A love-making question for the ladies (well, men's advice needed too)...?

Girls-how do you keep yourself motivated during love-making, and how do you keep yourself from being self-concious? It's hard for me to be sexy and secure and please my man because I'm self concious, (I weigh 140 and I'm 5'3). So how do I go about have confidence and pleasing my man without second-guessing myself and hesitating because then he just ends up being on top because I can never get the job done anymore...:SA love-making question for the ladies (well, men's advice needed too)...?
First, what is your guy doing?





Honey, getting him to blow that white pisss is easy. But, he has to work if we are to enjoy ourselves. I don't want to ***/u/me, but too often we just let him stick that c0ck in us and don't make him work. Love, that man is going to cumm, but if you don't make him work on you, then all you are is a sexual pin cushion. If all he is doing is laying on you for two or three minutes, rubbing that d1ck against your pusssy and then going to sleep, both of you are going to be bored.





Make him tease your breasts. Make him spend some time with his tongue on your nipple and aerola. Tell him what pleases you when he plays with those titts and what displeases you.





Make him go down on that cl1t. Make him lick it and suck it. Honey, my man doesn't get to push his d1ck inside me until I've cummed at least once. And when you've cumm and get into your groove, pull him deep inside and work that d1ck between your legs.





I make my man satisfy me for two reasons. I don't think he is the only one who should be smiling in bed after we fuucck. Also, my experience had been that men enjoy sex much more if they have to work. Now, all men are naturally lazy and will missionary that pusssy if you allow them to. So, you are going to have to make him a good lover.





Secondly, what are you doing?





Love, attack that d1ck. Lick it. Stroke it. Honey, I've never had a man tell me to stop because the pleasure was too intense while he was pounding my pusssy. But, I've applied my lips and suction to his d1ckhead before and had him begging for mercy.





DON'T JUST LIE THERE. You are not a pillow. You are not a pin cushion. Be aggressive. Want him. And, if you don't want him, pretend you do and act like you do. If you act like you want him and are aggressively seeking to please him, that desire will catch up to your acting.





Finally, stand in front of the mirror stark naked and lights on. Look at your body and say, with as much conviction as possible, ';Dam, this is one sexy body. The man who gets to suck these breasts and enter this pusssy is one lucky dude. I am so very sexy.'; Say it with confidence. Say this with the most conviction you can muster. And, when that negative thought comes along and tells you that it is a lie, drive it out and tell yourself again how very sexy you are.





Love, when you don't feel sexy, and I know this form experience, you are listening to other people and you are allowing other people to program how you feel about yourself. The way you get over these negative feelings about yourself is to reprogram the way you think. And, if you stand in front of that mirror in all your splendid glory and tell yourself that you are sexy, you will eventually start to believe it.A love-making question for the ladies (well, men's advice needed too)...?
try different positions, a few that perhaps put you in control, and then tell yourself hell with and just let yourself go, i don't think either of you would be disappointed, try to drive yourself wild, it will work for him
By doing stuff with him that u enjoy the most like sitting on his face or whatever. Nothing pleases a man more than making him feel like he's pleased you.



Turn the lights off and go wild, girl!

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Calling all men ;) advice appreciated?

so i have a new bf and everything is going really amazing. i've met his family, spent the night at his house, met his friends and all that good stuff. he also talks about future events like his bros wedding in aug of 2010 and how he wants me to go with him or his vacation next year that he wants me to be a part of. he also talks about kids and how he'd treat his wife and take good care of her (implying it might be me kind of, he pulled me close and hugged me tight while talking about his future wife, or in his words 'my baby') and things like that, also he even has mentioned living together. i feel like i am quickly falling in love with him.





also last night when we were hanging out talking he said something like 'i love you.. (silence) for that' it was like he accidentally said i love you and tried to downplay it by following it up with 'for that'. this is the second time that 'i love you' has slipped out of his mouth now and both times after he said it he stopped and followed up with something like that. also we have never gotten sexual because i told him i do not get intimate unless im in a committed relationship and he told me there was no rush, and that that's not what he's after. he told me he trusts me too..





he always wants to see me, before work, on my lunch break if possible and after work. he always wants to see me no matter how tired he is. he spends his days off with me, treats me to things all the time and is just so sweet to me.





