Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?

Ok I am a 21 year old female and I am mainly attracted to married men. I have had an affair with one before and I realize that was a bad thing to do. I am attracted to men in their older 20's to mid 30's and I feel like if a guy is single, there must be a reason why he is single... maybe because no girl wants him? I dont know.. its kinda weird but I dont want to think like this anymore and I need some advice. I feel like older men are better in all departments and can do better than a guy my age would. I just find married men so sexy. Any advice?Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
It's obvious you are attracted to men that are unavailable.


The reasoning, is something you need to find out. Could be you are afraid of commitment, abandonment issues, a challenge, etc. Only you know that answer and probably should seek professional help in discussing the issues.


You shouldn't think like this anymore, hence professional help.


You aren't thinking about the whole scenario--you are going for married men--men that have wives and families. It's okay to think married men are sexy, it's another to act out on these feelings. Trust me, if you were married, you wouldn't want some other woman sleeping with your husband or threatening the very vows you made with your husband, or threatening the family you have created.


Just because a guy is single, doesn't mean he's not wanted. He just hasn't found the right girl, just like you haven't found the right guy yet.


Advice--seek some counseling and remember, the shoe could always be on the other foot and you wouldn't want that. Also remember, in most cases, married men don't leave their wives and families. And...if he's messing around with you, he's probably messing around with some others too and if you land him, you'll always wonder if he's cheating on you. So get yourself out of this thought process and find yourself a nice single guy!Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
He made a committment to someone and you find that attractive too. But he made that committment and then broke the vows by getting with you. So he is not very attractive anymore. Any guy that is willing to sleep with you that is married is a toad. Think of that next time.





I've had guy friends that didn't get married until 38, 39, and 42. They were all very great guys with nothing wrong. They just hadn't found the right girl. Keep looking honey. The right unmarried guy is out there. Respect yourself more and stick to the single ones.
Would you like it someday when your a married woman and some young girl is going after your man? what comes around goes around..........trust me! You are attracted to them because you have a need to feel desired and if a married man wants you then you will feel better about yourself for the moment. It is a competition thing for you because you have a need to lure these men away from their woman......it makes you feel like you are worthy. I urge you to discontinue your practices before someone tries to rip your hair out!
Most likely you choose married so you don't have to commit to a real relationship. A married guy most of the time will choose wife and family he has a lot to lose.You don't. My question to you is what are you losing by choosing married guys? Your helping him commit adultery!
Some women want relationships but are afraid of commitment. By being with a guy who is not really available, you avoid commitment.





Sometimes women have low self-esteem and feel like they don't deserve anything better.





Stay away from married men. It only leads to heartbreak.
They've already proven themselves to be responsible, domestic and not commitment-phobes, so that appeals to you.


KEEP AWAY!!!!! Bad news all around every time. It never ends well. Someone always gets hurt. Find your own- they do exist or nobody would ever be married.


Good luck.
Maybe instead of thinking that an older guy is single because no other girl wants him start thinking He is single because he took time to get a career and become successful before he took on a serious relationship. He will be more mature and financially secure.
so am i! and im a cashier and i get all nervous when i have to talk to them and their wife is standing there looking mad while their husband is acting all shy. it makes for a very akward situation.... not to mention the fact that i'm already a shy person! ugh!!
I think you are attracted to married men is because maybe you know you can't have them. I am not sure.





Hope this helps!





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I have one piece of advice. You better watch the **** out because one day the wife will catch you and she won't be happy. You'll have slashed tires, broken windows, broken bones, and if it were me, a few missing body parts.
maybe u dont want a serious relationship and u know having sex with married men is never going to turn in to a relationship its just sex and thats why u like it cause u dont have to worry about getting attatched
Its perfectly Normal to Be Attracted To Married Men. Your Theory Isnt Always Correct Though Some Single Guys Are Great They Are Just Looking For The Right Girl.
You may be attracted to the challenge...to see if you can ';win'; them.
They're married.


