I need some serious advice.. Men speak Up!! lol?

I have been on this site for days, no one will answer my ?


Cant seem to let go? Did he move on?


Ok , so this would have been the last thing that i would have ever thought of doing.. Discussing my issues with strangers or online.lol. Need serious advice though..Friends, proffesionals, time and even meditations are not working!! Heres the story.. I make it quick, I dated this guy for about 3 years now, fell madly in love as we both were , but from the beginning things started gettin rocky. I am a model, college grad, lots of friends, and he made me stop all of that because he said i was too friendly. I sacrifised everything for him. Then things became physical, very pyshical and we kept breaking up on and off but he'd call me every other week n we would still see n be intimate. I recently moved wanting a new start 6 months ago but let him back in. In my new apt 4 months ago he decided to get pyshical again n i called the police. Long story short, we couldnt see each other till court, he promised if i dropped everything which i did he'd work us out again. After court was over, and everything went in his favor becuase of me, he only called me once for sex. I told him please call for lunch or dinner not a booty call. I havent heard from him in 2 months now, last he said was please move on, we are not compatible, and i need to let u go. I cant move on though, i cant focus at work or be thankful for anything good i have, nothing is helping. Has he met someone new? Will he miss me? What is going on. I took him back after all his abuse. Im a beautfiul young indepent women.. What should I do.. He also stated in our last conversation when i told him ive been waiting all summer after court for him n not even met anyone that i was a liar and probably out doing me and dating. I feel like he doesnt even know me. I have been faithful from day 1 even now 2 months later.. What do i do to move onor get him back??I need some serious advice.. Men speak Up!! lol?
Ok ... I'm speaking up ... so listen up..





Yes he will miss you .. and the great sex you both enjoyed....





No .. you shouldn't let him back in to your life .. he has control and jealousy issues ... (that's why he had you break your ties) ....





Find a guy who has a bit more life experience, who knows how to treat a lady.... a person who is really into you ... not just for sex, but really wants you to finish your education, be social, be you friend and lover.





They are out there ... not all fall from the GQ Cover .... never judge the content by the wrapper.





Good Luck, I hope you find a real man and not another boy pretender.I need some serious advice.. Men speak Up!! lol?
There are all kinds of books out there on abuse. Something is going on with you that you are willing to subject yourself to abuse.





Even pretty girls have self esteem issues. Do some reading, get some help. BEFORE you get hurt.
You need to seriously move on. If you cannot see the cycle by now, I'm afraid you never will. Either get enough guts/smarts to move on now or be doomed to repeat this all over time and time again until something catastrophic happens.

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Ex boyfriend advice- MEN ages 30-40 HELP ME!!!?

I need some serious advice and insight-


My ex and I have been having fights lately. His father has stage 4 lung cancer and it's gotten progressively worse. J, my boyfriend, is in a state of despression, self-reflection (he has some issues within himself he wants to work out), and intense stress. We have ';broken up'; but, we talk every day and after we have huge blow-outs...we admit that we love and care for each other. We also continue to express that we miss each other and feel like we have lost our best friend. We are in contact constantly and care about what's going on in the others lives.


WHAT IS GOING ON???





Is this person keeping me in his life because he loves me and wants us to work out? Do you think he feels weak as a man right now and just needs time to sort his **** out before he can try and focus on our relationship again? This is a good man, who is 38- not looking to play games and waste time. We are both staying faithful to the other eventhough we are not technically ';together';. How do I interpret his love and continuing to reach out and engage in my life? Does he just need time to get strong again and get a grip on his issues and dealing with his father dying?


We wanted to get married and have a family. Something we were very open and honest about. Should I hold onto faith that this will work itself out since there is so much love? Should I give him space to resolve his stress and issues and trust he will come back since he hasn't really done anything to PROVE that he wants to lose me?


Thanks!





TEx boyfriend advice- MEN ages 30-40 HELP ME!!!?
Dear Mookie 41,





I posed this question to my 44 year old male friend. If your boyfriend's father is dying, the absolute best thing you can do is give him space.





There are a great deal of emotional issues (especially with men) that need to be brought to closure before the departure of the loved one. Without satisfying this to any degree, any other relationship you hope to rekindle with him is doomed.





It may not be what you want to hear at this time, but it is the absolute truth.





The next time you talk to your beau, ask him about his favorite memory with his father. When he shares it, ask him if he has ever shared that story with his own father.





It is the most selfless thing you can do for him -- and you will be the one he will show gratitude to down the road for helping him deal with one of the toughest times in his life.

This is for those in the US Army.especially married service men/women..Advice?

Ok.





I am from Australia. Soon, i will be filing for an adjustment of status to US resident..then of course..the waiting game..the.. i will have my greencard.





My wife and i have been talking and i was thinking of joining the Army after i receive residency status. Most of my life i spent driving forklifts and working in a storage environment.





What are your experiences with the US Army? Would there be..say..room for people like me?This is for those in the US Army.especially married service men/women..Advice?
There's room for anyone in good shape. I was in recently but was medically discharged before I could go to Iraq unfortunately.





