the.. i will have my greencard.





My wife and i have been talking and i was thinking of joining the Army after i receive residency status. Most of my life i spent driving forklifts and working in a storage environment.





What are your experiences with the US Army? Would there be..say..room for people like me?This is for those in the US Army.especially married service men/women..Advice?
There's room for anyone in good shape. I was in recently but was medically discharged before I could go to Iraq unfortunately.





First of all, when you talk to the recruiter, ask him about something called the ';trail blazer'; during basic training. They change the name occasionally. It basically involves being able to max out the AIT PT test at day 1. You want to do that.





Since you're married, you'll probably want to get a non-combat MOS. (Although I took a combat MOS because I'm married) Try for something along the lines of supply clerk, mechanic, or something of the like. Don't worry if you aren't trained, they'll teach you everything. Mortician is a messy and unpleasant job, but if you can handle, it usually has a great signing bonus. DO NOT GO 88M! Those are truck drivers. They have the highest mortality rate in Iraq and they need everyone they can get. It sound good and easy, but it's not cool.





Signing bonuses are paid after AIT, as much as 6 months later depending on the MOS. Married people should stay away from counter intelligence since that could keep you away 10 months out of the year, but it's my number one suggestion for single people.





Just so you know, Basic Training is all about messing with your mind. When you get on base, just turn your personality off for about 3 or 4 months.





Injuries in the Army. The Army is mean on this one. If you get injured during anytime you get handed your orders and taken to the airport and the end of AIT, THEY WILL TRY to pass it off as a prior injury, no matter how stupid. I saw guys getting general discharge on collapsed arches. Not a pleasant thing, but I did see an honorable on a hernia.





Well, the first few months are hell, after that, it's sweet. It's good job, you're taken care of, and if you learn well, you have plenty of potential. If you go to Iraq, you can still get free college there. And you should take every opportunity for college credits possible. A degree means eligibility for officer training and a good position in the army.





And finally, make sure you fill out the paper work correctly. Take your time, especially when calculating income. Being married, I made more than the lieutenant as a PVT.





It's a good life, but it is the Army and the Army is about war. For some reason a bunch of kids these days forget that when they sign the papers. They think about travel and college and easy money and forget that it's about fighting.





Well, I encourage it and wish you luck.This is for those in the US Army.especially married service men/women..Advice?
if you are young guy yes.
i am in the army now





if you join, keep in mind you WILL deploy, and you will be seperated from your family.......





there are benifits though, you AND your family get really good health care the pay is a little light but they make up for it in housing alowence, and other benifits.





as far as ';some one like you'; joining, i used to work in a whare house, a lumber mill and a whole slew of factories as a laborer, mindless work.





now i'm trained in a job which i use my brain about 95% more than my brawn .





you can join, study for the ASVAB test it is what they use to see what you are qualafied for.
Do everything legally, and you'll do just fine. I know several people who have come from Africa, Asia, South America, and Europe and went right into the U.S. military. It's a great thing that our country does by making it easy to serve, and you're rewarded very well. It makes getting your citizenship a bit smoother, as well.





Keep in mind, though, that there's a war. Chances are that you'll be going to Iraq, *especially* if you become a medic or something along those lines. Well, you're looking at the Army. No matter what you decide to do, you'll probably end up in Iraq. Of course, if you support the war, you may be willing to go...but many people I know don't and they dislike it. That, and you'll be seperated from family and home.





Then again, there are so many benefits. I've literally seen the world thanks to the Air Force, and I couldn't ask for more.





If it's your dream, don't let Iraq stand in the way.
My experience is with the US Air Force, 22 years active and currently retired.





I can't recall any assignment, or any base where a good material handler wasn't a valuable commodity. If you are looking for something else, just talk with recruiter.





Good Luck
The prospects for enlistment are very good... Contact an Army recruiter and talk (YOU DONT HAVE TO SIGN UP THEN) and see what your options are.
I have been in the military and it was probably the best thing I ever did for myself. No matter your qualifications they will train you to do something.





Good luck and I think it's a good idea.
I agree with Charlie. You probably will be deployed. Try something medical. X-ray tech, lab tech, medic: something that can be used on the outside. I was in the military for 7 years. It was a good experience, but I was single at the time. good luck
I was think you might be too old. I thought they limit was twenty seven, but its more like 34-35 and now there is talk about raising to 42.
There's plenty of room in the army. The age limit is currently 40, and you can get an accelerated citizenship.
WELL AS LONG AS YOU ARE A LEGAL CITIZEN YOU SHOULD BE FINE. I AM NOT IN THE ARMY BUT I AM IN THE AIR FORCE. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO OR DON'T HOW TO DO THEY WILL TRAIN YOU FOR YOUR JOB. BUT KNOWING HOW TO DRIVE A FORKLIFT MAY HELP A LITTLE. I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK BECAUSE WE NEED MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT ARE WILLING TO JOIN THE SERVICE OUT OF FREE WILL AND I THINK YOU WILL LIKE IT.

