now, she forbid me to watch porn, but i think it's ok to watch. what should I do? Leave her?
Men advice, please?Men advice, please?I love watching porn, but my girl doesnt want me to watch it. I think it's ok...?
Don't let her tell you what to do. Watch your porn and take care of yourself. Get a girl who is a little more open to being freaky. If you like porn now, that is not going to change. If you think it is OK and it's not illegal where you live then it is OK, but not with that girl in your life. I'm not saying porn should be so important. I'm saying that in order to have a strong, successful relationship, you need to have compatible sexual ideas. Otherwise, you will end up hurting her by watching porn (you will get caught) or cheating on her or something like that because she is already not compatible with your lustful desires.
There are women out there who will enjoy and want to share in your interest in porn. Find one who will not be hurt or upset by what you're doing. If you marry this girl, you will end up hurting her or depriving yourself of something you really want and that is not fair to her or you.
*** Added: Look, some people don't want porn in their life, some really like it, and some just accept it. That is YOUR decision to make for yourself. If the woman you are with cannot accept you as you are then find one who will. You need to find someone who you are compatible with and apparently she is not. If you just let her push you around about this and marry her you will end up unhappy and sneaking around to look at porn and then she will be upset WHEN she catches you. You can't keep secrets from your wife nor should you. Find a woman who shares your same morals and desires.
Don't listen to people who want you to be perfect. You know what you're going to do if you marry her and she doesn't give you as much sex as you want. And it's not fair to her to do that.
By the way, give me thumbs down. I don't care what you all think. When it comes to this question, I care only about this guy and his girlfriend. It is obvious to me that if someone enjoys porn, they will NOT just change nor will they be happy with someone who doesn't enjoy or at least accept it.
Don't keep secrets from your wife! Be open and honest with her. Make your wife your partner in everything.Men advice, please?I love watching porn, but my girl doesnt want me to watch it. I think it's ok...?
Are you going to get married? And if so are you planning to go on watching the porn? Or is it because you are frustrated? Many women dislike their husband watching porn, and if you are planning to go on watching it after marriage it might be better if you found someone who doesn't mind it. Apparently some women aren't bothered by it. If she doesn't want to have sex and you do and you are not planning to marry her, then it would probably be better to look for a girlfriend who will have sex with you.
If you love her you'll marry her. If you are even considering leaving her cos she wont let you watch porn then I think you don't love her and you shuld maybe leave the relationship. She will be worth waiting for but you have to know that you love her and respect her wishes. If you want sex she should also understand that.
In this day and age it is rare for a girl to be a virgin but respect is there for those that do.
Don't know what to say really as I cant see a compromise. Marry her.
This is about her values prior to marriage and you have differing values about having sex before marriage. She is clear what she wants. You are excited by the porn and she probably feels it makes the relationship issues tougher to deal with.
Watch porn on your own time and gratify yourself if you wish. Don't pressure her into having sex if that's not what she is about right now.
She wants more in life - a thinking, giving man and ';marriage.'; Accept her values for what they are ... if you want to marry her, set a date and propose... or leave ... it's that simple.
Well if it works you up that much maybe you need to call back on your porn.Ask her how do I know after I marry you you will have sex.You don't want it now how do I know after we get married you will want it.There is nothing wrong with watching porn as long as you don't forget a bout your wife to be.But in your case she wants you to stop watching porn but she don't want you to touch her before marriage.Tell her fine but she is going to have to come half way or the marriage is off.Tell her you maybe pure but waiting till we get married is dump.Dude just because the girl is pure don't mean she is good in bed.She maybe pure but she needs to give you something to keep you going till you do get married. Tell her there is ways to still stay pure and give you some thing to keep you going till you get married.Tell her you love her and you want only her but you have needs and you would like her to come half way.Tell her you don't want to go all the way but she need to think of your feelings too.Maybe she wants to save her self for the weddding night that's cool. But there is other ways to have sex with out having intercouse.You work on her and she works on you hey after that she may want to go all the way any way.
I know you want men's advice, but you're getting mine. If my husband needed to watch porn, we would have a major problem, because that is total disrespect. It's disrespectful because of exactly what you are doing! Your showing your wife that you need to watch porn to get turned on and then you want to have sex with her. It's like your using her. Do you really need some other broad to turn you on? What your wife can't do it?
Stupid, stupid move. It will only cause problems in your marriage and you should already know that, so if you have no idea how to love and respect your wife, then you have no idea how to treat a woman.
You aren't going to convince her (change her) into believing that porn is ok. She also likely thinks that porn is cheating, again something you won't be able to change.
So you need to decide on how important porn is in comparison to this young lady. Is it something you could honestly do with-out (and not feel tempted to look at)? If you honestly can't (think you would take peaks at it etc.) than don't betray her trust and simply find someone else who has no issues with it.
The day I seriously consider porn over a thinking, feeling, breathing human being is the day I will probably kill myself.
';Very Honest'; gave you the answer.....and it has ZERO to do with insecurity. These other women are just acting like it doesn't bother them because they are afraid if they put their foot down, they will lose their man...now THAT is insecurity.
NO WOMAN wants to be used for sex.
Not a self respecting one, anyway.
are you wanting to leave because she won't let you watch porn or because she won't have sex. Either way, you're a Jackass if you leave. Porn is something you watch when you're single and have no one. You ABSOLUTELY don't leave because she won't have sex. You knew that going in, so why did you think it would change? Grow up, treat her right, and save it for marriage.
Unfortunately she is one of those women who think porn is bad and cheating. It is a product of having insecurities in ones self. She has no right to boss you around like that because you are a grown man. However, at the same time you may want to look at how important she is to you and decide whether or not you want to respect her wishes. But, i would talk to her about what I just said first before making any dramatic decisions.
You're lucky she puts up with you at all. You are doing yourself and her a disservice by filling your head with that porn nonsense. She should either dump you, or you should dump the porn. If you can't stop watching, then do her a favor and leave her so that she can find a more suitable boyfriend and spouse. And the word is angel, not angle.
well u want to leave an angel just becoz she stops u from watching porn,....dont do that ...rather never tell her the next time that u r watching porn...who knows she mite be jealous that u give more importance to the babes in the porn rather than her coz she mite be feeling that the pron effect which makes u feel like having sex mite be dominating ur mid to have the porn heroine as ur fantasy and ur gal as just an object....
If the porn is more important than her feelings, then you should be leaving and trying to find a partner that has the same tastes/morals as you. It's disrespectful to use it if it hurts your wife, even if you hide it. (Not all women feel the same way about it).
Most women are clueless about the role porn plays in a man's life. Since she was not taught this by her parenst you must now do it. I had to do the same, it was very painful and took a long time. I will make sure my daughter does not have to go through what my wife did.
Tell her it is part of the package deal. That you are going to watch porn and the either she accepts it or not. Do not lie to her and say you will stop and then you don't stop.
Sounds like her innocence attracts you. What happens when that is gone? Will you still be compatible?
Some difficult questions, but well worth it if you can make it work out.
Good Luck.
if she don't want to have sex with you.. you better to stop watching porn then.
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