First of all, when you talk to the recruiter, ask him about something called the ';trail blazer'; during basic training. They change the name occasionally. It basically involves being able to max out the AIT PT test at day 1. You want to do that.





Since you're married, you'll probably want to get a non-combat MOS. (Although I took a combat MOS because I'm married) Try for something along the lines of supply clerk, mechanic, or something of the like. Don't worry if you aren't trained, they'll teach you everything. Mortician is a messy and unpleasant job, but if you can handle, it usually has a great signing bonus. DO NOT GO 88M! Those are truck drivers. They have the highest mortality rate in Iraq and they need everyone they can get. It sound good and easy, but it's not cool.





Signing bonuses are paid after AIT, as much as 6 months later depending on the MOS. Married people should stay away from counter intelligence since that could keep you away 10 months out of the year, but it's my number one suggestion for single people.





Just so you know, Basic Training is all about messing with your mind. When you get on base, just turn your personality off for about 3 or 4 months.





Injuries in the Army. The Army is mean on this one. If you get injured during anytime you get handed your orders and taken to the airport and the end of AIT, THEY WILL TRY to pass it off as a prior injury, no matter how stupid. I saw guys getting general discharge on collapsed arches. Not a pleasant thing, but I did see an honorable on a hernia.





Well, the first few months are hell, after that, it's sweet. It's good job, you're taken care of, and if you learn well, you have plenty of potential. If you go to Iraq, you can still get free college there. And you should take every opportunity for college credits possible. A degree means eligibility for officer training and a good position in the army.





And finally, make sure you fill out the paper work correctly. Take your time, especially when calculating income. Being married, I made more than the lieutenant as a PVT.





It's a good life, but it is the Army and the Army is about war. For some reason a bunch of kids these days forget that when they sign the papers. They think about travel and college and easy money and forget that it's about fighting.





Well, I encourage it and wish you luck.This is for those in the US Army.especially married service men/women..Advice?
if you are young guy yes.
i am in the army now





if you join, keep in mind you WILL deploy, and you will be seperated from your family.......





there are benifits though, you AND your family get really good health care the pay is a little light but they make up for it in housing alowence, and other benifits.





as far as ';some one like you'; joining, i used to work in a whare house, a lumber mill and a whole slew of factories as a laborer, mindless work.





now i'm trained in a job which i use my brain about 95% more than my brawn .





you can join, study for the ASVAB test it is what they use to see what you are qualafied for.
Do everything legally, and you'll do just fine. I know several people who have come from Africa, Asia, South America, and Europe and went right into the U.S. military. It's a great thing that our country does by making it easy to serve, and you're rewarded very well. It makes getting your citizenship a bit smoother, as well.





Keep in mind, though, that there's a war. Chances are that you'll be going to Iraq, *especially* if you become a medic or something along those lines. Well, you're looking at the Army. No matter what you decide to do, you'll probably end up in Iraq. Of course, if you support the war, you may be willing to go...but many people I know don't and they dislike it. That, and you'll be seperated from family and home.





Then again, there are so many benefits. I've literally seen the world thanks to the Air Force, and I couldn't ask for more.





If it's your dream, don't let Iraq stand in the way.
My experience is with the US Air Force, 22 years active and currently retired.





I can't recall any assignment, or any base where a good material handler wasn't a valuable commodity. If you are looking for something else, just talk with recruiter.





Good Luck
The prospects for enlistment are very good... Contact an Army recruiter and talk (YOU DONT HAVE TO SIGN UP THEN) and see what your options are.
I have been in the military and it was probably the best thing I ever did for myself. No matter your qualifications they will train you to do something.





Good luck and I think it's a good idea.
I agree with Charlie. You probably will be deployed. Try something medical. X-ray tech, lab tech, medic: something that can be used on the outside. I was in the military for 7 years. It was a good experience, but I was single at the time. good luck
I was think you might be too old. I thought they limit was twenty seven, but its more like 34-35 and now there is talk about raising to 42.
There's plenty of room in the army. The age limit is currently 40, and you can get an accelerated citizenship.
WELL AS LONG AS YOU ARE A LEGAL CITIZEN YOU SHOULD BE FINE. I AM NOT IN THE ARMY BUT I AM IN THE AIR FORCE. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO OR DON'T HOW TO DO THEY WILL TRAIN YOU FOR YOUR JOB. BUT KNOWING HOW TO DRIVE A FORKLIFT MAY HELP A LITTLE. I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK BECAUSE WE NEED MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT ARE WILLING TO JOIN THE SERVICE OUT OF FREE WILL AND I THINK YOU WILL LIKE IT.

Men.. sex advice please. as many answers as possible!?

when having sex or going down on a man should you slow down, stop, go faster, stay at the same pace ect.. when he c*ms? i never really no what to do at that point and when your with someone who doesnt comunicate that well it can be a little tricky.. any tips advice welcome. thanks! and i would rather not have advice like get him to comunicate..Men.. sex advice please. as many answers as possible!?
For sex:


My guy normally pulls out when he cums. But we have gone after he does, and when I'm on top, I go kinda fast and hard. But when hes on top and he cums, he goes a little slower because he doesn't want the condom to break.Men.. sex advice please. as many answers as possible!?
When he finishes, it is usually best to slow down to give him a chance to recharge. It is best if you could get him to communicate, but if he will not, then I would just slow down once you know that he is completely done.