Men.. sex advice please. as many answers as possible!?

when having sex or going down on a man should you slow down, stop, go faster, stay at the same pace ect.. when he c*ms? i never really no what to do at that point and when your with someone who doesnt comunicate that well it can be a little tricky.. any tips advice welcome. thanks! and i would rather not have advice like get him to comunicate..Men.. sex advice please. as many answers as possible!?
For sex:


My guy normally pulls out when he cums. But we have gone after he does, and when I'm on top, I go kinda fast and hard. But when hes on top and he cums, he goes a little slower because he doesn't want the condom to break.Men.. sex advice please. as many answers as possible!?
When he finishes, it is usually best to slow down to give him a chance to recharge. It is best if you could get him to communicate, but if he will not, then I would just slow down once you know that he is completely done.





Even though he may tell you fast is better, you may find that going slow is still better if you do go slow the whole time. He may not admit it right off the bat though.





You just need to go with the flow, but when he is done, go slow, and see if you can get him to go again. He should be more than happy to take care of you though also.
put it in as deep as you can, move your tongue alot...alot of suction but makes sure you ease up as it subsides...or youll make him jump....swallow, or take it on your face...(dead serious)
Sorry I'm a girl, but I can tell you that my hubby likes a combo of slow, fast, teasing, etc.
Read his body language! Tune in to it and you will be able to tell what he likes.

Men, your advice please?

During a girl's first time, is there anything she can do to make it easier for both people, especially if the guy is already experienced? Any tips are appreciated.





Thank you.Men, your advice please?
make sure hes gonna stop if u want him to it can hurt sometimes.. however it might not.. you also need to be sure if ur uncomfortable with it that he will stop.. you need to give him lots of notice not two seconds b4 he comes..





good luck =)Men, your advice please?
i'm a virgin.. but all in all i know that you should be honest about how you feel throughout process and definitely use protection
make sure he is the right one. How old are you?
be honest and say if it hurts and just let the guy lead if he has experiance you should be ok with him leading
Take your time over it and don't do it if your not ready to. If he's already had experience then he'll know what he's doing so to a certain extent you can let him lead but don't just leave him hold him and ake sure he's appreciated so affection is always good. If it hurts then tell him don't be afraid of that make sure he's aware it's your first time and it shouldn't be rushed, that may cause pain just let him do it slowly and you'll be fine. Most of all enjoy it!

Any advice men? Is he genuine?

i am in a dead end relationship that has been on the rocks for about a year, we split up for 5m last year %26amp; got back together to try again but its only got worse. Thn October last year i met a man in the place i work who i assumed was a bit of a player but i was really attracted to him and we got on great. He spent 2months tryin 2get my number even tho he new i had a bf %26amp; i gave in n we started txtin/talking/seeing eachother all the time.Daily.The chemistry is amazing, we have the same tastes, we're comfortable around eachother. He has opened up to me about his past, i've met his mates %26amp; he wants me to meet his sis.I think we both thought it was just harmless fun in the beginning but we've both developed strong feelings for eachother even though we've just been 'dating' since November and haven't slept together and he say's he is prepared to wait as long as it takes. Last week he told me he was fallin in love with me and since then has become much more bothered by the fact i have a bfAny advice men? Is he genuine?
I would come out and have a direct talk with this new guy and tell him exactly what your concerns are. And if he really is willing to wait is he willing then to get a place for you to move in with him, is he willing to get you an engagement ring... I would ask those hard questions before ending your marriage not matter at what state that marriage is inAny advice men? Is he genuine?
A player obviously knows how to charm women, otherwise how can he be a player?





If you really want him THAT badly, go for it. Even if you ended up getting conned, it's not so bad. It's not as if you'll lose a pound of flesh
There is no way to know for certain if he is genuine, but if he wants you to break up with your boyfriend you at least know that he wants you 24/7 and not just for some side lovin' with no strings.





(Unless the only way he can get any lovin' is when you are without your old guy, then it could be an elaborate game, especially if he has other females taking care of him while he waits for U)





With this guy, though, understand you are not just dating him. He has a little solar system of people around him like and ex wive, kids, ex-grandparents, etc that are going to be part of the equation, no matter what.





If you do not mind his extra luggage, give it a shot.





In reality, though, you have decided to jump for the first bloke that popped up with a wink and a smile, that looked better than the winner you had.





Might want to look around a bit and see what other men are out there.
He sounds like a winner to me, if he was a player he would have already moved on because you have not given him sex. It's time to dump your ex and move on to greener pastures. I met my wife at work and we were both in loveless marriages at the time. So give this relationship a try. Good luck

Meeting men -- eye contact advice for a shy girl?

ok. i am 34, single and attractive.. BUT i am SHY. i've decided that having better eye contact will increase my chances of meeting men. so... how do i practice eye contact when i've spent my entire life NOT looking at strangers? (i've done very well with practicing ALOOF and MYSTERIOUS!).





even when i'm walking down the street, i should be making eye contact with cute men. any TIPS for a shy girl on how to do this -- when it terrifies me? thanks...Meeting men -- eye contact advice for a shy girl?
Well if you really want to look someone in the eye, you should. Break out of your shell and take some kind of chance. It'll feel weird, but it'll get better, and you'll be more used to it the more and more you do it. Try small things at first. When you go to the store, look people in the eyes that're shopping just like you are. You'll eventually get over your fear.


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