You know they're sweet and faithful.
BECAUSE YOU ARE AN EVIL TEMPTRESS THAT NEEDS TO BE BURNED AT THE STAKE
you always wnat what you cant get, they're unavailable thats why you wat to make like an adventure for yourself
maybe you like the thrill of trying not to get caught
Forbidden fruit taste the best.
find a good looking SINGLE guy!
i think you like drama
Me too...or maybe it's just all the hot guys are taken :(
There are all sorts of reasons why women are attracted to married men. Some of them are:





1. Married men represent commitment.


2. Married men represent stability.


3. Married men tend to be more experienced in the bedroom.


4. Married men are safe, and long term commitments are not a threat.


5. Married men represent the thrill of conquest over another woman.


6. Married men make you feel special, and appreciated.








There are many more reasons, and if you think about it honestly, I've probably hit one or two of them on the nose. For a lot of married men, some young thing being attracted to them really gives them an ego boost. One of these days, though, you're going to find yourself sorely disappointed. A married man that's willing to throw his marriage down the toilet for an affair, either with you or someone else, is certainly not a good catch. And, all those older men that are still single... lets just say that they may be a good catch if you are talking about a guy who's willing to wait for the right woman to come along. What's wrong with giving them a test drive? You never know, you just might find the perfect guy, which won't happen with a married man.
1. Deep down, you coud be afraid of committment, and knowing that you have no future with these men could be what is attracting you.





2. The reason you may like older, married men is because you are searching for someone to take care of you, like a father figure.





3. You like the challenge, the ego boost of seducing a taken guy.





OR...





You could just be very sophisticated for your age and you simply click better with older men. This is FINE. But you really need to stay away from married men. Those relationships are mutually destructive. Plus, what kind of a bastard would cheat on his wife?!--do you really think that is the sort of man you want to spend the rest of your life with?





There are PLENTY of single 30-something men out there, not because ';no one wants them'; but because they simply haven't gotten married yet. Go on some dates with cute single men and eventualy you will find someone to suit your tastes.





Good luck!
it sounds to me like you might have a bit of fear of committment. Married men are off limits and are not going to leave their wives and marry a much younger woman (typically.) Therefor that makes them much more attractive to you. Also, was your father around growing up? That could easily lend itself to your draw toward older men. There is something to be said for the sense that an older man can better take care of you (however this is generally a false sense of security) Do some soul searching and try to figure out what it really is about them....you might consider talking to someone too. It could help more than you might think. And please...in the future, from all of us married women, look but don't touch!! To fantisize about being with, or be attracted to a married man is one thing....but to do anything to act upon that is quite another. Remember that you could be destroying a family.
Well turn it around on your self.





By your logic there must be something wrong with you since your not in a relationship or married yet! Maybe your single because no guy wants you?





I don't think that's the case at all, but I hope you get my point.





I'm sure some of your attraction has to do with these men being ';unavailable'; so that says two things to me:





1. It excites you to know that you not supposed to have them, but at least in once case, you got one anyway.





2. You like them because you know that it can't ever turn into anything too serious; Meaning whether your willing to admit it or not, your just really not ready to be in a serious relationship.





One is just, well, selfish and not based on anything other than lust. The second reason, means you just need to be honest with yourself and figure out what it is you want, and more importantly, what your willing to give in a relationship.





I'm sure your also attracted to married guys because of a perception that they are responsible, and loving. A wedding ring doesn't mean a guy is any of those things. There are plenty of married irresponsible selfish jerks out there!





And just FYI, men who sleep around on their wives, with out their knowledge or consent, aren't very loving or responsible are they?





There are plenty of very desired single guys out there! Remember that all those married men were single at some point! They didn't pop out of the womb married!





A lot of them just haven't found that right girl yet; Or they did, but for what ever reason, it didn't work out.





Some guys, and girls for that matter, choose remain single for a while after a breakup to get their bearings and to be in a happy place when starting a new relationship!





Nothing wrong with being attracted to older men. A lot of them are more stable, more responsible Just be careful how much older you go for.





There are exceptions, but a big age difference, especially in your case, can cause problems. Where you are in your life is going to be very different from even a 25 year old!





Take a look at yourself and figure out what your looking for. If your just looking for a good time, go have one; Just look for single guys who want the same. You don't want to be part of breaking up a marriage! (I hope)





If your looking for more, then again, start dating single guys who actually have the ability to be more than just a fling.