Even though he may tell you fast is better, you may find that going slow is still better if you do go slow the whole time. He may not admit it right off the bat though.





You just need to go with the flow, but when he is done, go slow, and see if you can get him to go again. He should be more than happy to take care of you though also.
put it in as deep as you can, move your tongue alot...alot of suction but makes sure you ease up as it subsides...or youll make him jump....swallow, or take it on your face...(dead serious)
Sorry I'm a girl, but I can tell you that my hubby likes a combo of slow, fast, teasing, etc.
Read his body language! Tune in to it and you will be able to tell what he likes.

Men, your advice please?

During a girl's first time, is there anything she can do to make it easier for both people, especially if the guy is already experienced? Any tips are appreciated.





Thank you.Men, your advice please?
make sure hes gonna stop if u want him to it can hurt sometimes.. however it might not.. you also need to be sure if ur uncomfortable with it that he will stop.. you need to give him lots of notice not two seconds b4 he comes..





good luck =)Men, your advice please?
i'm a virgin.. but all in all i know that you should be honest about how you feel throughout process and definitely use protection
make sure he is the right one. How old are you?
be honest and say if it hurts and just let the guy lead if he has experiance you should be ok with him leading
Take your time over it and don't do it if your not ready to. If he's already had experience then he'll know what he's doing so to a certain extent you can let him lead but don't just leave him hold him and ake sure he's appreciated so affection is always good. If it hurts then tell him don't be afraid of that make sure he's aware it's your first time and it shouldn't be rushed, that may cause pain just let him do it slowly and you'll be fine. Most of all enjoy it!

Any advice men? Is he genuine?

i am in a dead end relationship that has been on the rocks for about a year, we split up for 5m last year %26amp; got back together to try again but its only got worse. Thn October last year i met a man in the place i work who i assumed was a bit of a player but i was really attracted to him and we got on great. He spent 2months tryin 2get my number even tho he new i had a bf %26amp; i gave in n we started txtin/talking/seeing eachother all the time.Daily.The chemistry is amazing, we have the same tastes, we're comfortable around eachother. He has opened up to me about his past, i've met his mates %26amp; he wants me to meet his sis.I think we both thought it was just harmless fun in the beginning but we've both developed strong feelings for eachother even though we've just been 'dating' since November and haven't slept together and he say's he is prepared to wait as long as it takes. Last week he told me he was fallin in love with me and since then has become much more bothered by the fact i have a bfAny advice men? Is he genuine?
I would come out and have a direct talk with this new guy and tell him exactly what your concerns are. And if he really is willing to wait is he willing then to get a place for you to move in with him, is he willing to get you an engagement ring... I would ask those hard questions before ending your marriage not matter at what state that marriage is inAny advice men? Is he genuine?
A player obviously knows how to charm women, otherwise how can he be a player?





If you really want him THAT badly, go for it. Even if you ended up getting conned, it's not so bad. It's not as if you'll lose a pound of flesh
There is no way to know for certain if he is genuine, but if he wants you to break up with your boyfriend you at least know that he wants you 24/7 and not just for some side lovin' with no strings.





(Unless the only way he can get any lovin' is when you are without your old guy, then it could be an elaborate game, especially if he has other females taking care of him while he waits for U)





With this guy, though, understand you are not just dating him. He has a little solar system of people around him like and ex wive, kids, ex-grandparents, etc that are going to be part of the equation, no matter what.





If you do not mind his extra luggage, give it a shot.





In reality, though, you have decided to jump for the first bloke that popped up with a wink and a smile, that looked better than the winner you had.





Might want to look around a bit and see what other men are out there.
He sounds like a winner to me, if he was a player he would have already moved on because you have not given him sex. It's time to dump your ex and move on to greener pastures. I met my wife at work and we were both in loveless marriages at the time. So give this relationship a try. Good luck

Meeting men -- eye contact advice for a shy girl?

ok. i am 34, single and attractive.. BUT i am SHY. i've decided that having better eye contact will increase my chances of meeting men. so... how do i practice eye contact when i've spent my entire life NOT looking at strangers? (i've done very well with practicing ALOOF and MYSTERIOUS!).





even when i'm walking down the street, i should be making eye contact with cute men. any TIPS for a shy girl on how to do this -- when it terrifies me? thanks...Meeting men -- eye contact advice for a shy girl?
Well if you really want to look someone in the eye, you should. Break out of your shell and take some kind of chance. It'll feel weird, but it'll get better, and you'll be more used to it the more and more you do it. Try small things at first. When you go to the store, look people in the eyes that're shopping just like you are. You'll eventually get over your fear.


:)

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I'm a newbie when it comes to being a sales man...any advice from those who are experienced?

