Question for men. Need to get a mans advice?

I had a long time on and off boyfriend who I finally married when I became pregnant. Ive always had hunches he was on the unfaithful side but never had real proof or evidence %26amp; he would assure me it either happened when we were ';on a break'; or that it was just untrue. Recently I discovered some pictures of him and another woman in different embraces, hugs kisses etc. A friend of mine found them online. He has convinced me that they are not recent pictures (they have no dates on them) and that if he is still living there its because he wants to be with me and our toddler. Should I believe him? If he is staying with me and not leaving to be with the woman in te pictures shouldnt that mean he is telling the truth? He does go out pretty often by himself though but its usually work related. He's usually up late at night and sometimes his work takes him out at night. (He is a freelancer) As men do u think he could be lying? why would he stay with me if he is cheating?Question for men. Need to get a mans advice?
';Once a cheater, always a cheater!'; He had these affairs while you were, ';on a break';,or so he says. What kind of commitment did he have to you, if you were not together, the first thing he did was go out and have an affair? Then try to make it seem like it was YOUR fault? I wouldn't trust him any further than I could throw him. When somebody tries to blame you for THEIR indiscretions, it's time to rethink the whole scenario. Good Luck!!Question for men. Need to get a mans advice?
yes he is staying for the toddler not for you.
Keep in mind that women cheat about 5 times more often than men do but this does not mean he's not a player. Use some of HIS money to hire a P.I. to make sure.
You must mean he's a freelance man-whore. He spends more time out at nite, and tells you it's work. He's not much of a father to that child if he's not around. He hasn't got enough love and respect for you, since he sure feels comfortable about you having his child, and not bothering to marry you. He's playing both sides of the fence...... DUMP HIM.
You have your answer. His need for time to be on his own....c'mon you're smart enough to know that he's not spending it alone.





I'm very sorry for you. Good luck finding someone decent.
He is cheating. Men lie alot. He wants cake and icing. Leave
when the sex you to have slows down and the time away gets longer than it has in the past then maybe start to worry. he could be telling the truth. no real way of knowing. just go with your heart. if he wants to be with you and the baby that is good. maybe plan a time where just the two of you can get together and be a couple always helps too.
you can choose to be blind if you wish but the truth is right there in front of you. of course he is cheating on you. why else would the pictures exist. just because he doesn't want to be with the other woman full time doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with her. i am sure he is quite content to have you at home taking care of the toddler and supporting him in the ways that you do and having a little something extra on the side.
He's just human. Think about it. ';I'm a good wife';, ';I'm good to him'; I'm make it so I all he would want';. If not, well....
Well, I see some people (Drew Blood) are not completely reading your question or they would see where you said you married him when you got pregnant.


Always ALWAYS trust your gut!!! Arrange for a sitter on a night that he must go out and follow him. You must be very careful, he will turn it all around if he catches you, (you dont trust me, blah blah) I know you asked for a man's point of view but I have been right where you are and I spent 8 long years making excuses and accepting his justifications only to find out that it was all spelled out for me, I just hadnt had my gut full yet. Leaving you to be with her brings complications to a man's life. Child support, being away from child, end of a ';marriage';, he will be looked at differently in the eyes of the people around him. Right now it is personal, between the 2 of you. Also, the thrill of ';look what we can do'; and the anticipation of getting (or not) caught can encourage one to continue this kind of behavior.


Again, I am sorry to answer, being female...I felt it my duty to remind you of your natural born instincts...youre a mom now...GOOD LUCK!!!!!
he could be telling the truth





or he could just be staying with you to avoid paying child support since the baby is his, but i really doubt that





it takes a lifetime to build up trust and only rumors, not facts, to destroy it
I hate to be rude, but you represent another fine example of how women do an outstanding job of really screwing themselves up. You meet a guy, date a guy, live with a guy, THEN HAVE A BABY WITH HIM, and now you're worried he might be cheating? Has marriage ever been a topic of discussion? It's amazing to me how people will accept the commitment of living together %26amp; having sex, and don't even seem to mind the lifelong commitment of being a parent, but for some reason the idea of marriage is just too much for them to handle. And if all of this isn't what you were hoping to hear, then consider this: If you were married and found out he was cheating you'd get half of everything and spousal support in addition to child support! As it stands right now, the worst thing he will suffer is child support and moving out to do whatever he wants! GET A RING and GET A COMMITMENT. Otherwise you're screwed no matter what you do.
Why should he leave you when he can have his cake and eat it too?





You my dear were uneducated enough to bring a child into a relationship out of marriage on unstable ground to boot!





You my dear need to grow up now and think about the child.
If you stay with him you're going to get AIDS.





He's there for the sake of the toddler!?


SURE he is.


Don't give him any sex and see if he stays for the toddler.