He stares into my eyes for long periods of time and it gives me the most intense feeling. the look in his eyes makes me just melt. he tells me he thinks about me all day at work or no matter where he is. he said when he's not with me he always misses me for some reason. he calls and texts me throughout the day and he's always on time and does what he says he's going to do.





could he be falling in love?


guys answers especially appreciated :)


thank yoooouuuuCalling all men ;) advice appreciated?
Nope hunni hes lulling you into a false sense of security..(most men do this especially if they are adept at conning sensitive caring women emotionally..very few men get emotionally involved with a woman...they dont seem to have that part switched on.) so that you feel safe with him and he can get as much sex as he needs..a man that talks like that so soon..isnt serious...ive heard that often enough to know this..and to realise men who talk like this know its what women want to hear..and they do it to get something they want..which is the usual...they really dont mean any of it..if hes with you in a year and still talking like this then id have some hope..but give it a few months and he will be gone when hes had his fix...and got tired of sex with you.....im sorry to be blunt..but this is a classic tactic of most men....to get a woman emotionally attacthed so that getting sex is easier ..and less effort on his part....after all he'd rather get you to give it to him willingly than force you?Calling all men ;) advice appreciated?
ive been in love before,if your young girls/guys are gonna come and go thats just how it is,dont go into to quick or you WILL get hurt,bad.If hes too clingy for you or theres something not going right you should let him know,i personally just love bieng single :)
He forsurely is. Most of the signs are there. What more can I say? He loves you. The question is do you love him?
i think he has fallen for you all the way hold on to him
ya i seems you are.

Question for men.... advice wanted?

I'm in grad school and I've been seeing this guy for maybe 2 months now.. everything is going well, and he really likes spending time w/ me. However,. he has not yet asked me to be his girlfriend. Does anyone have any advice on what to do. Do you think he will but it will just take more time??





We already see movies and act exactly like Boyfriend/girlfriend.. I'm just sick of introducing him to people as my ';friend';.. He even gets upset when other guys show interest in my, so I know he doesn't want me dating other people... why doesn't he just say something about it already.. when ever the topic comes up he changes the subject.Question for men.... advice wanted?
hahaha. he already thinks that your his girlfriend. guys dont think you need to actually ask that question. you can just assume. im almost 100 percent sure that you guys are a coupleQuestion for men.... advice wanted?
Some guys are bashful or timid in this area %26amp; don't want to appear over aggressive. Some guys are afraid of rejection %26amp; wouldn't know how to handle the situation well if he were rejected. It is not written in stone anywhere that says you can't ask HIM to be your very special friend - or - fiancee. If he's worth it - take the plunge.
he's scared to take that step...he's scared of the possibility of rejection....he definitely likes you, and would most likely want that as well....





Make it easy on the guy...you may have to bring it up...I would say first trying to kiss or something small like that....





If he does, than thats a green light...but wait a littl ewhile after that kiss/es, that might be enough to give him the confidence to ask you out





If not, then you might just have to make that step too....if you care enough for the guy by then
Did somebody tell you only boys are allowed to ask out girls, and not vice versa? Maybe he's thinking the same about you and waiting for you to make the first move...
my advice is to try dating and relationships,,, girls hang out in here too... your not gonna get a bias opinion from guys only...





he doesn't want a relationship right now,,, if he's not comfortable with it he's just not...
he could be like my hubby was...he never actually ';asked me to be his girl'; he just assumed we were together exclusivevely.
he wants all the benefits without the committment. Give it another four months. And if your status isn't upgraded, it's time to move on.
What to do...? I guess it depends on what you ';want';. I'd start with that first. Guys in general don't think too far ahead in the same terms women do. It sounds like you have a pretty good relationship as it is... you spend time together, I assume you enjoy that time? Ask yourself if that is ok for now. You're in school, do you really want a serious ';boyfriend';. Because either one of two things will happen.... one you can bring up the subject and he will ';bolt'; because he isn't ready and you will have lost a perfectly good relationship. Or two, you bring it up and he sees what he might be missing and things get serious.