I was laid off from my previous occupation which was a graphic designer. I decided to take a different path working inside sales for cell phones.. I'm good and always felt I was a natural at sales, but I want to only improve.. For those who have been in sales for a while please give me tips on your success..!!!! PLEASE!I'm a newbie when it comes to being a sales man...any advice from those who are experienced?
read as much as you can


anything by Gitomer is great


For inside sales I think John Lawhon's book Selling Retail volume 1 and 2 is fantastic. It's geared around furniture, but you could learn a lot from it.I'm a newbie when it comes to being a sales man...any advice from those who are experienced?
I agree with the second answer but I must add you will probably find that your customers most likely know what they want already and are just shopping for the best price. You can buy cell phones everywhere.





I do have one thought that has nothing to do with your question. Read my profile and if interested contact me.
Never argue with a customer.


( on a side note, if you love graphic designing, keep your hand in it, we need more artists^_^)


by the way, check this place out:


http://www.cgsociety.org/
Be honest, sincere and believe in what your'e selling.
justsell.com


salespower.com


salesresources.com


zigziglar.com
Well...this site could help you...








http://www.availablesalesjob.com/

Does anyone know a shop that sells tights for men? Or will happily offer size advice for a man?

Ideally in or around London! I have tried M %26amp; S but they just run a mile or ignore me when I ask.Does anyone know a shop that sells tights for men? Or will happily offer size advice for a man?
Tesco, ASDA, Morrisons, John Lewis, Boots, Super Drug, TK-Maxx, Somerfeild.





Why are you asking in the shop ? Just look on the packets for the size you want. I am 6Ft.2 tall, and I wear an ASDA M/L John Lewis XL, Sommerfield L/XL All the packets have the size on.


There's no special tights made for men, the reason the shop assistanst leg it is, by asking, you're making yourself look a bit creepy (like you want to talk to them about it to gratify yourself). No offence meant... Please don't take any.





Also.... Silkies do hosiery by mail order, and eBay.... Ohhhh eBay !!!!Does anyone know a shop that sells tights for men? Or will happily offer size advice for a man?
Try ballet suppliers, fancy dress shops or shops for the bigger lady perhaps
What's the problem?





Usually one size fits all





Are you an unusual size or something?
might sound stupid but ask in a fancy dress shop. lol





or try using long johns,





or try looking on ebay.
The only one I know is 'Fredericks of Hollywood' but in the UK you have to buy online. You could try contacting them via email for advice though xx
try your local costume store maybe..is this for drag?
One size fits all never fits me. Try a ballet/dance shop, they always had my size when I used to dance.
there are some shops in covent garden but you cen buy them at ';Porselli'; on the internet and they have a shop just off Charring Cross Road, and ';Dancier'; in Drury Lane near where it joins the London Road , near the New London Theater in Covent Garden. these are for dancers or theatrical tights.


not going to ask why you want them!
Hi, I don't know if the store Long Tall Sally still exists, but if it does, you might find tights designed for taller people fit you better.
Any type will fit the male body .... Just buy woman's tights /stockings .etc..... No shop will turn down your cash ..DON'T tell them they are for you ..... just pick them up ...go to the till ....pay YOUR MONEY ... and walk out.....God iv brought 1000's over many years.... Plus many more fem items ....skits / dresses / underwear..etc..... Just be yourself next time....Don't tell them what they don't need to know...


Good luck


kim


xx
lol

Capricorn men...what advice for a Libra woman on dating a ';Sea Goat';?

what the heck is a seagoat? Date one like you would any other sign.

HELP - please -men and women- advice from experience

Please read everyone and tell me what you think! thanks!


i wrote about a man that refuses to plan ahead at all. i talked to him about it nicely for a compromise.thinking we could talk and come to a decision to make us both happy. she said men that make plans ahead or just whipped or a sissy. he told me i asked you to go to a wedding ahead of time. he said you should take that as a compliment bc i wont take just anybody. some women wouldnt deserve to go with me. is he is just fool of hisself? he is 31 and i dont think anyone should be talking that way? what do you think?





HELP - please -men and women- advice from experience
He is irresponsible, inconsiderate, and a bragger. I don't know what ';fool of hisself'; means, but I do think he is the kind of person I would dislike. I hope you don't like him! I also hope you don't think you can use reason and compromise with someone like this.HELP - please -men and women- advice from experience
Planning ahead for anything is always a good thing. In relationships and marriage things come up you cannot plan for. Face it. You are bringing together two distinct personalities with each of them with their own habits,plans for their own life etc.. All of this should be considered . You must agree or make allowances for each other. If before the wedding takes place you cannot come to an understanding about an issue that either of you may be passionate about; then you may consider if a wedding should take place at all.
You answered your own question. He is full of himself.
you're right! sounds like he's too into himself!
i think u just answered your question. moving on...

Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?

Ok. I have a very much ex girlfriend (10 yrs ago) who has just invited me and my brother to a get together that she's organizing for her husband and sister. It's their B-days coming up and they decided to celebrate them on the same day...3 days from now.





