Do You Feel That Men Shouldn't Give Advice On Pregnancy?

Because they don't go through the actual process?





Sometimes I see both men and women provide totally untruthful answers to pregnancy questions. Do you feel that men have nothing to offer in the pregnancy section? I am in no way putting down men because it's nice to hear from the other side, but I am just wondering what you think. Men, please feel free to answer and give insight as to why and how you answer in the pregnancy section :)Do You Feel That Men Shouldn't Give Advice On Pregnancy?
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how it feels and how it's going to be to birth, no I don't feel in any way qualified. General baby names and psychological questions, yes I feel we an help there.Do You Feel That Men Shouldn't Give Advice On Pregnancy?
As for the actual physical aspect of pregnancy, they would have no experience so no, they shouldn't be giving advice on pregnancy in that respect.





HOWEVER





I do feel they can provide valuable input, especially to other men, if they have been through a pregnancy with their wife/gf/so. Alot of men will also take the time to do research and read up alot on pregnancy, so they could provide valuable textbook information. It's always nice to have another's opinion whether it be male or female, and like you say, there are some women out there that give horrid pregnancy advice too.
I think if they can offer something positive then they definitely should. I know my husband has been through 3 pregnancies and would be good at giving advice to someone who needs it as he often tells me things that I am not catching or too tired and busy to realize! They can also offer their point of view on things from the partners perspective and that can also be useful to pregnant women! He may not be the one physically carrying the baby but he's just as pregnant as I am!
For the most part I feel that women are the best source for answers on pregnancy because they actually go through the entire process from beginning to end and feel things that men have never experienced.





On the other hand, some men get very involved in their wife's pregnancy and have a lot of insight to share. They may actually know the answer because their wife experienced that particular situation. My husband actually delivered our youngest at home and cut the umbilical cord. He was very involved in the pregnancy. If a question was about delivery, then he probably would be able to answer from experience. Other men have no clue.





So my answer to this question would be.....it just depends on the question and the man answering it :)
I think men can have a lot of valuable things to say when it comes to pregnancy. Obviously never having been pregnant themselves they cannot relate to that, but they can give advice from the male perspective, and plenty of them know the facts, and can at least try and sympathize with actual pregnancy.


In fact, one of my online friends, who is TTC with his wife, is now more informed about pregnancy than his wife now, thanks to me and all my rambling, advice and from our conversations about my own pregnancies. He even researches things like implantation bleeding for her, and went on a diet and cut out coffee and alcohol when they were TTC. But on the other hand a lot of men give horrible pregnancy advice, and it's obvious they don't have any clue what-so-ever ;)
Well, if they've experienced a pregnancy with their wife or girlfriend and was thoroughly involved and learned a lot, then I don't see why they can't offer some advice.





Obviously, if they know nothing about it, then no, they shouldn't give advice.





Btw.... my husband would NOT be able to offer advice on pregnancy. Yes, he's been through it with me, but he definitely was not that involved to know anything about it. lol
I don't think they should answer in the areas they know nothing about(i.e. how it feels to have a baby inside of you, how contractions feel, the changes your breasts go through, etc.). If i'ts something as personal as that I don't think ';My wife/girlfriend said....'; will cut it. I want PERSONAL answers from those that have been there before.





If it's something general like asking about when you can find out the gender or how far along you were when you heard the heart beat then I have no problems with that.





I think it's great that the men in our lives take interest in what we're going through but there isn't anything like first hand experience when it comes to certain things!
as a woman, i can tell you how pregnancy felt, detail by detail. but as a man, my husband can tell you how we pulled through it.


both my pregnancies were difficult. my husband had to take care of me and learn the practical side of giving birth. he knows all the medications i had to take, the kinds of food i needed, the exercises i had to do, the stuff he had to pack, the room he had to prepare, etc. altho up to now, he will never understand the quirky emotional side of pregnancy, he can answer questions about the logical way of caring for the pregnant woman.


i guess it really depends on the man. if one loves his wife so much, he will learn as much as he can about what his significant other is going through. :)
nope i don't mind at all actually my hubby gave me plenty of advise and i didn't mind it at all of course he can't have baby's but he does know alot :) there is also another guy on here his name is seth and he always helps alot of lady's advise about pregnancy and his wife is pregnant with twins! hey i say if they can give advise i would glady take it!
OBs are mostly men. You suppose they shouldn't give advice either? There are plenty of men who comment based on the experience of their wives or gfs. I have more of an issue with a 16 year old providing an 'answer' than a guy whose wife has had a baby.
I think it all depends on what the question involves. Things about discharge, labor pains, and breastfeeding they have no business answering. But if it has to do with arguing with your boyfriend/husband, and other situations then I think they can have a say in things.
well ithink some of the men give very reasonable answers or suggestions as some have wives and girl friends who have been pregnant before and as such know what they talking about. but majority of them only come here to mess about which is very childish.
Well if they answer saying something like ';my wife experienced this and that during her pregnancy'; it could be helpful. But other than that their answers are pretty much pointless, given they aren't a doctor lol.
I agree.





I think men shouldn't have any say about pregnancy unless they have been there.





Guys: Feel free to prove me wrong. I could be thinking one sidedly
I think that it would be okay for them to say ';my wife or gf experienced this, or has told me this or that'; but other than that...NO.
I think it is fine for men to answer here- especially on the questions about argueing with hubby/bf etc.
I don't think they should give advice they have no idea what we are going through.
I think it's fair because women answer questions in men's health and they don't have a ****
Well I think it depends on the man. If he has had 9 kids with one women then perhaps I would listen to him. But being a father of one or knowing someone who has been pregnant doesn't qualify anyone to answer questions. But to have a man who is a father of 9 with 9 different women wouldn't be the person to listen to. They most likely weren't a part of all of the pregnancies.





Men don't know what if feels like to be pregnant, they only know what we tell them. Not every pregnancy is the same. Because that mans wife or girlfriend is or was pregnant doesn't mean that they know what the answers for you are. I think this is the perfect forum to ask questions providing the right people are answering.





No I don't think that the majority of guys know what they are talking about. Some of these guys are only answering for the points. Pick your answers wisely.





I answer the questions on here because they are questions that I can or have at one time or another related to. I can express my opinions and hope that someone can get the best answers for the questions they ask. Not to say that I am always right but I try to give accurate answers to questions so that I don't steer anyone in the wrong direction. To the best of my abilities that is.





Good luck. Hope I helped.