I wouldn't take the jealous thing too far... it usually doesn't mean any more than that... he doesn't want you to see anyone else. If you want the same freedom, than maybe thats how you should phrase it. Guys are just a lot less complicated than you think. He's probably not going nearly as deep as you are unless you push him that ';deep';. Just be ready for it to go either way.

I need men advice, should I call him back again?

My bf and I have been going out for over 3 years.. we fought on Sunday (today's thursday) about sth really silly, but turned huge.. We both got really mad at each other and he hung up first, then I called back and I hung up.. (i know this is really immature)





So, I tried calling him back the next day to apologize because I don't want to drag this for so long.. he kept saying he's busy and will call back.. so i waited until the next day.. and called him back, he didn't pick up and left a voice message. He never called back and now I've been waiting for 4 days and he still hasn't called / emailed / texted..





I don't know what i should do.. should I call him back again? ignore it? but it's been 4 days...








I need men advice, should I call him back again?
Don't call him back. If the man wants you he will call you back. Remember that bad things happen for great things to happen in the future. If your relationship ends because of this sill immature move then it obviously wasn't meant to be anyways. He will eventually come around, I would wait more and if you don't get a call from him soon, I would open my eyes for someone new.I need men advice, should I call him back again?
Yeah, stop hounding the guy, that won't help matters any way.


If he's this upset with you, he may need time to get over it, if he ever does.


Once you have spoken in anger, there is no easy way to take back the hurt. Time may do it, but that's up to him, not you.


All you can do, is to hope, he can forgive and forget.
Quit kissing his a*^%26amp;, Show him you can go along with your life without him it will burn his a(*, what I see and I am a 43 year old man and I mean total man and what I see is he is out to try to fish the pond and if any little pecker head does that to my daughter (11) I will give her the same advice...OK
he should at least return your call, at this point he is playing the silent game, be the bigger person and let him call you. if you keep calling him you might seem desperate and all he wants is attention. Just wait it out, and if he doesn't call back then move forward and I'm pretty sure you will find someone that will make you happy =).
Women.. mine can drive me crazy like that. Anyway lets get to business:





I was in a long distance relation for 6 years. We rarely fought when we were distant, but when we had a fight and did not apologize then things can got ugly. One time I had to travel and beg for mercy, she finally accepted my apology. I am still married to that woman after 14 years.



If he wanted to talk to you, he would've called. Calling him is going to make you look desperate. Just leave it alone.... don't chase him.
call him and apologize, tell him you love him and you miss him, and then wait for him to call you back.
Ignore him, he'll come around. why act so desperate. if he wants to talk to you,he will call.
apologize to him once, and he will call you back sooner then later.

Women and men!? advice please!?

need your advice from past expierence. Okay I have had my eye on this man the most beautiful boy I have yet to see. For like two years? I see him at the local clubs every now and then and always felt the same. To afraid to introduce myself. However with the help of some wine and beer ....I loosened up. I was out and I saw him at another little local club he was sitting alone. So I sat next to him and smiled and he smiled and finally I asked to dance. He was holding both my hands while dancing and twirling me and it was just perfect! I told him how handsome I thought he was and he was blushing said I looked very pretty as well.... were young and our hormones are raging...so we ended up back at his house where he played us records and we had another drink and ended up having sex. we did again this morning too...used protection of course. But we did not exchange numbers. I went on his myspace and was shocked to see he hardly gets comments and girls arent all over that! ANYWAY. I want to send him a message? this happened yesterday. I dont want to come on to strong. oh and btw he doesent like check it every single day like most of us....but he got on today? could he have been hoping i would have sent something? and do guys replay great sex they had in there head the next day like us woman? but yes...how long should i give it before i send him a message i want to do it before i see him out again deffentleyWomen and men!? advice please!?
hahah! good for you hun!





1) do guys replay great sex? -- coming from a woman, i think not. i think they remember the sex being great, but i dont think men really take the time to replay the whole thing like many women do. i know for certainty that i do remember the whole scene for a couple days but forget and remember the sex was great. so men? mmm, maybe an hour after.





2) did he log on to see if you sent him a message? -- mm, i think youre reading too much into this. i think he just logged on. of course he COULD have logged on just to check whether or not you did, buuuuuut i think he just logged on.