I'm pretty sure the husband knows who I am (I only met him once 10 yrs ago, and he knows my bro'), I've already talked it over with friends and we've developed a few theories: 1) He doesn't know who I am (doubtful)....2) He does but, doesn't care....3) He doesn't know I'm coming...4)This whole thing is the ex-GF's idea and once I get there...it's gonna be interesting...and 5) I'm just looking too much into this (most likely one)





Everyone involved is hispanic, I'll have to drive 6 hrs to get there and will also take the opportunity to see other friends in the area, among other things. I mention the hispanic thing 'cause...well, you'll know if you're latino or know latin men.





I'll ask her if it's ok for me to go...just a friendly question. So, fellas, what do you think? Thoughts?





Ladies, I'm making too much of this, aren't I?Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?
only go if you're comfortable with it. it sounds like she is.Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?
I would say its no big thing. If she has asked you and your brother, and the guy doesn't even know you, she is probably just trying to beef up the numbers....maybe it is a milestone birthday or something. If you are going to kill a couple birds with this one stone and visit other friends as well, I would say just make an appearance at the gathering, be sociable, then leave. Be the classy one, and look over the past.
It'd be too weird for me.


I wouldn't go.


Ex's are that for a reason.


The past is the past.


That's just me.
Don't waste your time. I'm a girl, and I think it would look pathetic for you to make all that effort for an ex.
if i were you, i'd go. Just to respond to the invitation but I wouldn't stay too long, i'd just make a quick appearance, like if it's 7h to X, i'd arrived around 8h30 and leave around 9h45 or 10h. Just because i'm a curious person and i'd really want to know how the night will evolves. But then again, it's a 6h drive from home....That girl must really want to see you, plus are the husband and sister your friends or just acquaintance??? Why invite you if you have nothing to do with these ppl. That's a curious invite and i'd really want to know what would come out of this. Never the less, be always prepared to be disappointed. what if the girl don't even acknowledge you during the party? or ignores you or tries to torture you with her new life and just wanted you there so you can see what perfect couple her and her husband are or stuff like that....
well it could be she just wants to show off a bit, kinda like, see what your missing buddy,or it could be that she still likes you as a person and wants u there, who knows, but don't bring a date, would be to much drama in one place. Just make sure if u go, that u don't act like an ***, having a bitter x is worst then having an unhappy girlfriend.
they talked about this sort of on my morning show.


yes your making to much of this but for a good reason!


youdon't want to drive 6 hours to feel well not wanted.


if your already feeling all this emotion maybe it's best you send a card on your behalf.





if you go there to say i'm the ex yeah look at me then don't go. ify your going because it's someones birthday then i don't see why the ex even needs to be brought up. I say make it easier on yourself do what's easier for you!
Ten years ago? Yep, you're reading too much into it. It sounds as though you expect the husband to be jealous. I suppose it's possible...but there is some likelihood that he doesn't know the extent of your former relationship with his wife, or so much time has passed that he doesn't consider it to be significant.





It's a little odd to receive an invitation after so long to a party being held for someone you don't really know, but as you say, you will know other old friends there and it could be a fun event.





...Or perhaps your suspicions are right. She's still in love with you, she's invited you to the party in hope of rekindling your old romance, and she plans to spring the whole thing on her husband in the middle of his party, and run away into the sunset with you! :)
It doesn't sound like you are close to her. How often have you guys talked over the last 10 years?





To me any relationship that is that old is not ';interesting';. It's been so long you are just friends. I'm sure her husband knows who you are but it's so old news he doesn't care--latino or not. He can't know you are coming though so #3 is a definite. After all you don't even know if you are going yet. I do think you are looking too much into it. I'm going to be 10 yr reunion this year and it's made me think of some of those First Kiss, First Date guys. The thought of any of them having the ability to make my husband jealous is just laughable.





However would you normally drive 6 hours for a little get together? I wouldn't. That's ridiculously far.





If you are close to this ex girlfriend go if you want. But don't read anything out of it. She just wants a good turnout for her party. I know I got together not too long ago with a guy I knew in high school. My husband told me to go. I told him all about it when I got back. If you think you will have an enjoyable time, why not go? It's just a get together though and at least your brother will be there so you will know someone there.





But if you aren't close to her or your brother doesn't want to go, I won't drive that far just for a backyard barbecue. But don't worry about the ex reading too much into it.

Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?

Ok. I have a very much ex girlfriend (10 yrs ago) who has just invited me and my brother to a get together that she's organizing for her husband and sister. It's their B-days coming up and they decided to celebrate them on the same day...3 days from now.





I'm pretty sure the husband knows who I am (I only met him once 10 yrs ago, and he knows my bro'), I've already talked it over with friends and we've developed a few theories: 1) He doesn't know who I am (doubtful)....2) He does but, doesn't care....3) He doesn't know I'm coming...4)This whole thing is the ex-GF's idea and once I get there...it's gonna be interesting...and 5) I'm just looking too much into this (most likely one)





Everyone involved is hispanic, I'll have to drive 6 hrs to get there and will also take the opportunity to see other friends in the area, among other things. I mention the hispanic thing 'cause...well, you'll know if you're latino or know latin men.





I'll ask her if it's ok for me to go...just a friendly question. So, fellas, what do you think? Thoughts?





