Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?

Ok I am a 21 year old female and I am mainly attracted to married men. I have had an affair with one before and I realize that was a bad thing to do. I am attracted to men in their older 20's to mid 30's and I feel like if a guy is single, there must be a reason why he is single... maybe because no girl wants him? I dont know.. its kinda weird but I dont want to think like this anymore and I need some advice. I feel like older men are better in all departments and can do better than a guy my age would. I just find married men so sexy. Any advice?Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
1) You like responsible men who don't mind having families and taking care of them. There are plenty of single men in this category, but just don't have the experience of a married man. Try to find someone you can grow with and become a responsible woman as these men have done with the help of their wives.





2) You like the feeling of someone liking you that already has someone, because it makes you feel like a queen. Try to find your self-value in other areas like God, work, etc. Once he is done using you (Yes, using you), you will feel worse than you did to begin with not having anyone. Not to be mean, but this is life.Why am I so attracted to marrried men... advice please!?
Well first off. It sounds to me like you have commitment and security issues. Men your own age are less likely to commit to a relationship, where someone that is already married, you know can make and keep a commitment. The reasion I say security issues, is that older men, tend to be more established then younger men. Meaning they have a house, or are in the market. They have ususally established themselves in a secure job, and there are only small chances they will become unemployed.





My best advice, don't get envolved to deeply in any relationships for now (and none with married men). Work on getting yourself set up so that the dependency and security is your own and not a man. Then take a look at who is more atractive to you then.
The fact remains that whenever a man is married this will present a challenge for you, because they say that everyone wants what they know they cannot have, older men are wiser and present themselves in a fashion that a younger man never will be able too, so I don't think its too uncommon, just remind yourself the next time you are attracted to an older man, that there probably lies a happy family with years of bonding within the marriage, you don't want the burden of being the person who broke the camels back.
I wish that were true. I am married and 43, and I could never comptete with a 23 year old. Older men may have their good qualities but if they are cheating then any good qualities they have seem to be nullified. I think there must have been a time when you were single. That didn't mean that you were not good. It just meant you were single. There are a lot of good guys to be with. Don't go with cheaters. You are worth more than that.
I know this is not the best advice, but meet a guy who has a girlfriend, at least you will not be committing adultery. But honestly, all those married guys are not safe, they were single once, try trusting the fact that there are good guys that have not tied the not yet, and I really hate the idea that I suggested you meet a guy with a girlfriend, but it beats the later.
I think it is two things:





1. You know there is no committment by sleeping with a married man.





2. The chase. You probably like the thrill of being able to chase a married guy, as usually they are not as easy as single guys.





Stop doing what you are doing. I for one am married, and I love my wife. It is extremely hard when women do not respect that, and flirt with me. I am still a guy after all. I don't need the temptation!





The guy will almost always choose his current wife over you, and you need to find a guy that respects you and loves you!
Your attracted to married men because you are a skank ho. If you were to mess with my man, you'd be a skank ho with a black eye. It's sluts like you that cause so many divorces. Obviously your a ho if you would sleep with a married man, so why not go find a single man? There are plenty of them out there that just love women that are easy.
imo,


You have problems with your own worth, probably stemming from someone close leaving you or from a feeling of inferiority.


By taking a married man, you are the 'other girl' and therefore cannot be cheated on or left, because he is not yours in the first place.


Or you see them as a prize because someone else is willing to love them, so winning them over seems like a challenge.


Honestly,


you can find someone without attachments. By saying that they are simply better people I think youre trying to justify your decision.


Get help.


Or just get over yourself.
Sometimes it's in your subconcious mind..but you are not wanting to truly commit to someone, so the safest place to find that is in a married man. Not only that, but also it is an adventure to some to get what they might not be able to have.


It is sad that you want something like that, that is destructive to both parties involved.
You need to talk to a therapist. You can't go on feeling this way. How are you ever going to have a relationship with anyone? And it's so untrue that single men have a problem or something. Give them a chance. If anyone has a problem it's the married men who are cheating on their wives!
Your dad isn't around, is he? You're perpetuating a cycle or some other psychological nonsense. You should tap into your conscience and stop yourself from seeing married men. Being a good person is hard work, but it's well worth it. Good for the soul.
In the back of your mind, you know a married man probably won't leave what he has at home for you. I think you just want to screw around and not have to worry about a commitment.
Married men are a good chase. They are getting something out of you that they can't get at home. They need you to fulfill certain things which makes you feel important. Sad thing is, you'll always be second best.
You have self worth issues. You are thinking you are not worth anything more than being a h*ole for a married man's pole. Some people are just like that. It's a shame, but there it is.
stay well clear of married men as not only are u second best ...but you could destroy kids lives and a women who happens to love the same guy... Find a guy that only wants you...As why should you come second.
Because we are so hot.....
Call me, lets chat.
yea stop being a **** who wants what she cant have
Funny because I can see where your logic is about men that are single must be single for a reason. However, when I was 21 I was turned off by a man as soon as learned he was married. If I found a handsome married guy then I was thinking, ';damn';. Later on I found out that a lot of married men are not really happy and realized that I was probably in a better situation than them because there is nothing like freedom. I am a little bit older now so now so I am not thrown off by men that are married. I do not get involved with them. But I know that many are where at that critical 7 year itch where they start to become available. If they divorce/seperate and I am free then who knows what can develope?
you are attracting 'old' married men because that is the 'signals' you are putting out there. Maybe you feel that they are 'safe' because they won't put pressure on you to change your life all around for them. . . .that you can wait for that 'boody call'; to come and then decide if you want to say yes or no at the moment. . . .


or


you want married men because to are competitive and feel like you have 'won' some big prize if you can get his crazy enough for you to leave his wife. . . . that 2nd wife syndrome. . . . I must be better then the 1st in all ways . . . . wow ain't I great. (not saying your the type at all, or am I judging. . . . but I do know this type. . . . . one of my best friends happen to be . . . . and she has spent many hours talking about it. . . .. so I have taken all this in as an education).





You have to figure out which theory applies to your situation and move on from there. . . . . only when you face your own reality will you send out differant signals.
Why are you single? Is there something wrong with you? You are young and when you get ready to settle down you will be older and you would hate it if you found out your husband was stepping out with a younger female. Karma is a beast. As far as married men being sexy that could be true. People want what they can't have and people that you can't have are more sexier than the people you can have. There are a lot of sexy single men out there in there late 20s and 30s. Never be second to any man and if you continue to that is the way you will end up, in second place.