3) how long to wait before sending a message on myspace? -- who cares! if youre comfortable, send him a message! theres no ';wait time';. do it when you want to do it. if now, then now.





=) props on the ballsiness.Women and men!? advice please!?
this is just proof of how superficial and shallow women are:





-when they like a boy, they go and ask him out and then f--- him. simple as that.


and some other idiot is bringing them roses meanwhile, hoping to get a single date.


yes, im f------g pissed. lol.
Send him a message now asking him out.

Torn between two men advice needed as soon as possible?

I am confused. I have been dating this guy for a few months %26amp; really like him, he's even close to my age. He's met my kids %26amp; they all like each other. We don't get to see each other than much, he works when I'm not. He's never been married %26amp; kind of likes his single life, but is wanting to settle down, maybe. I really don't want to rush into anything, I've made that mistake too many times before. On the weekends, I hang out with my friends. Through them I have met a very quite but nice guy. He has asked me to dinner %26amp; I said yes; we haven't made it yet. He's about ten years older than me, married before %26amp; no kids. He's met all of my kids %26amp; adores them. At first, I thought ok, were just going to be good friends, but the more I'm around him I see him opening up %26amp; see possibilities. I've been going through alot of things lately %26amp; this doesn't help. My friends don't help much. I need advice ASAP.Torn between two men advice needed as soon as possible?
Making good choices in life can take even years. Why don`t give yourself little more time? A good friend makes a great boyfriend a great bf makes a wonderful husband, and all that takes more time than we expect sometimes and time is the main entrance in the menu. So why rush?...That`s my experience.Torn between two men advice needed as soon as possible?
think about both of them and see what qualities you like out of both and see which one you like better and choose the other one. trust if you choose the one that you like better then the relationship will not go good
just go with the flow and dont rush. go with the guy that you can see yourself happy with and who you have a connection with.
I have been through this exact thing (only i do not have kids). I did go on that dinner with the new guy and then lunch and then another dinner and then I realised I did like my current boyfriend better and told that new guy I will never meet him again because I like to stay with my guy. He accepted it but kept in touch via email once a month for a year. Me and my boyfriend broke up in the end due to something completely different and unrelated.


As you can guess, me and the new guy got together and I got to know him better and now we are an item for over two years. I am still very good friend with my ex.


So my advice would be - do not force anything. Your heart will tell you.
Write up a list of pros and cons... Even make the list as trivial as who has better eyes and what not....... Then make your decision based on who has those most pros/less cons.

I am attracted to older men..advice?

i am 16...instead of being interested in guys my age...i like guys in their 20s...someone offer me words of encouragment. i feel like such a slut..but that is what i like..im scared if i date them they will get in trouble for sagitory rape...i mean this one guy that flirts with me is married...someone give me encouraging words. tell me im not the only one!!I am attracted to older men..advice?
You are not the only one, but just know what you are getting into to. Why are you in such a hurry? You are young and you have your entire life ahead of you. If they cared for you, they would wait until you reach a favorable age. Enjoy your teenage years to the fullest.I am attracted to older men..advice?
Finish your study first. Forget the guys and concentrate on your education.
actually, I'm 16 and I tend to like guys usually in the ages of 18-24. Theres nothing wrong with it. Every guy that I have dated in that age group was a great person and never forced me to do anything ever.


Personally, I think i'm attracted to the older guys because I have more of the similar lifestyle they do.


I think that if the 2 people really genually like eachother it shouldn't matter what their ages are. If you get along and treat eachother right then go for it babe! Guys that age are fun to hang out with, I know I wouldn't trade the ones I hang out with for the world.
Believe me, you are not the only one. My husband is 24 years older than me. I've always liked older guys too. When I was 16 my bf was 21. My advice.. If you like older guys, it could be a plus. They are more mature. It would suck if you liked guys your age. Usually they just want to get in ur pants and party. Hah.. Anyway, now the married man! Honey, that is a completely different issue. STAY AWAY from married men. No matter what their age is.. However, if u like older men, go with it. It's great to know what you like. That is a blessing. As for the statutory rape thing.. Date someone undercover.. don't tell a soul what u do sexually.. till your legal that is.. Have Fun!
well usually girls like boys that are older, but i don't think you should get wioth a guy that is married cause you won't be his priority...probably he'll have sex with you and that's what you'll get from him.