Ladies, I'm making too much of this, aren't I?Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?
Yes, you are making too much out of it. I doubt she is sitting up at night worrying about it. HOWEVER, I am not sure if its worth your time, kind of like a step back and for what? At the end of the day you will have an empty tank of gas and nothing to look forward to.Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?
I think you're overthinking this. You dated a lifetime ago, you have some common friends, you've been somewhat in touch, you were invited to a party along with (I'm sure) a couple of dozen other people. It's not that big a deal. If you're uncomfortable, that's a different story - you don't have to go. But I don't see anything sinister here.
My question is.. Why are you being invited to a party out of the blue after 10 years?





It's not normal for ex-boyfriends from 10 years ago to be invited to a special party for the husband if they don't have an ongoing relationship of some sort. This is the wierdest thing I've ever heard.





Why would you want to go to a party for someone you don't know?
well unless u 2 have kept in close contact u r not a threat to her husband and it wont matter to him if he knows of you or not... and for the ex GF you may know her best...if you think she is plotting go with your gut instinct...either way if you go, take the chance to enjoy your time for you and dont get caught up in too much drama!!! hope you have a great time!!!
Why would you ask her if it' salright for you to go? She invited you so yes, it's alright. You are reading way more into this than you need to. It was 10yrs ago, everyone is over it but you. Move along. Go to the party, enjoy seeing old friends and leave it as that!





~aj
Why are you living in the past? You need a life now in 2009. Forget the get together and get off the facebook crap. Meet some new folks and gee wizz move on already.
I think its odd that you are being invited to a party after 10 years.


I would definitely bring a friend along just in case.


Good luck.
5) She's just catching up and wants to know how you are doing.


She wants it to be a big party and so she's inviting lots of people.
Dude are you pendejo? No vayas a la fiesta porque te van a dar un putaso. I wouldn't go to this party bro. En serio!
6 hr drive? that alone would keep me away. don't go to it - not worth it i'm sure.
Go, have a good time! It'll be fine.
I'd have to advise skipping it. What if something happens and the whole party is ruined?
Yes, you are! Just go and have a good time!!
I'll bet on number 4 ;o) lol
whoa buddy you are making way too much of this just go and be casual

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Women! I need your advice (men can answer too)?

I always say I never meet any girls, and I used to think it was because I was shy, but now have realized that's not it. I never go anywhere where I could meet new girls. I only have one good friend I hang out with, and we either hang out at our houses, or go places where you couldn't meet women. He won't go with me anywhere to meet women, and frankly I don't know where I would. So, where can I go to meet women (good girls, I don't like promiscuous girls)? I am getting lonely, and would like to get out of my regular routine to meet a girl, but don't know where to go or when. So any advice is appreciated! (I cant meet girls at school because I go to a one-on-one music school. I am 20 btw)Women! I need your advice (men can answer too)?
Try online, ballgames, church functions, check your town's social calendar in the paper. Get out to some social functions, parties, ect...





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I would be looking to become,a church member,part of their young adults group,where possibly your music education would be a benefit.They also have dinner nites,movie nites,picnics usually on Saturdays of course.Be great for you.I would also question your friend on why he wont move from his comfort zone,make sure you arent his zone.Your one on one school,will make you more appreciative of what your life can be.Girls are fun but treat them right.they make the world not a bad place.
awww that is soo sweet...I think you should go to the nearest Christian University because there are the best find there, or Church, or a shopping center on a Sat. evening....good girls are out shopping or in Church singing on the weekend not clubbing or partying...also don't be shy to approach them- be confident :-] Good Luck!
There are often college age groups thru churches for your age and you don't even have to go to the church. They try to make places for people your age to enjoy and have social lives without getting into the bad stuff, you might want to check it out. Good luck.
The mall, church, ballgames, concerts (the kind of girl will depend on the kind of concert it is, lol), ummm that's about all I can think of.
Maybe convince your friend to go to the park and play some ball. You may see a cute girl jogging by. Super market, laundromat, mall, coffee shop, places like that. It'll happen when you least expect it.
dont laugh. but a lot of early aged women hang out @ starbucks. theres one by my house and i ALWAYS see women in there.

What鈥檚 your advice to gay men who get married?

Married to a woman.What鈥檚 your advice to gay men who get married?
I don't think there is much to say if the marriage has already taken place!





If it hasn't then I think your only choice is to come out to her and call it off.





It makes no sense to marry someone to keep up appearances.





It may be hard to call of the wedding...but it's better to do it now rather than wait and have to divorce or annul later. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for her, she deserves someone who can love her fully.





Hope that helps





MatthewWhat鈥檚 your advice to gay men who get married?
seek God

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Before or after the fact ?





Anyway, unless the guy was a very close friend and he solicited my advice, I wouldn't give any. There are so many deep, personal reasons why some men choose to keep their homosexuality a secret and go on to marry and have a family. It's not my place to judge or even give ';advice'; except perhaps ';do what you need to do'; .





