About to get married would like friendly sex advice from happily married men?

What still excites you about your wife? What games are fun? Just looking for lighthearted sex stories and good fun advice. Thank YouAbout to get married would like friendly sex advice from happily married men?
Been happily married to my wonderful wife for 20 years. We are both 46. This is how I would rate our sex life on a 1-10 scale with 10 being the best:


- Before marriage: 9


- After marriage, before kids: 9


- After all 3 kids: 9+





Our marriage is great because we truly put each other ';first'; in terms of making each other happy. Part of keeping the passion level high is staying fit. At 46, we both weigh the same and look - body wise - about the same as we did at 26. This takes effort and is SO worth it.





Before all the technique stuff - I am almost never bored with sex. How can that be after 20 years with the same person. When we get in bed I can tell my wife has a genuine desire to make it great for me - and me for her. She is 100% focused on me, having someone love you like that simply never gets boring.





During a life long marriage, your baseline desire levels change. Sometimes one spouse is in overdrive, and the other has a very low drive - could be from hormones, stress, etc.





In the average marriage what happens is that the ';low drive'; spouse dictates sexual frequency. They simply say ';I am only in the mood once a week or once every 10 days, so you just need accept that and quit bugging me about it'; This makes the high drive spouse feel awful.





In a high functioning marriage the low drive spouse says: You start out aroused, I don't. So I will teach you how to get me from totally uninterested in sex, to super turned on, in a way that I like.





Being french kissed before she is turned on, is a turn ';off'; for my wife. But getting a nice back massage is very relaxing for her, and having her legs massaged the right way starts to warm her up. And once she is a little warm, having her inner thighs massaged and her butt massaged and having me talk to her in a sexy way - sometimes loving - sometimes dominant commanding/aggressive - gets her hot. And after 10 - 20 - 30 minutes of this she looks up and says ';kiss me'; and we go from there. That willingness to teach your partner how to get you turned on when you are not at all in the mood to start - that is a beautiful thing.





As for being great in bed, we play this game sometimes. I kiss, you kiss, I touch, you touch. She kisses me the way she wants me to kiss HER. And then I kiss her that way. And we practice a little until she says - ';perfect';. And then she touches me the way she wants me to touch her - you can use his nipple as a substitute for your joy button. You can teach him how to do oral using his nipple - and he can teach you how to do oral by showing you what he likes on one of your fingers.About to get married would like friendly sex advice from happily married men?
NEVER use sex as a tool to get what you want! ! !





Initiate sex at least 1/2 of the time!





Try to get in the mood at least every other day for the first year and at least 2 times a week for the rest of your lives! ! !





Find about 4 to 6 positions that you BOTH enjoy and use them! (No one needs more than 6 enjoyable positions we are NOT porn stars)





COMMUNICATION IS KEY! ! Then ENJOY
My husband is Hispanic so I like to rub Olive oil all over him and tie him up and humiliate him, calling him ';grease-ball';................











LOL! Hahaha!! Just kidding!





He is hispanic though.......just not ';lawnmower'; hispanic.........
Ask your husband what he likes personally, all people are different, what one person likes someone else may not. Not all guys have the same turn-on's ,





Seth.
Just keep that effort up after the kids come.
Lots of touching, cuddling, holding, kissing, and then
Just the sex in general. There are no games.
Great question cannot wait to read respones from men ! Congrats to you