find a guy that is older and that isn't married. that's my advice :)


good luck!
you're not the only one - I was the same way. I decided to date someone my own age though. I am now married to someone older- he's 10 years older but I waited till college to explore the older guy thing.
im sure you are not the only one but by dating these guys they can get into tons of trouble there whole life could be ruined you are underage and you are protected by your parents and by the law. start looking somewhere else your causing trouble.
i doubt you the only one.... but all you could really do for now is not date, its way too risky....


but why do you prefer older men? bc of their maturity? surely you can find a guy one or two years older then you are that is mature for his age etc....


but also, you should be very carefull with older gys bc they could easily take advantage of you


gd luck all the best
You're nowhere near the only one.





And depending what state you live in, you might be above the age of consent already.
girl, you are dangerous for these guys. Don't you know that they are just lookin for a ****? Why would you want to risk getting them in trouble with the law? And why would you want to put yourself through that kind of heart ache? Stick with guys your own age and better yet...stick with your girlfriends, finish school and make something good of yourself. Good Luck
Girl stick with guys around your own age, they will take advantage of you and that isn't what you or any girl wants. Come on what does a girl your age need with someone in their 20's
Im just like that but i prefer guys that are only 3 to 4 years older than me nothing over 21 for now. why don't you look for a guy that's 19 or something.
You're definitely not the only one! I'm the same way. Don't feel bad about it. It's nothing to be ashamed of. That's just the way it is. Although, be careful. Don't mess with married men!
I like older men to, but wait until you are 18 before you start dating those older men. You would hate for them to be imprisoned by messing around with a minor. The best thing is to wait. Find some one in your age range for now.





I promise it is what is best for you and potential jail bait.
Why does the word ';date'; mean sex? And you mean statutory. It doesnt matter if you ARE the only one.. or if you are not. Who do you think you are to think about getting some poor guy to go to jail just because you ';dated'; him. Give the boys a break gurl! Stop f.... around ..find something else thats NICE to do. If he is flirting with you tell your mom or dad and they will take care of it for you IF they are good parents. By the way , since you think you are such a lil hotty, you might want to try to dress like you ARE a nice gurl instead of some lil trashy person who does not care who gets hurt..not even herself or a baby of you should get preggers. If you are that willing to break up marriages or other peoples lives or whatever, then maybe you ought to think about how you and your dad do or do not get along. Gurls with daddys who love them and honor their moms do not have daughters that act like you. Think about it. Find some other way to get and give the affection you crave little gurl. Do not wreck other people . Oh..and by the way.. dating does not mean sex.
Liking older guys is not necessarily a problem. Liking married men is. You can date older men, you just can't have sex with them. As you become older, dating men older than yourself will become less of a problem.
its fine age is nothing but a number, i mean im 16 and my boyfriend is 21 dont feel bad youre not the only one. like the only way they can get in trouble for rape is they have sex with you and someone finds out and decides to be a ***** about it and reports it. but its fine though youre not the only one.
You are not alone.





But no married guys please!!! This can only end in heartbrake.
im generally the same way,


and i know what you mean


becuase of feeling that way i feel like i am/and also others would think im a dirty whore


im also 16 go figure


but you cant help who you like


just like gays can't


older guys is what your more drawn to for some reason and thats okay


as long as you dont go for guys around your dads age or older your good


and if you cant wait to have sex with them


then noone has to find out,


its not like you'd go around telling everyone %26gt;.%26gt; %26lt;.%26lt; %26gt;.%26gt;


and how would the charges be proven with no proof of such actions ever happening.*?


you should DEFFINATLEY stay away from married guys though


even if he's the only one right now and you like it


it IS wrong becuase hes married and even worse if he has children of his own


all youll end up doing is breaking up a family


and hurting EVERYONE in it


i dont think you need to go through something like that,


and they dont deserve to either..





you ever want to talk or anything jus email me or add my msn at





penguinlove.17at hotmail


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Ur not the only one. I use to be like dat too. My first bf was when i was 12 or 13 and my bf was 19.I'm 18 now and my bf is 24. It'z natural 4 gurlz to wanna date older guyz.

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