Cheers.
In the first place if you are Gay you should not get married to a woman. You are heading for certain disaster. Sooner or later trouble is going to start. Most important is not to bring any children into the situation. when trouble starts, and it will, the child is in the middle of the whole mess. Everyone involved suffers for a long time to come. I know, been there and done that.
Honey if you want to marry a women and she knows your Gay,,,go for it..but..if you are pretending to be straight....STOP!! I am old enough to remember gay men doing this a lot and its never pretty...I feel so bad for these women who are used for this purpose..its totally disgusting and wrong but men had to do this to save themselves from their family's that used to just throw them away when they knew they were gay....todays world their is no reason for this...come to Massachusetts and marry a man!
Don't do it, it causes alot of unhappiness for everyone involved.
Stop denying who you are and embrace it!
Make sure both parties have a real understanding of what is going on in the marriage.





Marriages of convenience, like arranged marriages, can be ideal solutions to personal issues, but only if the people involved are honest to each other and honest to themselves about what their expectations are.





No relationship based on lies can be truly fulfilling.





Good luck! :-)
Is that called bi-sexual ?
';Dont bring diseases home';
If it makes you happy go for it...and that maybe your not really gay if you feel inlove with a woman?
divorce the woman, tell her why, and GO FER IT!

I really need advice, Men Please answer too!?

I knew a guy about 10 years ago we talked for about two years, i don't know why we stopped taking, i ended up getting married and having 3 children, but i always thought about him, needless to say I found him again and we have been talking. I am in the middle of my divorce and moving. He calls me every 3-4 days and we talk about anything we have been talking for about 2 months now. He told me from the beginning that he wanted to take it slow. Well last night he called and said, He has been thinking about how to say this without hurting my feelings, he just said I need to slow down and not rush things. He knows how I feel about him (I love him). He said He cannot be my whole world but he can be apart of it. He just kept saying I need to slow down and not rush this. He also said I need to figure out what I want and be happy with myself before he could make me happy. Maybe I am thinking to much into to this, but I can't help but think I am going to lose him again. I told Him that I was sorry and I feel like i got a second chance with him and don't want to lose it this time. know that he has been hurt in the past by another girl. I just don't know what to think, am i making more of this than need be? After talking about that we just talked like normal, and finally he told me good night sweet dreams and he will talk to me later, Good Night.I really need advice, Men Please answer too!?
I'd take his advice and figure out what you want first... If you want him and are sure as heck about that then go out and make sure it's what he wants, too.


When some ones in love they normally think too much into it anyways...I really need advice, Men Please answer too!?
he means it when he said slow down ..which is probably the best thing to say ...most guys actually have a difficult time saying that and rush things so trust him on that
well do what he says slow down. if anything this we3ll make him think if he was right by saying that and if indeed he wanted to slow down. go out and have fun let him wait. its even okay not to answer is calls. guys always like the chase.
take his advice and dont rush dont be too obsessive he cafresfor u





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Sounds like he鈥檚 got something else going on a.k.a someone else he鈥檚 interested in too.





Now don鈥檛 take this the wrong way but you come with a little baggage. It鈥檚 very hard for a man to take on 3 kids that aren鈥檛 his. If he鈥檚 telling you to slow down it鈥檚 because your coming on TOO STRONG, men like to be the pursuers- don鈥檛 ever forget that.





If he鈥檚 telling you that you need to be happy with yourself that lets me know that you鈥檝e been complaining or telling him some negative things you鈥檙e going thorough (lay off that) and hes right when he said that you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.





*If a man only calls you every 3 days that鈥檚 game playing if he鈥檚 really interested in you, he鈥檒l call everyday if not every other day. Keep your guard up and pray about it.
I think he's either trying to let you down easy, or he's just afraid of commitment, or a combination of both. He doesn't seem to want to be a part of your life. Being hurt by another person, happens. But the answer is not to pull out of dating all together, and permanently. Let him do the contacting, for a while, if you and he talk, together. The more you tell him that you really love him and want to be part of his life, the more it appears that he will feel pressured and will back away. If he asks, first, if you love him, tell him exactly how you feel. But don't be the one to bring up the subject. You don't want to sound desperate.





I think you should wait until your divorce is final before you start dating again.

Please Look and Advice, men, women, etc...?

Is it shallow of me to enjoy having a boy toy? Anyways... I was just starting to like this guy that I was using, we were using each other really, and he asked me out awhile before but i said no cause I didn't really want to deal with anyone ';owning'; me. Now he's dating other girls and really happy but still wants to use me as before. I want to tell him that I really want more from him cause I reallllllllllly adore this guy. I want to be with him. But is it worth it? What would you do?


Like, what makes it worse is I have other opportunities that I've turned down so I could make him feel like he was the only one. Should I go and get another man toy? Perhaps one I won't fall for? (And any offers? 18 to 20 preferably...)Please Look and Advice, men, women, etc...?
You are asking the YA community if you can be a prostitute?


And then you proposition 18-20 year olds?


The only advice I have is: break the law if you wish! I can not stop an adult, (especially on line), from doing whatever they want.

Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?

Ok. I have a very much ex girlfriend (10 yrs ago) who has just invited me and my brother to a get together that she's organizing for her husband and sister. It's their B-days coming up and they decided to celebrate them on the same day...3 days from now.





