Regretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?

I met an English guy when I was in UK, got together, had so many fabulous time, and I had to come back to my country (Asia). We were in distance, but he came to visit me 4months later and proposed to me.


I was happy but at the time a project I really wanted to do has started, and I asked him if he could wait for me to go for half an year. Then the time got longer. I also couldn't give him an immidiate YES since I questioned our difference in value.


But in my heart I knew I always loved him, and I tried to tell him so hard, but he took it all as my refusal... He asked me ';come in spring, or cancel'; and I was stubborn to say ';I must stay';. He called it off.


His mother passed away in a month, and I begged to attend the wedding but I was refused strongly. I sent the familly a huge flower.


He sent me a mail ';I love you always but we were not competable. I learned a lesson, I hope you did too.'; and refused to talk to me for that month.


After 3 month, I recieved a chat MSN, and afterRegretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
I think you should take the opportunity to let him know how you feel, to apologize for any pain and hurt you may have caused him, but be willing to leave it go at that. Go in with not expectations and if it is something that was meant to be, it will all work out. If not, you will have at least had the opportunity to express yourself honestly. You will be wearing you feelings on your sleeve, so be prepared to possibly feel the pain of rejection. However, know that you can move forward without regret!!!Regretting losing my engaged bf...men advice needed.?
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good grief , cultural differences ! give me a break , todays world is made of people with cultural differences , that would be an excuse , the problem is you blew him off , he even came to you in asia and you still blew him off , his mother passed away and you werent even willing to be there for him , if i were him id tell you to have a happy life and goodbye
I would not pursue this. I see a lot of ambivalence on both of your parts. It is time for both of you to move on. Don't keep poking at a wound, let it heal. You really don't even know each other, and there are huge cultural differences between you.