Met new guy - now confused..New adult men advice?

I used to see this resident in my neighborhood for about 7 months, but we never met. We met about 2 months ago, but we didn't start talking on the phone until last month. He has come over to visit me about 3 times. He is 31 and says he meets women sometimes online, but it has never turned into anything serious. He mentions someone who cheated on him last year after a short relationship. I do not get the feeling that he still wants to be with her, but I can tell by his facial expression and tone of voice that she hurt him, but he denies it. He sometimes mentions other women he's met recently or women who presently like him. Why is he telling ME this?





When he comes over to visit, we talk for hours. The last time we spent time, he was affectionate w/hugs, etc., but we have not been intimate. I want to invite him to do things, but I can't tell if he just wants more female friends or if he truly wants to try to get to know me. I am fearful of asking him b/c I don't want to be pushy too soon, but it feels like a cat-n-mouse type deal and I feel like at our age, we should be able to say what we want or don't want. He just says that he is ';not looking'; but ';open to whatever happens'; with a woman, including relationships.





Do I just continue chatting w/him sporadically as we have been, like once a week or do I suggest we do something together? Or let him take the lead on that? I like him, but I feel like I have no idea what is going on or what to do. Help!Met new guy - now confused..New adult men advice?
I'm a slightly older male than he, and probably older than you as well.


Walk away from this. Please. The whole internet dating scene is full of people looking for sex on a casual basis. As a straight male, I know that ';open to whatever happens'; means that casual sex is what he's looking for. But as far as commitment to one person, you won't find that with this individual. When he mentions women he's met recently or women who presently like him, it's like he's looking to put a few more notches in his belt of how many women he's had sex with. I don't think you'd like being another notch. You sound too intelligent and vulnerable for that. Best wishes