I'm pretty sure the husband knows who I am (I only met him once 10 yrs ago, and he knows my bro'), I've already talked it over with friends and we've developed a few theories: 1) He doesn't know who I am (doubtful)....2) He does but, doesn't care....3) He doesn't know I'm coming...4)This whole thing is the ex-GF's idea and once I get there...it's gonna be interesting...and 5) I'm just looking too much into this (most likely one)





Everyone involved is hispanic, I'll have to drive 6 hrs to get there and will also take the opportunity to see other friends in the area, among other things. I mention the hispanic thing 'cause...well, you'll know if you're latino or know latin men.





I'll ask her if it's ok for me to go...just a friendly question. So, fellas, what do you think? Thoughts?





Ladies, I'm making too much of this, aren't I?Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?
if she was trying to hook up with you why would she invite you to such a public event? wouldn't she keep it on the sly? maybe she just wants to see the ';one that got away'; and find out if she's still attracted to you....you never know what people might be thinking deep down ; ]Respectfully request your advice...men and women alike...?
Is your question...';Why were you invited?'; I'd say you're reading too much into it, only if you've remained in touch with both her and her husband...





It's odd that you'd be invited if you haven't seen each other, or heard from each other in 10 years...and I [personally] wouldn't go, if that were the circumstance.
Yepp, she's probably just trying to be friendly, and cause your brother's invited, it would be rude not to invite you along. Since she has a husband, she's obviously indifferent to this entire thing, and probably does not care.
I would not go if I were you, its strange that she would invite you to this. Perhaps her and her husband are having marital problems and she is reverting to her past in order to find someone to have a fling with.
most likely she if you are still talking to her your friends right? This isn't out of the blue, right?





Probably just being friendly.
why would you drive 6 hours to go see her. do something else. if your brother wants to go then fine but i wouldnt
No, I do not think you are making too much of this. You are right to suspect ulterior motives. Unless its a wedding of close friends and family, there has to be a reason.





She might want to see you after all this time, to consider if she made the right choice in marrying. She might want to fix you or your brother up with a friend or family member, maybe playing matchmaker. She might be looking for a extramarital affair. She might want to make her husband notice that other men are interested in her, as her marriage is at an all time low.





It could be any or all of these things or none of them, might be nice to see the old neighbourhood and old friends. Just watch out for the games people play.
This woman invited you to her HUSBAND'S birthday party. For god's sake man, chances are, she doesn't wanna go run off and bang you in a closet or something ';for old time's sake'; and is probably just being nice in inviting you since you'll know a lot of people in the area anyways. It's not like she invited you to a private affair and told you to come alone, yaddamean.





Now if you arrive there and the door is open to slow music and soft lighting and she's sitting scandalously on the couch in nothing but a nightie and a glass of wine in her hand, then you got problems.





And if you are expecting that scenario, then keep dreaming bud ;)
Yeah, you're making too much of it. I feel like I'm listening to one of my girl friends drone on and on about her boring bullsh/t. Grow a pair some time and quit sweating the small stuff.

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I need some advice, men & women please?

IVE HAD FEELINGS FOR MYFRIEND FOR YEARS. ITS THE MAIN REASON MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS HAVE FAILED. I JUST ALWAYS THINK ABOUT HIM. IM SO SHY, ITS PROB NOT EVEN HEALTHY HAHA. SO I DONT EVEN NO WHERE TO START TELLING HIM. IM AFRAID OF HIM, NOT HAVING ANY IN RETURN. HE TEXTS, EMAILS ME ALL DAY LONG, SO HOW CAN HE NOT? IT JUST SEEMSS STRANGE TO ME. IVE SLEPT WITH HIM A FEW TIMES, WHICH IS TOTALLY NOT LIKE ME, BUT I CANT CONTROL MYSELF AROUND HIM. DOES IT SOUND LIKE HE HAS FEELINGS %26amp; HOW CAN I TELL HIM OR SHOW HIM I DO (THE EASIEST WAY POSSIBLE) HAHA





TIAI need some advice, men %26amp; women please?
If he didn't like you he wouldn't text and e-mail so i'd tell him you like him.

Fashion advice: men shirt!?

I would like to give my guy for his birthday a nice elegant shirt for work, but I find all kind of choices and cannot quite decide which one to choose. HELP! here are the choices (Burberry):


- Mini collar shirt


- Cotton shirt


- Fine stripe shirt


- Double cuff stripe shirt


- Fitted shirt


Thank you for the advise!Fashion advice: men shirt!?
Fine Stripe Shirt if he isn't in the best shape


The Fitted Shirt if he is in shapeFashion advice: men shirt!?
how old is he if hes in his 20s i recommend fitted shirt aslong as hes in good shape or a fine stripe shirt possibly a bit more risky and could go WRONG id go for a nice classic fitted shirt if hes young enough for it or if he is 35 or over id say a cotten shirt i whier alot of shirts and thats just my opinion if you get him a shirt and its a fitted one id go for classic colours like blues black maybe some white or red but thats abit edgy hope i helped :)
A nice ';fitted'; button up will work for anything. Fitted shirts are the way to go as they are more form fitting and ';elegant'; looking as a result.
I personally like the fitted shirts. They have a nice lean, athletic look to them.